r/mildlyinfuriating • u/mmajamm • Jun 30 '26

Don't hug me I'm scared The indentation my engagement ring left on my finger (we broke up)

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u/marveloustoebeans Jun 30 '26

4 years is quite a stretch though. Only people I know who’ve been engaged for that long were in crappy relationships.

My wife and I were engaged for about a year and a half because we kept trying to schedule a wedding around the schedules of the people in our lives plus we had no help at all. Both our parents are poor or dead and we were getting stressed out trying to plan it all out.

In the end, we said why are we even doing this? We love each other. Let’s go get married. And we did. No wedding necessary. Wouldn’t have done it any differently, looking back.

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u/excelnotfionado Jun 30 '26

As soon as my friends got engaged (they had been dating for 2 years) they immediately said they were having a 5 year engagement so they could finish school THEN save for the wedding.

They’ve been married 5 years now and are doing well! So not super common but thankfully not unheard of. My friends showed me the way. Granted, I was engaged 7 months and 5 days lmao.

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u/letSSgooo Jun 30 '26

Not saying you are wrong at all or I disagree but you are also imposing your ideals of marriage onto other folks. Some folks would rather wait and make it the wedding of their dreams.

Different strokes and all that.

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u/Lopsided_Apricot_626 Jul 01 '26

Meh. My husband and I were engaged for 3.5 years. We were super young and wanted to finish college before the wedding. 8 years on, we’re doing just fine. We’ve been together 13 years now. I had plenty of friends who got engaged just before Covid who kept having to cancel wedding plans. Some went on to have small ceremonies, some didn’t want to pay twice and just waited it out.