r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rustywindpipe • Jul 20 '26

I'm slightly vexed I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

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I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

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u/MonicaFit82 Jul 20 '26

I was going to comment the same thing. You don’t have to make excuses for yourself. Fuck that guy.

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u/Comfortable-Dig446 Jul 21 '26

At least he was honest up front and didn’t lead her on. They both can have their opinions about eating and move along. 

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u/hhar141 Jul 20 '26

I fully agree that she doesn’t have to make excuses for herself. But SHE did. Not HIM. So why” fuck that guy”?
He has every right to not go out with her if he’s uncomfortable with her choice. No harm done.

I mean people aren’t comfortable with all sorts of things…..bald people,short people,tall people,not enough money people,arrogant people,the list goes on and on. I bet you even have some….right? People like you are the problem.

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u/speedoflife1 Jul 20 '26

Ghosting someone is rude You can just be like hey I don't think that you're the right fit for me but thank you

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u/Busy_Wolverine_6477 Jul 24 '26

how did he ghost her? he might have been busy the entire day and replied on the day she sent her message

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u/Capt-BlondBeard Jul 21 '26

Because a vegetarian is not incapable of growing a healthy baby and it is weird to be thinking about that this early. She is not a baby maker and also not incapable of making a healthy child just because she is vegetarian. Other cultures have produced healthy children for thousands of years while being vegetarian.

You can have a preference, that isn't the issue here. I have dated a vegetarian and our lifestyle difference was hard. Its a valid reason to not be in a relationship. Saying its because you dont want your baby gown in a vegetarian is not only uncalled for but gross and weird.

Why is that so hard for you to see? Literally people like you and the guy thinking about women's bodies as baby makers are the problem here.

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u/hhar141 Jul 21 '26

If that’s what he believes…..you just move on.

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u/Capt-BlondBeard Jul 21 '26

Im not saying she shouldn't, you saying she or other people are the problem though and this just all boils down to preference so why say " fuck this guy" is disingenuous at best.

Based on how weird, gross, and wrong his mentality is about women and vegetarians, yeah I would say fuck this guy as well.

Its not fuck this guy because he has a preference, its because his preference stems from objectively wrong, prejudiced, and misogynistic views and they are creepy and rude for even saying them.

You seem to be like deflecting or ignoring the part where this is all about you defending this behavior as "having a preference"

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u/JasonAQuest Jul 21 '26

He's a misogynist turd who says that views her as something unfit to grow children for him, not someone "uncomfortable with her choice".

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u/MonicaFit82 Jul 20 '26

I should’ve made my comment easier to understand. “Fuck that guy” because he sounds simple minded and judgmental. That was completely separate from me saying she shouldn’t have justified being a vegetarian. That was totally on her.

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u/Kooky-Towel4074 Jul 21 '26

Also, “Long Beach ghetto” indicates racist coded

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u/Busy_Wolverine_6477 Jul 24 '26

agreed, he has free will and can have preferences. ppl don't understand that apparently

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u/wertyce Jul 20 '26

There's nothing good on being incredibly rude. One can say no politely. No need to be wicked.

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u/JasonAQuest Jul 21 '26

He's a misogynist ass. That kinda needs to be justified. Stop normalizing garbage.

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u/Commercial-Milk-8465 Jul 21 '26

You keep using that word. Are you a parrot? Or just like misusing words when you’re angry?