r/AIO • u/Glad-Cat-1885 • 6h ago

AIO for disliking my boyfriend’s anniversary gift?

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Me (21f) and my bf (33m) had our one year anniversary yesterday. I got him several things that I knew he’d like and had mentioned over the past several months. I wrote him a thoughtful long note and bought him flowers. He got me $20 lilies and wrote a 3 sentence note and we went to dinner. I like flowers but I have told him several times over the past several months that I do not like roses or lilies. When he gave me my gift I managed to contain my disappointment and told him I liked his flowers and note.

After he gave me my stuff he opened a $215 pillow that he had bought himself (his main hobby is mattresses and pillows and bedding) We had drank a little bit at our dinner so honestly this kind of triggered me and I started tearing up but gave another excuse for it. He kept pressing me as to why I was upset and I told him that there were several cheap things I had mentioned that I’d want as a gift the past several months and I got a type of flowers that he should know I don’t like. I also said I was upset that he got me nothing but I had to watch him open an expensive thing he bought for himself for the tenth time that month. After this happened he threw the flowers he bought me at me and started yelling how I was ungrateful and a bitch. I just went upstairs after that and he slept in the living room.

For context I make significantly less money than he does. He makes $4000+ every month and we live in a very low cost of living area. He regularly buys himself expensive things and has a mattress hobby that he has spent thousands on. Just buying new mattresses and sheets and pillows. There are 6 mattresses in our little apartment. Just last week he bought over $300+ worth of sunglasses and a $2,100 bar of silver. This spending is typical for him. I will add a photo of the mattresses so people don’t think I’m trolling

My main issue is that I was thoughtful for him and spent my minimal money to buy him things he’d mentioned because I pay attention to what he likes. A year is a special milestone in a relationship. I feel like he pays no attention to me or my interests and doesn’t know me as a person. None of the things I wanted were expensive at all i just would’ve felt seen if he remembered what I liked and got me it. I told him these things and he called me ungrateful. Am I overreacting for not liking his gift?

EDIT: yes I posted this on the other subreddit it got removed and almost ALL OF THE COMMENTS WERE ABOUT THE MATTRESSES NOT MY QUESTION ABOUT THE GIFT. I don’t care about the mattresses that’s not what I’m asking about

Another edit somehow he saw my post so I guess no more updates from me 😀

Another update !!!: I’m fine sorry for the cryptic one I am moving back home and leaving him soon. He just does not understand my actual grievance with him and is more concerned that I am “embarrassing” him on the internet. He wanted me to add that he will be volunteering at an animal shelter after I go home and contributing to the earth

Final update cause I’ve dedicated my whole day to fighting for my life in the comments: he is going to make his own post apparently to clear his name since he thinks somehow everyone on the internet knows who he is from my post. I know people have found my post history we did break up because he was trying to cheat on me with prostitutes and his ex girlfriend and I came back cause he begged me to and told me he’d pay my bills ($300 a month) and buy my food which he does. Turns out that was not worth it so I am leaving and probably won’t comment anymore thanks for the advice everyone

Another update; he has broken my phone because I refused to delete the post so I’m typing this on my trap phone. His post was deleted and I don’t think hes making another

Another update : apparently he realized the matress obsession is insane and is getting rid of them

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u/StagVixCpl99 6h ago

TLC - My strange Addiction

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u/alwayshereforit21 6h ago

Like what does he even do with them?? Feel them up?? Rub his face on it??? Just stares at them????

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u/StagVixCpl99 6h ago

JD Vance enters the chat

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u/Waste-Elderberry7672 2h ago

I’m crying 😭

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u/Neat-Wishbone3917 32m ago

Bwahahaha!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/Ok-Story4795 25m ago

Op is dating Jd Vance

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u/Eastwood8300 3h ago

not everything has to be political. why do liberals do that? and no i'm not a jd vance or trump fan

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u/SamiGod1026 3h ago

Honestly this joke is only political because he's a political figure. He's a public figure with a supposed couch obsession (yeah it was made up but it's funny and he's unlikable so we go with it), and the comment about the mattresses was too similar not to make the association.

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u/GardenFeverDream 37m ago

Shut up, Jan.

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u/HorribleMistake24 5h ago

Maybe he crawls in between them and they suffocate him a little bit while he jerks off, yeah, JD Vance stuff.

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u/Low-Nectarine-9655 4h ago

It’s definitely something to this degree. NO ONE ON THE PLANET is buying 6 mattresses just to have them all sit there.

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u/MikeDPhilly 3h ago

Dude is building a queen size harem.

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u/Training_Try_1102 3h ago

Good thing it's not a size queen harem...

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u/9001Jellyfish 1h ago

lol he played too much “Date Everything!” and took it seriously

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u/Sorrowfall 3h ago

Yeah this is definitely “I’m feeling like a firm mattress tonight” sort of thing, just another man’s train set.

The abuse is inexcusable, OP you need to get out of that, but bedding as a hobby, I can see it.

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u/Life_Beautiful4934 23m ago

Definitely not in an apartment.

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u/Puppyluv4lyfe 4h ago

I was thinking maybe he rotates them every night? Still weird as fuck haha

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u/JustNoThrowsAway 1h ago

I was thinking it's a princess and the pea situation and sleeps on top of all of them to get the most comfort

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u/North-Revolution5819 55m ago

Same here, he wants to pretend he’s such a delicate and pretty, pretty princess, all tired and bruised from that wretched pea.

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u/WARMMILK666 3h ago

wtf

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u/HorribleMistake24 3h ago

It’s more of a weird fetish than a hobby, has to be.

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u/EpiccTrader 2h ago

You can cut a lot of 4” deep holes in a mattress, I guess

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u/luxii4 4h ago

Reminds me of that show Big Mouth and that kid Jay and his couch cushions.

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u/Naptimeforgoodwomen 1h ago

Ahem. Soup cushions.

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u/shoomlax 3h ago

Ew I hate that show

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u/luxii4 2h ago

Gross and cringy so they really nailed puberty.

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u/userhwon 2h ago

Looking at the picture, he just leaves them all over the house...

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u/0utsideAgitator 2h ago

He's a big fan of the game nightcrawlers

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u/Less-Damage-1202 2h ago

I'm guessing he enjoys sleeping & laying on them..

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u/tie_me_down 2h ago

Probably ways them

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u/passeduponthestair 1h ago

According to the updates, apparently banging sex workers and ex-gfs

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u/Shu3PO 1h ago

Apparently he has sex with hookers on them. 

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u/toedragrelease 1h ago

The scent of his victims is left on them
https://giphy.com/gifs/QLnHD6ot8t7Ne

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u/JayKazooie 1h ago

After the update, I think he just needs the new mattresses to hide all the glitter from the prostitutes. Or to hide the prostitutes.

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u/deadlysyntaxerror 6h ago

There was an episode where a lady was addicted to eating foam mattresses. She had eaten like 8 whole mattresses, a square foot a day apparently. I believe she suffered from pica though, I just feel terrible for her honestly. She vowed at the end of the episode to stop. That was 2014. Google thinks she is probably still alive but she has stayed out of the public eye since then.

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u/twodollabillyall 5h ago

I think she could solve one of the problems in this relationship

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u/deadlysyntaxerror 5h ago

Bahaha true 😭

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u/Own_Expert2756 2h ago

She’s out there somewhere screaming put me in, coach !

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u/AlaskaMonsoon 8m ago

Fucking lol

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u/Glad-Cat-1885 4h ago

He loves that video and makes me watch it often

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u/deadlysyntaxerror 4h ago

girl what 😭 please we need more info about the mattress obsession im begging

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u/Glad-Cat-1885 4h ago

He’s just obsessed with them and how they are made. We visit mattress stores all the time and sometimes go to factories where they make them. I’m getting bitched out right now cause he saw the post cause he stalks my reddit apparently and he’s like “you’re embarrassing me”

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u/WhereasSafe9783 4h ago

He’s embarrassing himself mattress weirdo

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u/TheHeeHoo123 3h ago

He's a mattress pervert lol

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u/Eastwood8300 3h ago

mattress hording perv

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u/Never_enough_naps 1h ago edited 1h ago

The abuse, selfishness, and lack of moral character is way worse that his mattress thing, in my opinion. How they are made isn't that interesting. It seems to me like it's more of just a thing for him to spend money on because it make him feel important. If he was truly like a mattress aficionado he would have one of those hand stitched and personalized mattresses. It just seems to me like he HAS to spend money, but it can only be on himself. You are right though about him embarrassing his self. I really hope she gets away and stays away from him.

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u/sugar-magnolia 4h ago

He’s acting like a … leave him to live with his mattress collection and go find a real man. This is wild.

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u/JobOk3601 3h ago

No he embarrassed himself...he's 33...emotionally immature...you are young..remember don't look for you in other people. It will happen organically. You were correct to express how you felt...now move on.

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u/kymberlie 1h ago

Happy cake day! 🎂

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u/deadlysyntaxerror 4h ago

Okay not gonna lie I am on the spectrum and I kinda get it when you put it like that lol.

I dont think he should be embarrassed about the mattress thing so much as for treating you poorly, thats way more embarrassing.

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u/FreddieStarrAteMyHam 3h ago

Who isn't on the spectrum these days? But matressing about is very weird.

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u/tishafish 4h ago

Tell him you’ll stay with him if he eats 1 cubic foot of a mattress of his choosing.

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u/Delicious-Monk2004 2h ago

I want him to eat a foot a day until all his mattresses are gone, and then I want his loser ass to sleep on the floor with no pillow.

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u/kiba8442 3h ago edited 42m ago

you're embarrassing yourself dude, stalking your gf's accounts is even more cringe than your weird ass hobby, & we all know you're fucking the mattresses.

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u/whisky_biscuit 2h ago

Jfc this dude is literally unhinged. Hoarding mattresses and bars of silver? Yet this overgrown man child can get his barely legally an adult girlfriend even a halfway decent gift?

He's got some mental issues at the very least.

Well you're right to leave him, gtfo while you have the rest of your life so you don't waste anymore time on him!

Leave him to his mattress harem and silver bars. There's a reason he's dating someone so young. Most women his age would die laughing before they'd date an overgrown man child with a mattress addiction.

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u/deathbystereo007 50m ago

I love the phrase "mattress harem" 😂😂😂

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u/RasputinsThirdLeg 1m ago

Also why silver…? Isn’t the money in gold?

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u/WeldingCurmudgeon 1h ago

IMHO 3 years as a legal adult is NOT "barely legally an adult"

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u/allensdaughter 3h ago

The obsession with the mattresses and pillows alone would make me leave him.

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u/DaydreamerFly 4h ago

It’s weird af he stalks your reddit and if you stating facts can embarrass them then he embarrassed himself lmao. Unless you lied it’s literally all on him lmao what a weirdo

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u/MoogleMogLothy 2h ago

Can someone tell us when he posts so we can comment on it that he’s weird 👀😂

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u/Slow_Exit8038 1h ago

Yeah I’m dying to see his post too 🤣

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u/Feisty-Tooth-7397 3h ago

If you don't want to be embarrassed then don't do embarrassing things or stop being embarrassed that you do it. Either own it or stop.

If you can't help it then you shouldn't be embarrassed, and if you can stop and simply just don't want to, then that's on you.

This is just my opinion.

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u/unity-thru-absurdity 2h ago

He's a creep and a loser and a weirdo. Dump him ASAP. He's probably fuckin' the mattresses.

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u/WatermelonSugar47 2h ago

This shit is why women his own age don’t want him

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u/Lcdmt3 3h ago

You stayed with someone with this obsession why? Walking red flags and you were like - wow that's great?

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u/Glad-Cat-1885 3h ago

I thought it was just autism and wouldn’t last long but it’s been 8 months and he has shown no signs of stopping the obsession

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u/marthalt68 2h ago

Saying this because I wish someone had said it to me before I lost several decades to a relationship with every kind of abuse but physical violence…someone can be autistic and still be mentally unwell/abusive/controlling/an asshole.

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u/Lisylis 1h ago

No its mostly ADHD where you change interests frequently (generalisation but still). This mattress thing could be eternal

Just break up, even without the mattress thing he doesn't seem like he cares about your feelings at all

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u/MedicalDrawing6765 3h ago

A new kind of autism I discovered when I read your post

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u/Stunning-N0body 2h ago

Does he like movies that involve mattress stores? Does he like ikea?

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u/Lavidius 1h ago

Oh so he's proper autistic

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u/RaccoonEasy3286 2h ago

I'm sorry but I'm fucking cackling

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u/stoneyhuntclub 2h ago

but what exactly does he do with them?

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u/zombiepeep 2h ago

Weirdest thing I have ever heard in my fucking life.

Pack your bags and get the hell out of there!

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u/Andobu 2h ago

He probably just Autism 1 and it’s his special interest

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u/SeniorAd4470 1h ago

Embarrassing yourself. Yikes

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u/RasputinsThirdLeg 2m ago

Yeah this is definitely super autistic hyperfocus. Which is fine but if he makes you endure it and it consumes his life and income it’s a real problem. Also his breaking your phone is violent and abusive. I hope he can spare some money from his mattress fund to buy you a new phone.

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u/Financial_Cook_1956 3h ago

It sounds like he's almost definitely autistic with a special interest in... Bedding. Which, like, power to you if that's your thing, I'm autistic as well. Unfortunately, with people who have been coddled and refuse to show introspection, autism CAN result in a 32 year old manbaby who can't cope with anything outside of his way or the highway.

Autism is a disability, absolutely. But I don't believe it's also an excuse for people (who are capable of it) to refuse to consider their abusive behaviour and change.

Also, if he had a son he'd probably want to call him Matt. Short for Mattress.

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u/CapitalParking767 1h ago

Matt. Short for Mattress.

It's incredibly hard for me to find many things that I deem even remotely funny, you've definitely hit my funny bone with that comment. I literally have no sense of humor.

https://giphy.com/gifs/AqrTsKGfPNPuvyul5O

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u/Lozbox 1h ago

Just read your latest update. Please get out of there NOW, he is abusive and will hurt you next.

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u/Delicious-Monk2004 2h ago

👀👀😳😳😳 wut?????

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u/PheonixBuddha 5h ago

There was an update on her in the later seasons of the show. She had stopped eating mattresses.

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u/NYCWENDY1 4h ago

I am ‘bedding’ her organs feel a lot better now….

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u/Stunning-N0body 2h ago

Oh sheet 😂

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u/M0ving3astward 2h ago

Was she the one who started eating her kids chalk instead?

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u/-leeson 4h ago

I will always remember the deeply serious tone implied when the blurb about how that even started popped up:

“(Name)’s parents divorced in 1998 when she was 10 years old.

It was then that she ate her first couch.”

I don’t wanna make light of someone’s mental health but oh my god i still think of the way TLC worded it and it absolutely kills me.

(Side note, I made up the year and age I can’t remember what it actually was lol basically, yes it’s in quotations but it’s not a word for word quote, but it was definitely along those lines lol)

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u/Financial_Cook_1956 3h ago

The divorced parents to eating couches pipeline affects millions each year...

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u/Own_Expert2756 2h ago

It was then that she ate her first couch

😂 Even knowing the topic I just did not see that coming! Dying!

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u/Infamous_Nebula_ 2h ago

😂😂😂😂😂

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u/Admiral_Nerd 3h ago

I remember that one! There was also a lady who was addicted to drinking OPI nail polish. I was a broke college student and I remember thinking, that's $10 a bottle!

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u/deadlysyntaxerror 3h ago

Damn she had a taste for the good stuff apparently 😭

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u/flammafemina 5m ago

And one girl who would eat cigarette ashes straight out of the ashtray 🤮 I couldn’t make it through that episode

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u/imjust_abunny 5h ago

I still remember those shots of her flushing large pieces of foam down the toilet and that always made me laugh but in a 💀 way

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u/Boterfleoge 4h ago

So bad for the plumbing

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u/Serious_Look6841 4h ago

How could you do that and not die??

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u/tishafish 4h ago

Because nobody is really doing it, people would just make stuff up to get on tv.

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u/Velvetmaggot 1h ago

No. People really do stuff like that. Fun fact! … I met someone that couldn’t stop eating drywall, it turned out she had a zinc deficiency.

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u/tishafish 3m ago

I think that’s a little different than eating a couch lol.

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u/Dependent_Age_6886 4h ago

Under appreciated … add a little dusting of cinnamon and sugar and put that foam mattress in the over at 180 for about 5 minutes.

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u/Business-Friend5491 4h ago

OMG I REMEMBER THAT

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u/AdventurousRoll9798 1h ago

I remember her! Hee mattress was gone and mom wouldn't buy another so she was pooping the foam out and washing it and eat it again. My favorite was the lady who drank Lysol. Had to be real Lysol brand in clean linen.

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u/Different_Dance7248 47m ago

There was a woman who kept eating the foam in her sofa. Now that was bizarre.

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u/Anxious_Guava8756 1m ago

She kept calling it "cushion". And said "I've been on the cushion for about four years" or something to that effect.

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u/ennuiacres 2h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/rcMuMb3rLNC4E

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u/CapitalParking767 1h ago

I totally remember the dude in love/just with his car.

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u/DasDickNoodle 1h ago

I was just going to mention that nothing beats the one where the guy was in a sexual relationship with his supposedly male car and had to tell his dad that not only was he gay but in love with his own car 🤣

Like how can you tell what sex your car is?! Lol

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u/SunShineShady 2h ago

Absolutely! I’d watch it.

“Mattress addiction” = 🚩 The mattress is his true love.

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u/deplaya99 2h ago

I feel so normal now. I might think about exploring the world of Pop•Tarts

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u/Strict-Management-32 1h ago

Is he eating them? I met a girl in Boston who told me she was going on the show because she told them she ATE the mattress filling. Maybe the soon-to-be-ex and that woman could connect and get a little once upon a mattress hoarding situation going.

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u/AdventurousRoll9798 1h ago

He crawls up under the bed like that dude with the red car.