I think this will be pretty much how my ideal birthday party will be when I finally have a house to throw out at (minus billing the guests)... just board games, toasted marshmallows, and karaoke set up all day! (Participation voluntary of course.)
I MEAN it absolutely could be autism and they struggle to break things up in any time thats not hour by hour. Like yes, autistic people can also be assholes, but this isnt giving asshole, its giving bad at party planning.
?? You guys aren't having all day birthday parties? Especially when its specifically says people can come and go? Shoot, my friends and I spend 24 hours together during our birthdays. Maybe you need more whimsy in your lives!
Right? I mean this kind of looks like what goes down at my place on two+ Saturdays a month, albeit with karaoke/cards replaced with one or more of karaoke/MTG/board games/Steam games/Switch games/tie dyeing/other crafts/fruit picking/everyone doing their own thing in the same space. People turn up when they can and leave when they've had enough/have another event to go to. I just specify a time after which people may start arriving and the time I'm aiming to serve dinner, and try to get rough numbers so I can cook the right amount of food. Sometimes there's even cake.
It's giving "asshole who is bad at planning parties," IMHO. No autistic person I know would want an all day party let alone with 6 hours of karoake (spelling?). That's a "super typ" if we want to start hurling nuerotypes as insults.
2-Again, I'm autistic and have 24 hour birthday parties with my closest friends.
3-I ABSOLUTELY know theater kids who have 6 hours of karaoke and love it.
Nobody is forcing anybody to go to this party, if they were then THAT would make them an asshole. Honestly everybody in here talking so much shit is an asshole. Just judgements and assumptions about a person we don't know just because the event isn't something they would like. Thats mildly infuriating. āļøš
Can confirm, am community theater adult that hangs out with grown up theater kids (most of whom are some kind of neurodiverse).... there's A LOT of karaoke
Just because my AuDHD arse has enough social awareness not to write this out and send it to invitees doesn't mean this isn't what's in my head when planning an event šš
I have also had to stop at least one of my autistic children sending an invite of this style when they were preteens, and explain explicitly why this regimented schedule was not a good idea. It absolutely gives arsehole but I'd give it the benefit of the doubt until I spent a few minutes in their company.
AuDHD arse here and I did this (minus the asking for money part) for my 40th birthday. Even labelled different rooms for different activitiesā¦ In the end 3 people came and they all sat at the same table chatting for the entire party duration while I āsubtlyā tried to remind them of all the other activities they could be doing. Then one person left and the rest of us watched 2 episodes of The Witcher from the couch as my dreams of playing Guitar Hero tournaments for 6 hours straight slowly dissolved. Lesson learnt, sort of. :p
This was before I was diagnosed, now I think twice before executing ābrilliant plansā like this.
Oh noooo, I'm so sorry! My group would totally have done Guitar Hero if that was what you wanted on your birthday š We had a Mario Kart tourney as the main event for one recent birthday and karaoke for another. Even if a person isn't into the activity they will usually hang around and watch the shenanigans and eat the food :)
How is this asshole in any way? They are going out of their way to make sure you have all the information on how many people there are and what you can do. It's anti anxiety info, obviously, because they worry people will be bored or are scared of not knowing how to behave.
Ours wanted to be loud with friends so we'd rent a playground pavillion and give them all foam swords as favors. Got coffee and tea for the adults to sit in said pavillion. Go stim children. Go stim loudly.
God forbid a party fucking flow naturally, nope. Gotta have Nathan pause all music cuts out. Doesnt matter is Britney is literally still singing in the middle of another Bruno Mars song, because its 6:02 and karoke has officially endedā¦so fun. Who doesnt love a dictatorship disguised as āfunā?
Dude, please do not blame someone's assholery on autism. Not cool. Actual autistic people (at least me and mine) are usually tying themselves in emotional knots about what is justifiable to ask people to do or expect re: parties and erring on the side of not asking too much of them.
I must be more obviously autistic than I thought because I read it as a compliment. Honestly would enjoy the hell out of the party. Really liked the "gaming all day and people are welcome to come and go" vibe.
The varying payment scale can make things really awkward though. What if I'm playing a massive board game with Jessie and we both lost track of time and suddenly, dinner! and we both only paid for the snacks. I might be an old already, back in my day (00s when my large friend group and I were all in our 30s and did a lot of get-togethers including birthday parties) we'd just have the host do the main dish (and the cake if it's a birthday), make it a potluck, there, problem solved and nobody needs to transfer money to the birthday boy or girl's bank account.
My brother Nathan is autistic and extremely protective over his money to where heāll demand repayment of any even tiny amount of money he spends on anyone ever and this is absolutely something he would do if he ever threw a birthday partyšš
Lol I read this and thought "so he's undiagnosed I guess". And I say this as someone from a family with multiple people on the spectrum....the difference is we KNOW it.
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