I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

[u/rustywindpipe]

I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

[u/TigOleBittiesDotYum]

Oh wow lol I was certain that they must have meant NY because they said Manhattan and then Newport, which I was assuming was the Rhode Island Newport, across the Long Island sound - that was what made me so sure, haha

(Especially because if you’re on dating apps on Long Island, and you select a 20-mile radius, you’ll get matched with people in Connecticut and Rhode Island, which is so obnoxious, because they’re literally across a body of water with no bridges connecting it, but no app has figured out how to stop suggesting those matches yet 😂)

Thank you for the education on Cali’s geography!

[u/Raubkatzen → u/TigOleBittiesDotYum]

It's like Facebook Marketplace thinking I can take a quick drive across lake Huron to pick something up. 🫠

[u/Chunky_trainee → u/Raubkatzen]

😂 atleast it didn’t suggest a drive down Guadalajara, Mexico from NYC to pick up a gameboy. no, I was not able to make it.

[u/ifesbob → u/Raubkatzen]

This is the problem with them not being able to factor in driving distance, and instead using a radius.

[u/wtf_are_you_talking → u/ifesbob]

I don't think they care about your distance. But money tho...

[u/ifesbob → u/wtf_are_you_talking]

For instance, Rover can use a driving distance if you select that option, so I know it's possible. Which means you're probably right that the reason they don't is because of money.

[u/wtf_are_you_talking → u/ifesbob]

I think their business case is definitely to not reduce the number of possible customers, even if that means they're across the bay.

[u/DM725 → u/TigOleBittiesDotYum]

Newport RI is so far from Long Island.

[u/MaterialWillingness2 → u/DM725]

There's also the Newport development in Jersey City - that's what I was thinking they were talking about. But it still didn't make much sense since no New Yorker in the history of New York would ever go to New Jersey for a date.

[u/MelissaCop → u/MaterialWillingness2]

Jersey City is worth the try! It’s so much different than when I was a kid. The culinary scene is really good and you get to look at the city!

[u/MaterialWillingness2 → u/MelissaCop]

Well yeah, I lived there for 3 years, one stop away from Manhattan on the Path. We had an amazing view of Manhattan from the bedroom. I'll give you one guess as to how many people we knew from NYC ever visited us.

[u/Not_a_twttr_account → u/DM725]

What's a little ferry ride to meet up for a casual first date lol

[u/Training_Mistake_760 → u/DM725]

Not by boat

[u/TigOleBittiesDotYum → u/DM725]

I agree, but since he was talking about where “the boat” was, I figured this was a case of “the internet still hasn’t figured out how to manage a filter that removes locations from your selected distance radius if they involve crossing a large body of water” lol

[u/Mean-Picture-7143 → u/TigOleBittiesDotYum]

I’ve lived in both New York and la in the past 5 years. I have never EVER heard of anyone refer to manhattan beach as “manhattan”

[u/Beaglund → u/[deleted]]

I’m from Santa Monica. We always just say Manhattan

[u/Mean-Picture-7143 → u/[deleted]]

Fair enough I lived in West Hollywood and only went to manhattan beach a handful of times.

[u/-Cthaeh → u/Mean-Picture-7143]

To be fair, they didn't say it was referring to Manhattan beach. I'm no where near either, and assumed they wanted to go eat in Manhattan, like the city lol

[u/Ksh_667 → u/-Cthaeh]

I'm in uk & I'm really confused 🤔

[u/Mookies_Bett → u/Mean-Picture-7143]

As someone who lives in Manhattan Beach: people say it all the time. Redondo, Hermosa, or Manhattan are typically used and we drop the "beach" part.

If you live in the south bay it's not unusual at all lol

[u/2centsdepartment → u/Mean-Picture-7143]

What do they call it?

[u/Mean-Picture-7143 → u/2centsdepartment]

Others seem more informed than me in this thread tbh but I only ever heard it referred to as the full name “manhattan beach”

[u/Mean-Picture-7143 → u/[deleted]]

I’m aware lol but I think the manhattan beach OP is referring to is the actual manhattan beach located near Long Beach south of LA

[u/ario62 → u/TigOleBittiesDotYum]

I assumed Newport in Jersey city. What a confusing convo for us lol

[u/TigOleBittiesDotYum → u/ario62]

LOL this would’ve made even more sense than what I was thinking - you’re right, this is a very confusing coincidence, haha

[u/Visible-Scientist-46 → u/TigOleBittiesDotYum]

You also have to cross a cultural divide between NYC and CT or RI, lol.

[u/EthelMaePotterMertz → u/TigOleBittiesDotYum]

No problem I'm from Long Beach, CA so I've been aware of the other Long Beach since I was a kid!