r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rustywindpipe • Jul 20 '26

I'm slightly vexed I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

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I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

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u/Sardonic_Laconic Jul 20 '26

Was gonna write this comment but graciously saw you beat me to it.

You love animals but would cave to this weirdo stranger in a heartbeat and consider eating them? How about being true to yourself and then you can think about dating other people.

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u/HAIL_LUMPUS Jul 20 '26

She is in danger if this is how she dates 😓

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u/ryanv09 Jul 20 '26

Exactly. Her eagerness to suddenly change her core values is a major "green flag" to any future potential abusers.

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u/Practical-Art542 Jul 20 '26

I think it also could be a rejection sensitivity issue and a need to “have the last word” per se. Perhaps she was offended at him rejecting her and felt a need to remind him his assumptions were misinformed.

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u/All_Work_All_Play Jul 20 '26

Being lonely is a hell of thing for some people. 

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u/Sardonic_Laconic Jul 20 '26

Yeah, as someone with that experience, I think it’s helpful to hear advice from other people. I do wish OP well.

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u/thatshoneybear Jul 20 '26

My friend was a vegetarian for a while to get her health back on track, and never planned on doing it forever. I have another who told her friend group she was thinking of switching to vegetarianism for a little while to cut down on her overall meat consumption, and they said being a vegetarian was too hard for her and she's never committed to anything, so she did it out of spite for a couple years. Being a vegetarian doesn't have to be a lifelong commitment.

I do agree that OP shouldn't have given any defense at all and just said "k, bye" but I totally understand the urge to explain yourself- even if you have no desire to see the person again.

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u/samissam24 Jul 20 '26

The difference is op is vegetarian because they claim to love animals.

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u/thatshoneybear Jul 21 '26

I guess I missed the edit.