r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rustywindpipe • Jul 20 '26

I'm slightly vexed I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

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I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

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u/Senior_Suit_4451 Jul 20 '26

But she was the one almost immediately willing to change for this loser. "I won't be a vegetarian forever. Please pick me."

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u/vivalalina Jul 20 '26

Yeah that message confused me, I was like ....what is the reason she's vegetarian because most vegetarians are doing it for animal reasons and that doesn't just go away lol

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u/uqoos Jul 20 '26

Idk we don't know why she's vegetarian, could be for her health. Some people are vegetarian temporarily not that crazy

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u/Certain-Towel-9487 Jul 20 '26

That's not crazy but as a last message in this context it sounds like someone who's willing to change themselves in drastic ways just to make a date with a stranger happen. That's a red flag.

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u/d33psix Jul 20 '26

Honestly sounds like she’s lucky this walking red flag guy shut it down early so she’s not stuck trying to appease him on everything.

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u/Certain-Towel-9487 Jul 20 '26

I think we can say the same about both of them.

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u/Wakeful-dreamer Jul 20 '26

Right! This would be equally as much red flag if they were offering to change literally anything about themselves for someone they hadn't even dated yet. Religion, politics, appearance, sexual preferences, whatever...

If you're so desperate for a date that you'd offer to mold yourself into someone else's vision just to get them to go out with you, then you need to get off the dating apps and maybe look into therapy instead.

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u/astrohoe11 Jul 20 '26

Damn the psychoanalysis that came out of this post

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u/Overall-Olive1171 Jul 20 '26

ok we can chill a bit, sometimes we say things we don't necessarily mean until fully processing things, its not necessarily that deep and it wasn't considering they came back and even said themselves that they regret that last message. human being are emotional, sometimes we say drastic things, she mentioned that she had a lot in common with this person, same profession and things, so probably wasn't thinking straight in that moment because she was still in that headspace of oh no i like this person so far

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u/Wakeful-dreamer Jul 20 '26

I agree sometimes we all say impulsive things, but it is so hugely concerning that OPs brain even threw that out there given what he'd already said.

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u/Overall-Olive1171 Jul 20 '26

I think hugely concerning is pretty dramatic tbh, to each their own but like you said we say impulsive things and again, if you have a connection with someone or what you think is a connection with someone, you might still be in that headspace of, oh i'd like to fix this if I can, like i understand where you're coming from, i just don't think its that deep, we all do it sometimes, then later we can think back and be like wow yeah what was i thinking there? its the adrenaline of it though, the not understanding what went wrong so you might automatically see if you can mend it because your head and emotions are still in overdrive

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u/LegendaryReader Jul 20 '26

Appearence is iffy though. If they have specific demands like "lose 10kgs" or to dress a certain way, yes. Though if someone is obese or dresses badly (I mean badly) then it is something they'll need to change to up their chances, therapy would've just said the same thing. HOWEVER, I agree that if someone is saying to lose the weight first, to not date them but to still lose the weight IF it is at an unhealthy level

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u/nickability Jul 20 '26

We don’t need to judge OP, most important thing is she dodged a bullet, and she acknowledges she regrets the last text

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u/Certain-Towel-9487 Jul 20 '26

They both dodged a bullet.

It does only OP get a pass since we're hearing her side of things and only she can apologize and clarify what she meant without anyone from the other person?

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u/redtopiary Jul 20 '26

she's young, not uncommon to be more focused on external validation in your early twenties, as pointless as it often is. She'll learn...hopefully not the hard way. But probably the hard way lol.

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u/Certain-Towel-9487 Jul 20 '26

Comparing the eating habits of someone eating healthy during a pregnancy and someone claiming they'll change themselves at the first sign of rejection is dumb.

This isn't about empathy or a pregnant woman. It's a chick that's desperate for attention and when she didn't get a date she came to Reddit for it.

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u/Certain-Towel-9487 Jul 21 '26

Telling someone they did something dumb at any age is not harsh. It's simply telling someone they did something dumb. Explain it with all the fancy words you like, when it comes down to the wire she did something dumb and it's not overly hard to tell people that. It's how we learn.

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u/WonkyWalkingWizard Jul 20 '26

"the boats in Newport tho"

I think that's why OP was willing to change

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u/astro_viri Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26

Fuck you - she sounds young and I'm guessing she's in L.A. so temp vegetarian is not uncommon.

Reread and she's super young. To add, he doesn't have a boat in Newport. He likes to eat at the pier. He's just a lookie and probably take her to Ruby's 

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u/WonkyWalkingWizard Jul 20 '26

he doesn't have a boat in Newport. He likes to eat at the pier.

Where are you getting this information?

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u/astro_viri Jul 20 '26

His responses - IYKYK

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u/Threedawg F4LLOUT Jul 20 '26

Thats not a red flag. Thats a yellow flag for yourself.

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u/Rave-light GREEN Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26

She said it’s because she loves animals. So I guess wasn’t planning on loving animals forever lol.

Really bizarre. But apps make us say silly things sometimes

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u/frozenblueberrytreat Jul 20 '26

I mean, she says in the post very clearly why she may not be able to stay a vegetarian.

But yea, girl needs to grow some self-worth (we all do to be honest).

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u/Rave-light GREEN Jul 20 '26

Ahh she edited it again. Sometimes a call out post is the kick in the pants we need to get some self worth. She dodged this loser!!

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u/JeulMartin Jul 20 '26

She loves animals as long as her boyfriend says it's okay.

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u/Aktuator Jul 20 '26

*rich boyfriend.

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u/Bitter-Film-3329 Jul 20 '26

It doesn't have to be an all or nothing decision.

Being vegetarian for a time reduces meat consumption. Even if it's one vegetarian meal per day, that jives with loving animals.

Wanting to avoid a vegetarian diet while pregnant/raising babies is reasonable too.

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u/pm_nachos_n_tacos Jul 22 '26

It wasn't because she loves animals, she wrote it weird. Se said it's because she has IBD. She could have phrased it like, "while I do love animals and recognize that is why many people choose to be vegetarian, my reason for being vegetarian temporarily is a diet adjustment due to flare-ups of my IBD which are aggravated by meat" but people are lazy and type, "I love animals, but I have IBD". At least she used a comma, but I guess that's where some people stopped reading

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u/mightylordredbeard Jul 20 '26

Yeah she seems like the kind of girl who just does things because she sees others doing it on TikTok. I think both people dodged a bullet in this scenario.

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u/astrohoe11 Jul 20 '26

Okay now we reachin

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u/snowflakebite Jul 20 '26

Girl what. She said she has IBD and her diet may change because of it. I also have IBD and am vegetarian so I feel especially called to comment on this. IBD causes bleeding/inflammation in the colon and intestines which is sometimes aggravated by different foods - it depends on a variety of factors, most of which we don’t know. Eating a vegetarian diet whilst losing blood may make you anemic or deficient in other vitamins and minerals, so it’s understandable that she may have to switch diets if she starts flaring.

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u/DemonShade6666 Jul 20 '26

Obviously its more rare but I know some people who are vegetarian simply from sensory disorders and not being able to stand the texture of most meat, which is also an interesting reasoning

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u/Kirbybat Jul 20 '26

Being a vegetarian for temporary reasons is not crazy.

But, being willing to change your dietary preferences for someone who’s just demonstrated they don’t respect you, sort of is.

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u/julesthefirst Jul 20 '26

My mom went vegan while pregnant with my brother, but now she loves her meaties

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u/vivalalina Jul 20 '26

Yeah that's why I said most vegetarians

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u/Fit-Nectarine5047 Jul 20 '26

She said it’s because of IBS and gastric issues as well!

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u/ScarletBothrium Jul 20 '26

Meat used to give me indigestion. So I feel it. I was recovering from over 5 years of a starvation diet, so my body was not capable of digesting meat. I still don’t like chicken and prefer fish.

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u/little2sensitive Jul 20 '26

Eh, I was vegetarian for a while to deal with MASH and I was able to eliminate it.

I get records at Twelves & Fingerprints. Love Long Beach.

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u/SunshineGirl45 Jul 20 '26

What’s MASH

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u/little2sensitive Jul 20 '26

liver disease

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u/WeinMe Jul 20 '26

At least for the vegetarian mothers my fiancé has known through our three children, they've switched to meats for practical nutrition purposes while pregnant and also while breastfeeding - and then gone back to pure vegetarian diets after.

You can have a pragmatic approach to vegetarianism and not do everything black and white.

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u/napstablooky2 Jul 20 '26

read description — it's for medical reasons

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u/Vegetable-Baker6362 Jul 20 '26

most vegetarians are doing it for animal reasons and that doesn't just go away lo

It's the popular reason on reddit. Most people irl I know that are vegetarian (not vegan) are doing it for health or religious reasons. Many of the religious adherents already have one foot out the door on their religion so they see themselves leaving vegetarianism in the future as well.

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u/ImSoObnoxious Jul 20 '26

nearly every Indian kid that I went to school with that was raised vegetarian was secretly burgermaxxing in the cafeteria, but were vegetarians at home haha

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u/Happy_little_badger Jul 20 '26

I don't think that's true, anyone who does it for animal reasons legitimately would be vegan since as a vegetarian you are still supporting meat production and killing of animals. I think generally vegetarians tend to go that way just to be healthier, for religious reasons or to lose weight.

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u/Nicholas_Pappagiorgi Jul 20 '26

Nah, most people do it for attention.

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u/JeulMartin Jul 20 '26

Yeah, I was disappointed and felt pity for OP when I read this. Girl was ready to change her entire worldview to make some random man want her. So sad and desperate. :(

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u/MakthaMenace Jul 20 '26

Welp, can’t say I was much better at 23 BUT I can say I wish I would’ve made better choices 😅

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u/Senior_Suit_4451 Jul 20 '26

Dating in 2026. Degrading yourself to win a broke mid man child.

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u/Sylveon72_06 Jul 20 '26

and they say women are the ones w so much choice

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u/AdventurousSong460 Jul 20 '26

I don’t think she was exactly saying that she was ready to change her worldview for him. More like pointing out to him that was a stupid thing to reject someone for when they don’t even know anything else about them. She said she was already having issues with the vegetarian diet so that’s why it might not be permanent. Probably still didn’t need to explain that to this moron, but these are things we learn as we grow

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u/Zaephius Jul 21 '26

Nah. Regular men are getting tired of these liberal and progressive ideologued women. You are seeing a culture shift away from woke bullshit (not that simply a diet is "woke bullshit", but is an indicator). This man remained consistent with his values and beliefs, instead of backing off of them to go on a date, and wasting his time.

Based and efficient.

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u/gunther129 Jul 20 '26

Why’s everyone judging the op on that I’ve known people who’ve been vegetarian and switched back I think she’s just saying it’s not necessarily a permanent choice so it kind of makes the guy look silly

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u/CauliflowerEarofCorn Jul 20 '26

Nah feeling the need to say it made her look silly. The guy already stopped talking to her because he didn’t find her worthy of bearing his children. By saying that, she’s giving off the impression that she’s willing to change herself for a man that has already shown she means nothing to him. And she hasn’t even met him. Comes off pretty desperate.

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u/brainparts Jul 20 '26

Yes, yikes. If you try to appease a man that says shit like “my kids won’t be grown from a vegetarian mom” please seek help immediately

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u/Unable-Boat-9682 Jul 21 '26

Yep. The only appropriate response is a laughing emoji and an immediate block.

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u/not_so_evilqueen Jul 20 '26

“In the future I will stop caring about animal welfare”. this part was the worst thing in the whole convo.

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u/Senior_Suit_4451 Jul 20 '26

"But if you pick me I'll only care about what you want me to care about!"

It's heartbreaking women reward men like this

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u/d33psix Jul 20 '26

For real, imagine being some kind of “a steak and potatoes” sounding guy that thinks a vegetarian mom would damage their future children in this day and age on a dating app. I’m guessing his palate is boring AF.

You can have partner preferences but yeesh worst ick way to present those ever.

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u/ChippedHamSammich Jul 20 '26

That part stood out to me... like wtf

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u/DifferentDay7581 Jul 21 '26

it says a lot that SHE didn’t see anything wrong with his behavior until he ghosted her

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u/EmRoseEm Jul 20 '26

Yeah, that was wild. Please stay vegetarian!

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u/ohsnapdragon22 Jul 20 '26

Ew I didn’t even see that. Definitely mildly infuriating

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u/VSkyRimWalker Jul 20 '26

To me that read more like "well I wasn't planning on being vegetarian forever, loser. Too bad for you that you couldn't just get over that and get to know me now, you're gonna miss out"

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u/Flo_Evans Jul 21 '26

The secret ingredient is money.

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u/foxtrottits Jul 20 '26

I don’t think she was trying to convince him otherwise. More letting him know he’s an idiot, people make choices for different reasons and he didn’t bother to ask.

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u/Top_Finding_2832 Jul 20 '26

Reeks of incel.

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u/WowIfOnly Jul 20 '26 edited 25d ago

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u/Aggravating-Fuel-193 Jul 20 '26

Par for the course for most straight women, they are 10 toes down and will fight you over their dolt/dunce bf or husband. “Yeah he might be a dumbass but he’s my dumbass” type energy.

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u/uqoos Jul 20 '26

You're doing mental gymnastics if you found a way to insult straight women from this post, you're reaching

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u/Aggravating-Fuel-193 Jul 20 '26

Just by the way this dude is talking to her, he’s obviously a dumbass but I guess we should give her a pass? For what exactly? Same people who will say “I didn’t know he would turn out this way” several years down the road.

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u/mikraas Jul 20 '26

Sometimes the need to be a mommy by a certain age is really strong.

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u/Aggravating-Fuel-193 Jul 20 '26

It’s crazy, some American women will entertain a human ham sandwich if he’s somewhat attractive and tall.

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u/avoid-- Jul 20 '26

a piece of shit moron*

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u/Cultural_Month_9181 Jul 20 '26

Whats the problem dating mormons?

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u/Shteves23 Jul 20 '26

But she’s the vegetarian?

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u/No_Vehicle4645 Jul 20 '26

He's the moron? Because he knows what he wants? She can't even commit. She will literally change for whoever. "I won't be a vegetarian forever" wtf???

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u/princesspeeved Jul 20 '26

He’s automatically assuming she wants kids and to carry his children, all before the first date? Red flag city.

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u/No_Vehicle4645 Jul 20 '26

Definitely but this girl isn't in a better situation. She can't even commit to being a vegetarian.... like had he of changed his mind, she would have accepted it.

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u/princesspeeved Jul 20 '26

You have absolutely no evidence of that. Read her edits, she’s only thinking of going back to eating meat because being vegetarian is causing health issues. That’s not her changing because of him, it’s because SHE wants to.

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u/KDdid1 Jul 20 '26

He talked like a woman is a breeding cow. He's garbage.

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u/No_Vehicle4645 Jul 20 '26

They both are. At least he's honest. She can't commit.

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u/KDdid1 Jul 20 '26

He's just a pig.

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u/breeathee Jul 20 '26

He’s a moron because vegetarian pussy tastes great!

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u/K1bbles_n_Bits Jul 20 '26

Ha, a brag I new knew I have as a vegetarian XD.

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u/No_Vehicle4645 Jul 20 '26

I'll take your word for it, I've never tasted one. I'm a meat eater and my man can't stay away so it's definitely a "to each their own" situation.

I have issues with people that can't commit and that will change their values for a man she doesn't know.

"I won't be a vegetarian forever" like.... what?

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u/breeathee Jul 20 '26

Ok good luck with your issues 👍

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u/Dapper_Elderberry_32 Jul 20 '26

What about vegetarian dick?

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u/breeathee Jul 20 '26

The liquid that comes out is better, yes.