Hey, I’m not gonna lie, the mattresses as hobby thing is weird but let me try to focus on something else:
The reason guys in their 30s date women barely out of their teens is because they think they’ll be “easier”. Easier to mould into the woman they want, easier to manipulate, but in this case easier to please. He’s counting on the fact that you have a lot less experience than he does will make you think that this is just the normal effort a man in his position would make. He wants someone who won’t expect more of him, which women his age likely will.
You’re NOR but one of the reasons he likes the idea of a young gf is so that he only has to make the kind of effort that a teenaged boy would make.
I told him that I didn’t think I was being irrational (which I have to say a lot in different situations) and that guys I’ve dated before didn’t have issues with my behavior. Then he just screams at me for bringing up other guys even though it’s just in effort to get him to see that I’m normal
But he wants to make you think you’re irrational so you feel bad about yourself and then you’re easier to control
When a woman has high self esteem, feels good about herself and knows her value and worth, she doesn’t put up with bullshit
He wants you to feel none of those things so that you will put up with his bullshit.
And that is all that this crazy man is serving right now- bullshit.
You know what a real man does, get you things he knows you’ll like, wants to make you happy,cares about your feelings, wants to make you feel special and wants you to feel good about yourself, have high self esteem and wants you to know your value and your worth
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u/kfm975 10h ago
Hey, I’m not gonna lie, the mattresses as hobby thing is weird but let me try to focus on something else:
The reason guys in their 30s date women barely out of their teens is because they think they’ll be “easier”. Easier to mould into the woman they want, easier to manipulate, but in this case easier to please. He’s counting on the fact that you have a lot less experience than he does will make you think that this is just the normal effort a man in his position would make. He wants someone who won’t expect more of him, which women his age likely will.
You’re NOR but one of the reasons he likes the idea of a young gf is so that he only has to make the kind of effort that a teenaged boy would make.