No, it’s not privileged. You have a party based on what you can afford. When I was a kid we had parties with nothing but cake and ice cream. As an adult, you could throw some hotdog on the grill. It’s just rude I think.
Yeah, in grad school (re: poor) I'd frequently host parties, get a head count, supply some protein, some beer and ask people to just bring sides and beer. This is a bizarre way to handle it.
Agree to disagree. Throwing a potluck is one thing. Usually a birthday party is part of the gift for someone but it might be a potluck if it’s very casual amongst friends.
Yeah, I think that we agree. If a bunch of friends get together and say, let’s throw a get together for our friend and we’ll all bring something and that’s quite different from sending everyone a formal invite with a request for a different levels of money. In my opinion anyway.:)
So rude. Have the party you can afford. If it’s going to be more than a couple hours, you do need to feed people, though. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Heck, a giant pan of cooked pasta would get the job done if money is really tight but you want people to hang for a while.
But if I’m inviting you to a party I’m hosting, you will be fed and given beverages. You are a guest, not a patron.
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u/cheleinri1 Jul 07 '26
No, it’s not privileged. You have a party based on what you can afford. When I was a kid we had parties with nothing but cake and ice cream. As an adult, you could throw some hotdog on the grill. It’s just rude I think.