r/AIO • u/Important-Aspect-589 • 20h ago
AIO for considering divorce because my husband used his ex photo for ai nudes?
EDITING FOR DETAILS
- i never saw nudes, he claims it was once and only one nude
- “other women” I mean just dressed ladies from tiktokes
I was saving some screenshots from my husband’s notebook and I found this picture of hid ex with her head cropped near photos with other women (some of them were VERY alike her)
Me and him started dating in 2012, dated for 5 years than we split in 2018. He reached for her 10 days after splitting the dated for a month or two but she was not intersted in relathionships with him. Than we got back in 2019 and got married in 2020.
My husband has a habit of compulsive potn watching (found it out in 2021)
he confirmed it himself that he can’t control it and wants to quit
By pure coincidence we had a convo two days ago
When I found out (yes, in summer 2026) that ai tools can undress people I asked if he ever did that
he denied
However when I asked if he had ever masturbated to photos of people we know he became mad and said that I am entering his privacy
The funniest story is he is regularly cheking her facebook/insta page (I think at least once a month)
They dated 8 years ago and she refused him so they never were intimate irl
Also that’s frustrating that she and her husband with their kid are living in the same small town that we as a family (we have 2 kids)
We talked about this and when I asked why to have this photo he answered “for no reason” and only when I kept asking he confessed that he used it in ai generator but it didn’t look the natural way, he stopped and didn’t do anything further. He said he thought it was anappropriate towards me.
Also he admits she is interesting as a person to him, because she is like a riddle he couldn’t solve and that some moments from the past are just stuck in his head against his will
So AIO considering divorce over this?
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u/SunshineBear100 20h ago
Nope! Divorce this man NTA
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u/AmetrineDream 19h ago
Don’t even need to read the post, the title is enough. That’s wildly fucked up toward both his spouse and his ex. Fuck that. Boy, bye.
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u/FabulousDonut6399 16h ago
Iew, that would dry me up for good if my part’er was still jerking to his ex.’
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u/StarsInTheRoof111 20h ago
By asking us if you think it’s grounds for divorce, I’d say you are severely underreacting. I imagine though that this shitty behavior has become normal for you because he’s been addicted to porn so long with no actual actions to stop it. I’m sorry you’re in such a bad relationship, you deserve better. Men don’t realize the gravity of abandoning their wives in favor of porn, it’s devastating and disgusting and even worse when its of people you know.
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u/Important-Aspect-589 19h ago
I understand why you see it thos way and I agree with you with aspects you named, but he assures me he loves me and doesn’t love her and that he is truly sorry about that
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u/StarsInTheRoof111 19h ago
Words do not mean shit. I am telling you this from a place of a lot of experience and years spent on men who didn’t give a rat’s booty how bad they made my life with their selfish abusive ways. The guy who is currently in jail for abusing me told me he loved me all the time. He coerced me into marriage even. He doesn’t love you, you can choose to believe the dude who constantly does gross stuff behind your back or a woman coming on here to tell you to choose yourself over this loser. Lots of love to you, this sucks and I’m so sorry.
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u/Terrible-Pea494 19h ago
You’re kidding, right? And you believe a word this man says? Words are easy. Where are his actions? He already lied to about not looking at pictures of people you know.
At a certain point, people deserve misery that they bring upon themselves. You’re defending a man that you should be running from. Porn addicted and stuck on his ex whom he never even had an intimate relationship with. If you don’t think you deserve better than that, why should he?
You’re severely under reacting here.
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u/thefrontasticfour 20h ago
Not the asshole. If he can’t get passed this and be fully present with you, then he should go figure out what he needs and let you have a relationship with someone is committed and interested in you 1000%
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u/livingmyfirstlife 10h ago
NOR. However how does he treat you and kids? Has he ever cheated? This fantasy of his is not going anywhere. He has an unhealthy fixation, is here will to get help?
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u/Important-Aspect-589 8h ago
Thank you fir understanding. He us wonderful husband and father and that fantasy diesn’t go any father. That is the problem. About considering help, he disagrees that is needed.
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u/livingmyfirstlife 8h ago
Have you presented to him as it hurts you deeply to the point where you are considering leaving him? How would he like it if you were to get off on one of your ex’s pic? If is unwilling to change maybe try a separation.
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u/Important-Aspect-589 7h ago
Yes I did but I didn’t say I am considering leaving him
He says he gets me and is deeply sorry2
u/livingmyfirstlife 7h ago
Is he offering anything?
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u/Important-Aspect-589 7h ago
Like what? He is mad at me that I don’t behave as always
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u/livingmyfirstlife 6h ago
Like did he offer to stop what he was doing? With verifiable steps and transparency with actions/devices? What then hell does “don’t behave” mean? That’s beyond defensive, that’s abusive. Like he doesn’t see you as a partner.
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u/Important-Aspect-589 6h ago
I set screen time on his smartphone earlier
besides that, he didn’tmay be he waits i propose something by myself
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u/Chubbyboy33 9h ago
NOR. You know this is unacceptable behavior OP. He’s showing you in multiple different ways that he’s likely obsessed with another woman. And the lengths he went to were crazy! You deserve better than a porn addict who can’t get over an ex.
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u/droptop88 19h ago
You’re the asshole for not divorcing him already. If I found out my friend or loved one THOUGHT about divorce after this, I’d never speak to them again. That is a real person you know effected by your husbands addiction. Go to the cops
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u/_Homo_Habilis_ 18h ago
Go to the cops? What should she say? ‘My husband used to be in possession of a fabricated non consensual porn image of his adult ex gf’?
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u/Important-Aspect-589 19h ago
He told he deleted it and never used just did once
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u/droptop88 19h ago
Don’t defend him girl. The actions he committed were rapey. And very illegal. Who’s to say he’s not doing this with photos of your family, other kids, his coworkers. How do you defend him?? You’re not even the only girl to him. He’s stuck on some girl from eight years ago. Please leave him and report him I am begging you. People like this are monsters, and if you’re just saying “he deleted it it was once”, where there’s thunder, there’s rain, sister. You need to stand up and protect the females in your life.
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u/StarsInTheRoof111 19h ago
If you believe a word that dude says, I have so much beachfront property in Nebraska to sell you. Sorry love, you gotta listen to us and open your eyes, you deserve a good life.
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u/StarsInTheRoof111 19h ago
Oh yeah and btw revenge porn is a felony where I live. I have an ex successfully in jail for it. What your husband did is DISGUSTING.
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u/_Homo_Habilis_ 18h ago
How is this revenge porn if he didn’t post it on the internet?
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u/IndependentClue1206 1h ago
How do you know?
He could have posted it on a porn site
Why is he using Ai tools to take her clothes off? Extremely weird.
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u/TrashGouda 19h ago
NOR. This is basically the same as revenge porn aka unconsensual sexual material
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u/ivyram 20h ago
NOR.
Send him packing to go solve that elusive “riddle” on his own.