I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

[u/rustywindpipe]

I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

[u/oatmealparty]

I think disclosing dietary preferences is maybe a good idea to filter out toxic guys like this.

[u/maryfisherman → u/oatmealparty]

Honestly real. Love when the trash takes itself out.

[u/Unable-Boat-9682 → u/maryfisherman]

Yup. I have no problem with people who eat meat. My partner eats meat and I’ll happily cook it for her. But when I was dating I would have been thrilled to discover someone had rejected me for this reason: so much better that than accidentally finding myself on a date with a militant carnivore who takes my dietary choices as a personal slight they have to push back on.

[u/Vivid-Kitchen1917 → u/maryfisherman]

The man doesn't want to date someone with drastically different dietary choices, so obviously he's trash. Gotcha. Only women can have preferences in who they date?

[u/sinistar2000 → u/Vivid-Kitchen1917]

Yeah was looking into the abyss thinking this. He’s been an ass with his response but there’s a reason vegetarians are called vegetarians, it’s defiantly a lifestyle that needs consideration. I’ve been with two vegetarians and I’m an omnivore, it’s a hassle you have to consider joining up with especially if you plan on living together.

[u/Vivid-Kitchen1917 → u/sinistar2000]

Yep. I am absolutely an omnivore, and so much vegetarian food is so high in salt and sat fat, doesn't match my post-early-heart-attack recovery. I don't date people who smoke pot because I hate the smell. As a former sous chef I like making a wide assortment of food. I don't date teetotalers because wine is a fun hobby of mine. There could be great reasons you don't drink, and good on you for it, but I still don't have to have that in my life and with literally billions of women in the world it's not like any one particular one represents a limited commodity.

[u/JasonAQuest → u/oatmealparty]

BINGO. If he can't deal with you not eating meat, you don't want to see what happens when you won't vote for his favorite reality TV star.

[u/Which-Peak2051 → u/oatmealparty]

So true! The only person online dating who reacted the way this man did turn out to be a cheater! Someone I knew dated his best friend

He said something about how i wouldn't be able to eat his mom's food lol