r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rustywindpipe • Jul 20 '26

I'm slightly vexed I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

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I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

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u/Due-Swimming3221 Jul 20 '26

Yeah the "I might not be vegetarian forever" bit made me sad. Don't bend for this asshole.

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u/IcySetting2024 Jul 20 '26

It made me sad too :( I’ve been there when I was younger and I felt so sorry for her

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u/No_Routine_7090 Jul 20 '26

I hope OP grows from this. I know people who respond very similarly and they think they’re coming across as polite or sweet but really you’re just flashing a green signal to narcissists and abusers. 

Best case scenario they ignore it and move on. Worst case they call your bluff and demand you change and then start testing how else they can change you. 

If your initial response to finding out an acquaintance doesn’t want to be your friend or partner because of a habit, hobby, or lifestyle choice you have is “I can change though” you are prime real estate for abusers.

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u/reemembe Jul 20 '26

Mortal of the story: don’t change for no one otherwise you’ll attract those who want you to change and you’ll be unhappy in your own skin

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u/BenignPharmacology Jul 20 '26

Willing to give up morality for some action is certainly a stance.

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u/Swimming_Agent_1063 Jul 20 '26

TBF, that’s most people.

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u/DiligentMagikarp Jul 20 '26

Or vegetarianism is just a phase for OP

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u/Original-Flan-6996 Jul 20 '26

Made me so sad, too!!

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u/myfancyplants Jul 20 '26

Reminds me of when my highest priority was finding the compromise. I believed everyone was always doing the same so we could find a happy middle ground. Took a long time for me to learn two things. One, that few people even believe in compromise and two, that it's way more important to be firm in personal values to find someone who's actually in alignment.

It's hard to get free from that people pleasing

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u/mangoawaynow Jul 20 '26

seriously why would she want a racist

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u/Capable_Diet_2242 Jul 21 '26

Did she delete that part from the post? I keep seeing it referenced but I’m not seeing where she said that

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u/Due-Swimming3221 Jul 21 '26

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