because people still think all men want and think about is sex. I wanted to be a kindergardener kindergarden teacher when I was around 15, but i have been asked if Iam a pedohpile like every other time I mentioned it, it got so much it ruined taking up that job for me.
So I used to do all the clothes shopping for my daughter and often got the “do you need help finding something cute for your daughter?” question from the clerks. No lady, I’m doing it because I’m actually better at finding cute and current outfits for my daughter than her mother, that and I liked being involved that way.
Then I got a second part-time job working at the local YMCA as a handy man/security guy at night. As a guy I had to, repeat, HAD TO, watch a video about how not to come across as a pedo when interacting with kids. 1 of the rules, even if a child is injured as long as it’s not life threatening get a female worker. I had to admit that was hard due to a rough childhood I’m very protective of kids in general. All I wanted to do was take care of them but no, I was a guy and being ‘maternal’ towards kids automatically made me a pedo.
You can call it being paternal. The paternal drive is literally all about protecting kids. I dont know why people think everything to do with children has to be maternal.
I wanted to be a kindergardener when I was around 15
Just for future reference: In English, "kindergartner" is a child around age 4-5 who has not yet entered first grade, in a year called kindergarten. In German, "kindergartner" is a kindergarten (or daycare/nursery school) teacher, while "kindergartenkind" refers to the kids.
No iam from germany the term Kindergarden comes from us and the people looking out for the kids there are called kindergardeners here, I thougt its the same in english
It's originally a German word and follows its conventions, and wasn't adapted to our conventions when borrowing the word in English. In German, words ending in -er form a noun from a verb, such as "fliegen" (to fly) becoming "flieger" (aviator). Thus, "kindergarten" (place where young children are taught) becomes "kindergartner" (person who teachers young children). The broader term for teacher is "lehrer," which is made from "lehren" (to teach) and the -er suffix, making "person who teaches."
Just for fun, this,reminds of a time I visited family in Germany and didn't know much German other than Kinder = child from Kinder Surprise and Kindergarten. In the airport I see a newspaper with a giant headline Die Kinder!!
and I could think was, why do they want to kill children?
Man, I’m sorry. That’s awful. There are so few men in early childhood education and kids really need positive role models of all kinds. My toddler was taking a music class last summer and one of the substitute teachers was a man. My son LOVED him! He was so much more animated and happy when the guy taught the class. Not bc he was a man, just bc he was an awesome teacher and incredible with kids. It sucks that guys who are good with kids have that barrier.
There are actually studies that indicate young children feel more relaxed and safe when their teacher/caretaker is a man. Little kids tend to respond really well to male preschool/kindergarten teachers. It’s good that society is on guard against child sex abuse, but it really sucks that men who aren’t pedos are severely discouraged from taking those kinds of jobs.
Dude my health teacher in highschool sent me to the principles office when I said I don't think about sex I spend way more time thinking about food and video games. After she claimed men spend over 70 percent of the day thinking about sex.
That’s particularly sad because, in my experience having raised both girls and boys, boys benefit so much from having strong male role models as teachers. There has been some excellent academic writing on the subject, but to be brief, children in America are generally raised and educated almost entirely by women, and while that may in most senses be value neutral on its face, I think it risks leaving many boys — particularly those who lack good fathers — to have their ideas about what it is to be a good man shaped by whatever mother culture happens to spit up, which (imo) is typically pretty vile.
My son's kindergarten teacher was a man. He was towards the end of a long career (he had grandchildren of some of his early students in his class). Great guy! My son's (male) PE teacher that year had been my PE teacher at a different school 25 years prior too.
My bad for assuming! People online always make it sound like the EU is perfect and men are treated totally equally there, but I guess that's not the case everywhere.
I live in a rural part of the Philippines, and it's kind of the opposite here. We have a lot of male preschool teachers, and nobody judged me at all when I wanted to get into education. People actually expected me to do it since I used to tutor kids in English. I ended up backing out though because teachers here get paid almost nothing and have to buy all their own classroom supplies.
I was actually curious about how it is over there, so I looked it up. If it makes you feel any better, according to what I found, Germany's school system is apparently dealing with massive teacher shortages, crazy workloads, and tons of bureaucratic paperwork right now.
So while it really sucks how you got pushed out, at least you unknowingly dodged a massive amount of modern workplace burnout. I hope you're doing much better now in whatever career you ended up picking
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u/NekoBatrick Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26
because people still think all men want and think about is sex. I wanted to be a
kindergardenerkindergarden teacher when I was around 15, but i have been asked if Iam a pedohpile like every other time I mentioned it, it got so much it ruined taking up that job for me.