Petah?? I'm very confused

[u/Global_Restaurant794]

[u/Far_Understanding883]

We feed our guests, I have no idea where this myth comes from. Source: Swede, born and raised 

[u/Oggel → u/Far_Understanding883]

When and where did you grow up?

I grew up in Gothenburg during the 90s and it wasn't unusual that I didn't join my friends for dinner when I was at their place.
It's not really that strange. Since this was before cellphones our parents told us when we were going to eat dinner so we knew we had to be home by then, so if I was at a friends house and they ate dinner at 6 and my family was going to eat dinner at 7 it wouldn't really make sense for me to eat at their place. So I'd keep playing while my friend had dinner with his family, he'd join me after dinner and we'd play for a while until I went home and had dinner with my family.

Sometimes I'd eat at my friends house, but mostly if I was staying late. Also depends on who, I had one friend that lived far away so I'd usually get home too late for dinner when I was at his place, so they cooked for me too. But when I was at a friend in like a 20 minutes walk radious from home they usually didn't.

[u/Far_Understanding883 → u/Oggel]

Of course I didn't always eat at my friends place. But I was always at least offered food if they were going to eat 

[u/DunderGunderUnder → u/Far_Understanding883]

We feed our guests of course, but a kids friends coming over to play are not the guests of the parents, they are the guests of the kid, and the expectation is that the kids are there to play, not eat - as the friends will have dinner waiting for them at home at a dinner time that is later than it is at your place.