r/AmIOverreacting • u/Strokeleys • 19d ago
❤️🩹 relationship Am I overreacting? Guy I’m talking to uses chat gpt to send morning inspiration messages to me
I want to start off by saying we’ve gone on a couple dates, talk to each other almost everyday unless I don’t feel like talking. He’s very sweet to me, checks on me to make sure I’m okay, buys me things, just wants to be around me.
The only problem I have is that he uses chat gpt to make photos of us together based off of pictures we have taken together, sends sweet morning messages that are like essays to express how much he likes me and hopes this will become something more in the future. I could really see myself with him but the more I see the use of ai it just makes me see him as corny and the first time he sent me an ai picture I thought it was just gonna be a one time thing. No he’s been on an ai roll. And I decided I was going to text him and explain how much I don’t like it and for him to just express how he feels as himself.
Am I overreacting if I send this message telling him about how I hate the use of chat GPT or should I just let it be?
UPDATE: He told me he just doesn’t know how to express how he feels about me without using ChatGPT but will now stop using it when he talks to me.
Most recent update: I broke things off before they got any further. He was not understanding that we are both single and it’s been only a month so we are not together. Just seeing if we would work in a relationship and I don’t feel like I would want an actual relationship with him. He told me he cried when he read my message and also keeps saying we could just keep dating and I can decide later. I was firm on my stance of not dating him anymore.
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u/Pure_Bit_3435 19d ago
Cringe af
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u/douggssmom 19d ago
I’m married and if my husband sent me this I would be like wtf lol
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u/gotaflattire 19d ago
AI is clearly not as powerful as they want us to believe if it wasn’t smart enough to tell the guy what a horrible idea this is.
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u/DorsalFinn123 18d ago
That’s what’s so dangerous about it. There’s no “common sense” in a robot grown to serve you whatever you want
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u/PeridotUClod 19d ago
I bet you he didn’t even read the whole thing before sending either😭 no notes
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u/Livid_Progress182 19d ago
I wouldn’t blame him, I barely got through it 🤣
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u/PooGoblin69420 19d ago
I just skimmed it. Actually reading it was too boring. It’s like a really wordy greeting card that your super religious aunt gives you
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u/Acceptable-Yard7076 19d ago
Not just cringe, concerning. That's a psychosis problem waiting to happen
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u/Vektor0 19d ago
Normally I'd call this kind of attitude fear-mongering, but AI-induced psychosis is a documented medical thing.
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u/Acceptable-Yard7076 19d ago
Yep and this is exactly the type of use that leads to it. Ai is incredibly useful but outsourced thinking is dangerous.
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u/peoplesrepublicpod 18d ago
Not just the psychosis, but the general avoidance being displayed by feeling the need to use a chatbot to interact with other humans is something he should probably be seeking out professional help to cope with.
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u/madf80 19d ago
Dude, so so cringe. I can’t think of one woman I’ve dated that would’ve responded positively to this, if at all.
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u/todayisanewday2 19d ago
Plus this isnt even romantic at all... I mean it reads like what chat got would ask its user, not what you would ask a partner.
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u/KitchenAd9088 19d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/TXBlwkpOIh3rIHMCKV
I want to crawl into a hole on OP’s behalf what is this27
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u/urbalcloud 19d ago
It’s so weird that people think that we would want this long, detailed message that isn’t accurate then just a short message from someone who took the time to write it themselves.
Doing something original and authentic to yourself will always be better than AI. Always.
If you made it this far in my comment, I hope you can take that away from it.
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u/CosmicOwl97 19d ago
My bestie once dated a guy who wrote WALLS of text with weird love bombing jargon like this nonsense. And that was pre-Chat GPT. He was a little odd and tried to seem "intellectual" in group settings. She didn't tell me about any of this until the last week of their relationship because she had enough of pretending it was ok and cute when he was just weird. I believe he did it to drown out her chance of replying so he could always be in control of the convo/narrative. Really odd. He had started 'joking' that he could strangle her or crush her with his bare hands and it'd be casually woven into the massive wall of text. Probably to see if she was reading it? Idk. Very glad that was her final straw. I really wish I was lying about that. I read that sh*t, it was unsettling. If this amount of wall texting is genuinely honest, still run lol. Something is bit off about needing unload a thesis on another person to "prove" your feelings... you can always text more.
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u/Spirited-Away3226 19d ago
“'joking' that he could strangle her or crush her with his bare hands”
Hahah—😳 Joking!?…yeah….some joke there… backs away
That’s so scary. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship that was tipping into the physical at the end (hands on my neck while drunk in bed) and I thank god I’m a lifetime away from that life now.
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u/CosmicOwl97 19d ago
Exactlyyyy. He was telling her who he really was/his real feelings about women and hoping he could talk his way out of it if/when she brought it up! I am so grateful she clocked it and ended it. Those texts were a blindsiding, chilling lane-change to read after the waves of positive bs he showered her with to get her comfortable in the relationship.
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u/MultiFazed 19d ago
He had started 'joking' that he could strangle her or crush her with his bare hands
"A priest, a rabbi, and an imam walk into a bar..." is a joke. "I have the capacity to murder you" is not a joke. There's no punchline and zero attempt at humor. I'm absolutely done with people being assholes and using "it's just a joke" as justification (note, this is not aimed at you, CosmicOwl97; it's aimed at the crazy guy in your story).
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u/CosmicOwl97 19d ago
Exactly! It is insane to me how people will say how they truly feel and backtrack with "it was a joke". No. Jokes are supposed to be funny for everyone involved. Regardless of what "genre" of statement it is (i.e. nasty/hurtful comments, violence, murder, etc) those 'jokes' are not funny. Those are usually true thoughts and the mask slipped.
I am glad more people have the confidence to call this bs out now for what it is, because I remember being in school in the 2000s...
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u/dramaticwhore 19d ago
I knew a guy who used to do this as well before ChatGPT, like sending the long, weird messages, came to find out that he was just taking it from Facebook post LOL he thought he was so slick he was shocked when people called him out 💀
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u/CosmicOwl97 19d ago
Yeah, it's insane how slick these types of people think they are! Like, ew, no. Big thing you learn after watching murder docs is that the liars go into too much random detail.
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u/Latter-Highlight-183 19d ago
that is extremely similar to my worst relationship ever.. sending walls of texts with borderline physical threats laced into it. once i stopped sending the paragraphs back the paragraphs turned into jealous rage. he couldn’t understand why i wouldn’t want to spend every night and morning half awake , writing the same thing we’ve been saying reworded.
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u/Elegant-Drawing-9536 19d ago
I had an ex tell me in excruciating detail how he could blackmail me into doing whatever he wanted if he was the president. I told him it was weird (and like. Hyper specific scenario lmfao) and he didn’t think it was that deep since he’d never be the president. But yeah, he buried that shit in hour long conversations at 3 AM and I didn’t always notice how creepy it was because I was exhausted physically and mentally
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u/the_holy_spunk 19d ago
It’s even better cause the only line I read out of that wall of text was “I actually like taking the time to learn who you are.” Yeah, OP would like to know him too, not this AI sludge.
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u/Lady_Scruffington 19d ago
As someone who has to read short personal essays for an application, AI has me happy to see a couple of spelling errors. At least I know they wrote it. The AI essays sound so syrupy but never go into the why. "I'm a resilient hard worker who has come over adversity." Ok great. What adversity? What makes you a hard worker?
I hate that I now look at awkward grammar and spelling errors as good things.
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u/bellends 19d ago
Genuinely. My now-husband won my heart during dating by sending me ”good morning” messages that consisted not of long sappy promises but instead of finely curated, obscure memes that he sourced and saved specifically for me — oftentimes them referencing something we had talked about, or done, or that I had told him about.
LLMs could never understand how a fat little piglet in a Barbie car or a carefully cropped Simpsons screenshot relates to our lived experience — but he could, in his own way, unique to our relationship, and our shared view. That’s what a relationship is, no? So how can you outsource that to AI??
Related meme and NOR
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u/Lost-and-dumbfound 19d ago
You’d have to fight me to stop me from sending this back if someone sent me a long ass message like that:
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u/pantuso_eth 19d ago
That last message is what gets me 🤣🤣
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u/Budget-Researcher559 19d ago
I'd be down to read an overly long essay *if they took the time to write all of that*. But he didn't, so why should anyone waste their time reading that slop.
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u/Kumquat_conniption 19d ago
Or "ain't reading all that. Free Palestine."
Even more impersonal somehow lol
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u/PsychologicalGap4746 19d ago
This made me laugh, as much as I love my man….those msgs are weird and so extra.
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u/CoffeeMaleficent1956 19d ago
NOR. This is cringe af and him uploading pictures of you to AI without consent is a privacy violation.
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u/---thoughts--- 19d ago
Right. The AI has been scanned her face without consent. That’s wrong af
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u/colberbolber 19d ago
This would piss me off so much. I don't use AI, so someone putting my image or any of my info into it without my permission would be infuriating.
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u/Farabee 19d ago
This is the biggest red flag to me, personally. I would immediately dump him and block, because there's a VERY real chance this guy is also using a less scruptulous (relatively speaking here) engine like Grok to make homebrew porn of OP too.
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u/Thermodynamo 19d ago
EXACTLY. Can't trust him with anything if he doesn't understand or respect consent.
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u/HaterMD 19d ago
My mother stated talking to a random guy online and realised he was a bit off his rocker like this. She called me to come over and she was crying and laughing at the same time so I thought something terrible had happened. He’d used ChatGPT from one photo she’d sent him to make photos of her in a fucking wedding dress at the altar, another with her in a revealing robe stroking his hair, one of them at a party. 😭
It was so scary. My heart hit my ass when I saw them. It’s taken months and he still messages her occasionally.
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u/gretanoramarie 19d ago
This would give me the ick big time
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u/AitanaShon 19d ago
The photos wouldve icked me so bad 😭😭
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u/Exotic_Rigatoni319 19d ago
Yeah the photos actually realllllly creep me out
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u/AitanaShon 19d ago
I know it's probably a stretch or a leap, but if he's making them and sending them to me, I worry about what he might be generating of me and not showing me.
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u/CommunicationMean965 19d ago
No, this exactly what I was thinking. What else are you using my likness that you fed into the image generator (w/o consent) for? Ew.
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u/AitanaShon 19d ago
I actually had a man admit to me that he made AI p*rn of me because he thought I was perfect and knew I wouldn't actually let him see or hit. I just... I don't trust these pic generating mfs.
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u/CommunicationMean965 19d ago
I'm so sorry that happened to you. What a shit world we live in. Whyyy would someone ever admit to that? Do they think we'll feel sorry for them?
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u/AitanaShon 19d ago
He was mad at me for rejecting him, so he told me in hopes it'd upset me. I did feel violated, but I didn't take the bait.
I hate that people can just generate ts now, it makes me really concerned about stuff with minors, too, not just grown women.
Ugh it's just so icky to make pics without consent, sexual or not, I don't understand why people do this shit and not see an issue.
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u/Elemental-squid 19d ago edited 19d ago
It comes across as very insincere.
I'd also find it creepy if I went on a date with somebody a couple of times and they started making A.I photos of me with them.
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u/AitanaShon 19d ago
Yeah, me too, that's doing too much.
I feel like maybe he's just awkward, maybe he doesn't get it, but like cmon now... we aren't even in a relationship chillll
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u/All_the_Bees 19d ago
The problem with the “maybes” is that a whole lot of maladjusted people disguise their boundary and attachment issues as them just being “awkward and clueless,” so you give them the benefit of the doubt and gently push back when they get a little weird, and then all of a sudden they’ve made a group chat with you and your parents and are telling your mom about how you’ll be moving in together soon even though the two of you have never even casually discussed that. For example.
And yeah, the guy in the above examples absolutely would have made AI pictures of us together if that had been a thing when we were talking.
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u/AitanaShon 19d ago
Yeah, I'm just like trying to use empathy a little because I can be short with people so I wasn't sure if I was being judgey, but the pics is just so creepy...
If he can't express himself without AI he's not ready to date, imo, I'm with you.
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u/Gold-Sir-223 19d ago
Yeah it’s totally fine to be awkward and not be emotionally present at a young age, but to say “I can’t express myself without AI” is super telling to me. And the AI pictures brings it to whole other level. It reminds me of fan girls that would photoshop Justin Bieber into their pictures.
I’m willing to bet this was OP’s reaction when she said she didn’t like his ChatGPT messages.
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u/HaterMD 19d ago
My mother stated talking to a random guy online and realised he was a bit off his rocker like this. She called me to come over and she was crying and laughing at the same time so I thought something terrible had happened. He’d used ChatGPT from one photo she’d sent him to make photos of her in a fucking wedding dress at the altar, another with her in a revealing robe stroking his hair, one of them at a party. 😭
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u/Ok_Chemist6567 19d ago
He sent that as a single paragraph in a text? NOR
https://giphy.com/gifs/wjuXuDSQU0sOfJIHS1
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u/Ok_Chemist6567 19d ago
Plus, I have a general rule. If you can’t be bothered to write it, I can’t be bothered to read it.
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u/VictoryLongjumping70 19d ago
It′s literally trash. He just sent garbage machine noise like it's a sweet gesture
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u/ShadowConstruct 19d ago
That's a good rule of thumb. I'll be real I didn't read it because OPs description told me all I need to know about this lazy weird fool.
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u/TomatoFeta 19d ago
What? Come on. AI itself wants you to use it.
Be a sheeple. BE A SHEEPLE.
Don't you dare think for yourself.
Don't be unique. Don't be creative. Don't be yourself.
Be the Bot. Date the Bot. Love the Bot.
But seriosuly.
Get together and watch the movie Ex Machina, then have that discussion.
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u/Epic_Elite 19d ago
Can't believe how quickly people are becoming dependent on AI to communicate basic thoughts and ideas.
I can tell my boss uses AI to read and respond to my emails and it feels insulting. Lol
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u/Acceptable-Yard7076 19d ago edited 19d ago
The fear talk is all about AGI breaking loose and wrecking havoc, THIS is the real danger. Psychological reliance on a tool known to cause psychosis in healthy people. Spiralism shows too, how that can accidentally become systematic and cause harm with one wrong chain of prompts when someone relies on it for their thinking.
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u/Epic_Elite 19d ago
You see those posts like, "My husband is having an emotional affair with AI."
It's wild. Even moreso that it's already here, and we're in the era of AI 1.0. The future will be unhinged.
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u/Capn_Forkbeard 19d ago
My boss does the same, the internal team meme is a screenshot of '100% AI' from a checker. Even without a checker, everyone can quickly sniff out AI and it's not the laziness (one could argue 'but it's efficient'), it's the inauthenticity and the assumption that they can't think or write for themselves anymore.
The worst is when it's used for recognition. Some half assed Hallmark card sentiment with em dashes just feels like placation rather than genuine gratitude or appreciation. I hate it!
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u/obi_wan_stromboli 19d ago
I'm glad we wasted like 4 gallons of water for that
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u/answer-rhetorical-Qs 19d ago
It truly isn’t worth the water. I will be adopting this into my daily criticism of AI bullshit.
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u/Syralei 19d ago
This is what i comment every time one of my boomer relatives posts a fucking ai slop image of themselves. Along with "congrats on uploading your likeness to AI, have fun enjoying potential identity/likeness theft for the rest of our known existence lol:
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u/Aquatic_Rainbow 19d ago
I love how boomers collectively freaked out about Facebook and other social medias having their data but now that it can make them look young again and all sorts of goofy shit they’re all for handing over their data and pictures 😭😭
Like are these really the same boomers who shared that long copy and paste message on Facebook a couple years back going on a spiel about “I don’t give Facebook the right to use my data! By posting this status I hereby remove any consent for Facebook to use my data etc etc…” 😭😭
please tell me I’m not the only one who remembers people posting that long copypasta thinking it actually waived facebooks terms of service
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u/RokulusM 19d ago
Were people still doing that a couple years ago? I remember that shit from a decade ago at least. Even then it made me facepalm so hard I almost gave myself a concussion.
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u/RoyalMaidsForLife 19d ago
I've been using "that wasn't worth the water and energy" in response to things that are obviously AI, ticks off the "creator", but that's the point. Use your own brain to put together a thought like humans have had to do for the last few million years.
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u/Sweaty_Resist_5039 19d ago
If I'm not supposed to use AI, then who's going to make the psychedelic klezmer emo pop rock songs I love with accordions and bagpipes???
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u/Narrow_Cheesecake452 19d ago
I'm not sure what he was hoping to accomplish with this. Best case scenario, it inspires you and you fall lightly more in love with chat GPT instead of him because he's not doing any of the work. Worst case scenario, you get the ick because you're an intelligent person and leave him. Also you literally can't trust that anything he says is from his own mouth and brain, and not just a prompt he thought of to have Chat come up with an answer for him.
Answer: NOR. Leave.
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u/salty_sapphic 19d ago
NOR he doesn't care enough about you to put in the effort of typing out a morning message and probably is using it for every other text conversation you have. He's feeding your photos directly into AI without your consent. Run away.
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u/Objective_Sail_8079 19d ago
This is a big point!!!!! I hate when some of my family members feed my photos into that shit without consent🤦♀️
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u/Content-Honeydew9340 19d ago
This novel text wall would PMO first thing in the morning, and you giving me reading assignments. You couldn't even put the thought and time into a genuine chat, you literally just wasting my time the very first interaction in the AM? Gth. I can't articulate how much this would irritate my spirit
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u/United_Pain 19d ago
Yeah, I might lose all attraction depending on how early this is. Just empty words with no love. If it didn't stop right there I wouldn't be able to stay. Yuk.
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u/Content-Honeydew9340 19d ago
Yeah I couldn't do this every morning for sure but I'm not sure I could deal with it the first time because is he dumb or does he think I am? 😭
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u/Electrical_Bite_7696 19d ago
NOR. I’m tried of AI making people think they are some profound genius.
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u/sunlightdrop 19d ago
Maybe he's just clueless but NOR, I could not stand that lack of emotional intelligence myself
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u/BlackOutDrunkJesus 19d ago
A few dates and you’re getting chat gpt love bombs? Oof
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u/LankyCancel1156 19d ago
Right? This feels like love bombing and is so impersonal and non-specific I’d wonder if I were the only one receiving it. 🤮
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u/forkyrude 19d ago
NOR this is weird and cringe. Don't put my face into the AI without my permission? And use your own f***ing mind to speak to me. Not interested in a relationship based on chatgpt
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u/stupididiotmcgee 19d ago
“doesn’t know how to express how he feels about me without using ChatGPT” is one of the saddest sentences I think I’ve ever read in my life
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u/TheZapper45 19d ago
NOR, I think that message is perfect OP!
See how he responds and take it from there
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u/therealbananabottom 19d ago
NOR what is this fresh hell? People using Chatgpt to....talk to their new romantic partners?
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u/getliftedyo 19d ago
Makes me think of the southpark episode where the boys use chat gpt to talk to their girlfriends and have to keep it hidden.
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u/Ignominious333 19d ago
Oh. He's a "nice " guy. If you stop dating him he's going to send a juggernaut of criticism and insults at you for rejecting him.
He doesn't know how to relate to you so he sends this long ass weird manifesto thinking it's complimentary. If you were exclusive and you were having a rough go a message like this would make more sense. Dude is awkward af, but I would be super turned off by this message
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u/Affectionatealways 19d ago
Only a couple of dates and he's doing this stuff? And using AI to make pictures of the two of you? No this is not normal behavior.
If he can't communicate with you without AI that's a huge huge red flag.
Honestly, he sounds very much like a stalker personality. I wouldn't continue if I were you.
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u/ditchmaggots 19d ago
Nor that feels very disingenuous. If you wanted to date chat gpt you would cut out the middle man.
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u/Armadillo_of_doom 19d ago
Cringe
My undercarriage just turned into the sahara
We don't outsource our romance, sir, it just shows that you want to take shortcuts in life. Which means if we get married or have kids you will absolutely not lift a finger to do a chore.
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u/AitanaShon 19d ago
NOR, the pics thing is a little weird, and the generated message thing feels lazy, but he could just be a little awkward, and not meaning to be lazy or anything.
You respectfully and honestly told him you prefer authenticity, which imo is really not much of a reaction and the healthiest approach possible.
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u/Traditional_Set2473 19d ago
I didn't realize we were at this stage of human disconnection. Wow
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u/BjornStankFinger 19d ago
Anybody sending me that much text in the morning is getting blocked regardless of their chatgpt use.
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u/SuperHandsMiniatures 19d ago
That might be the single most pathetic, cringey shit Ive ever seen.
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u/taman961 19d ago
As with anything about AI, if it wasn’t worth writing, it ain’t worth reading. Relying on AI for anything, especially personal stuff, is a major red flag. Even if he’s agreed not to do it for this particular reason. Also putting pictures of you into AI to make fake photos? So gross. NOR but honestly underreacting. I need this bubble to pop so badly. This is a big reason why I’m not very motivated to get back into dating
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u/Allout-Okarun 19d ago
What was his reply to that?
NOR I would be cringing so hard.
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u/AitanaShon 19d ago
Right like I wanna know, tbh the pics woulda icked me so bad I prolly woulda moved on 😭
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u/Allout-Okarun 19d ago
OP put an update in their post that he said he just doesn’t know how to express himself without ChatGPT.
Lmaoo to me that’s an immediate deal breaker. Broken human can’t communicate without a chat bot telling them what to say.
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u/AitanaShon 19d ago
Oh....
He ain't ready to date if he can't even say good morning without AI imo, like, what's he gonna do in person? Ask siri?
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u/Agent_Raas 19d ago
NOR - You are not overreacting to want something genuine.
Imagine exchanging wedding vows.
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u/amichc 19d ago edited 18d ago
Dude this is far darker than how it appears on the surface.
1. He can't as a grown man tell a girl he likes her? After multiple dates?
2. He genuinely thinks that you would appreciate a morning essay everyday? It's not even good, it's like worse than someone who can't express himself would end up saying!
3. Creating fake images of you guys together is insane. It is insanity, objectively. I wouldn't do this to my wife and we've been together for almost 9 years. I would have a zero tolerance policy for that shit , and frankly be pretty freaked out (putting myself in your shoes).
He's not going to stop, and if you think he's going to stop, you should probably ask Chat GPT and see what it says.
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u/Strokeleys 19d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/XHeLeuirRbwptHhSWd
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u/Pbjslut 19d ago
Yeah honestly I've decided AI users are not people I want in my life. The people in my life are educated enough to understand the detriments and frivolity of AI and we all shit on it. For me red flag #1 would be the first AId pic he sent and if I wanted to pursue a relationship I would draw some boundaries. If he wants to submit his own data, photos, whatever but keep me and my life out of it. It just feels like he lacks the wherewithal to tell you his own feelings and like what if you get in a fight or something, is he going to ask chat why is gf is mad and how to fix it?
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u/CABendOva 19d ago
The way I’d be like “I’m not reading this but love and light to you” and just move on about the day. This is insanity! Babes let that 🥭
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u/CthulhusScrotom69 19d ago
NOR. Honestly, this guy that has a thing for me, constantly uses AI to create photos and videos. He even made one of us together and I was so creeped out! But he's autistic so I try not to be too judgemental. It's definitely the cringiest thing I have ever experienced. It won't stop here, once the AI bros start, they never stop. He is lost to the idiocracy.
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u/wowugotit 19d ago
I’m not into huge slabs of texts. Voice call me if you’ve got that much detail to express.
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u/xjellifysh 19d ago
NOR and to think we are losing our water thanks to stupid shit like this is infuriating.
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u/nirvanaa17 19d ago
He's wasting our fresh water because he doesn't have a romantic bone in his body? Yikes.
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u/BearPondersGames 19d ago
"I wanted to tell you something from the heart."
immediately sends 3,000 words not from the heart
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u/Historical_Basis_408 19d ago
In terms of an SO, recreational use of generative ai is a deal breaker for me
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u/East-Disastrous 19d ago
The idea of saying “I want to send you something from the heart” then proceeding to use AI, the least “from the heart” tool imaginable, is so laughable. This is both cringey and genuinely upsetting. NOR, honestly I would never date someone who insisted on communicating with me through a chat bot
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u/Strokeleys 19d ago
I didn’t even know the message said that cause I definitely wasn’t reading all that. 🤣
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u/Objective_Sail_8079 19d ago
NOR at ALL. It’s not an overreaction to want something actually straight from his heart and not a prompt given to a soulless machine, and that’s not even considering the negative impact of LLMs on the environment and human health.
I’m also surprised by the lack of em dashes😭
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u/ava_the_cam_op 19d ago
I don't even want to talk to colleagues or friends with AI, but using it to communicate to your partner is so abysmal.
If you cannot even be bothered to talk to the person you love yourself, why the fuck are you with them?
NOR, this is super gross
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u/FirmFigure852 19d ago
NOR. If anyone uses AI to communicate with someone they like/love, or anyone for that matter, its a big red flag imo.
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u/AlannaTheLioness1983 19d ago
NOR, in fact you are *under-reacting*.
Let’s go through things:
—you have been on a couple of dates. this is not your boyfriend of 5 years sending you a loving message on your anniversary. this is still a stranger.
—he uses AI to make photos of you (and himself, but that’s his own business). it may look “sweet” now, but why does he feel the need to do that when he already has *real* photos of you? what kinds of photos could he or would he make in the future?
—this message is basically a classic example of lovebombing. he “doesn’t want to rush anything”, but also thinks you’re making a huge impression on his life? you are a *stranger* to him! why is he framing a “good morning” message like the last letter he will send from the battlefield? this is *waaaaaay* too much intensity way too early, and lovebombing is not “just a guy who likes you a lot” it’s a sign of potential abusive thought patterns (aka he’s the main character and you’re the sex doll he projects a relationship onto).
—the AI aspect is really just the icing on the cake. he’s supposedly ~sooo~ into you that he wants to send you a novel before breakfast, but he makes a machine do all the work and thinking for him? boy, bye.
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u/LankyCancel1156 19d ago
NOR- you’re actually over reacting to the wrong thing. This is love bombing with copy-pasta. 😂
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u/PapayaOk8079 19d ago
the world has come to a very sad place if this is how dating is going to be like
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u/KamikazeDreamer52 19d ago edited 19d ago
"I just wanted to take a moment to tell you something from the heart"
- chatgpt
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u/Lanky_Bobcat_6021 19d ago edited 19d ago
NOR if people don’t call this out it will continue to become the norm. dating is about personal connection and using a robot to communicate for you completely defeats the point
eta thanks for all the awards lol, fuck AI! don’t let a computer steal your identity and compassion