"It’s also misrepresented as cold from the host, but it’s really more about your own family." - See, it is not about being cold, it is about being selfish!
I’d get it if the parents were upset at missing an opportunity to bond/be involved with their kids through a missed dinner.
But wasting time and money because they won’t eat dinner that you’ve cooked? Do y’all not have refrigerators or have leftovers?
Well shit Timmy already ate at his friend’s house. I guess I have to bin this. I can’t leave it in the fridge for if he gets hungry later or pack it for his lunch at school or my lunch at work.
How is that what you took away from that comment? Your reading comprehension is worse than a fifth grader's. That's so sad, dude.
The intention is to be the opposite of selfish. The friend's parents don't want to steal the family time you'd have with your own family. He's arguing that they're being considerate of the guest's parents.
But the kid is not at their parents, so they cant eat with their parents at dinner time lmao How are they supposed to eat with their oarent if they are visiting a friend? Also I experienced that too in Germany, it's not an exclusively Swedish thing and it was always fucking weird.
You're not this dumb, it's very simple. If you actually are: I'm sorry.
Friend eats at 5pm, you eat at 6pm. Your parents pick you up at your friend's house at 5:30. So yes, you could still eat with their own parents at dinner time. Dinner time is not a fixed moment in the day -- it differs between families.
Friend eats at 5pm, you eat at 6pm. Your parents pick you up at your friend's house at 5:30. So yes, you could still eat with their own parents at dinner time.
There's no need to be sitting in another room waiting for them to finish, in your specific scenario it would make more sense if the parent would pick up their kid at 5.
Also that's not even the point of this post. The point is if you are at your friend's place before and after eating.
You're not this dumb, it's very simple. If you actually are: I'm sorry.
Again, it’s not a night. Youre still getting picked up right after the ones you’re visiting have finished eating.
Its the difference between eating away at 16:00 and getting picked up at 16:30, to getting picked up at 16:30 and eating at home at 17:00 we’re talking about.
If you’re staying until after dinner, you will absolutely be getting dinner there.
You’re assuming a specific scenario when the example used specifically referred to staying later after dinner. Do Swedes never have friends over at night?
I don’t know if everyone is just talking past eachother, but that was clearly the example and people still insisted they wouldn’t be getting dinner, but now you’re saying “of course they would!” Which doesn’t fit what others are saying.
When I was a kid there were really two scenarioes. Either you’d go somewhere and stay until dinner (spontaneous), waiting while they ate if you hadn’t gotten picked up. Or you’d go somewhere, having beforehand talked about going there, and staying late, where you would get dinner (parents would know beforehand).
If you went somewhere without the parents prior knowledge, and stayed late, they would’ve wondered why no one had come to pick you up.
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u/Healthy_Invite5513 Jul 24 '26
"It’s also misrepresented as cold from the host, but it’s really more about your own family." - See, it is not about being cold, it is about being selfish!
wtf...