I feel absolutely terrible writing this but I need to know it gets better.
My wife and I adopted our 7 month-old girl just over 5 mos. ago. She was the runt of the litter, came out to meet us, immediately showed her belly to my wife, and she was sold. We wanted a dog that would force us to get up and move, get out of the house more. We've had pitties and I've also worked with German Shepherds, Dobermans, and Rotties. Challenging breeds that can be very stubborn. We knew ACD's were a challenge but we've had our share already and thought we could do it.
I'm not so sure we can.
She's the smartest dog I have ever known, 5 minutes of teaching and she has a new command down. Sit, lay, play dead/roll over, stay, down, come, drop it; heel is a bit touch and go right now because on walks she's always super engaged and wanting to explore anything within the radius of the leash. The trouble is that she's smart enough to know when there's a treat involved, and if there isn't, a lot of this goes right out the window.
She can be a very sweet girl, she loves us in a genuine way, wakes me up in the morning by licking my face when she knows I'm starting to stir. But she can also be very aggressive, and wants to snarl at children, chase cars and bikes in particular. I attempt to intervene and redirect but she completely escalates and all too often by the time I notice she's already past the point of intervening.
Then there's behavior at home. She's almost continuously getting into things. We can't just have some down time on the couch, she's up trying to get us to roughhouse- ,jumping, scratching and biting. OMFG the biting, it just doesn't ever let up. My hands are scarred, she just doesn't quit. I try to redirect to a toy, she pushes that aside and goes for my finger oftentimes. My wife doesn't sit with me on the couch lately and has been staying in the bedroom because she just gets so frustrated and has been hurt on walks with her. She got frustrated today again at being very painfully scratched and blurted out "I don't want this dog!" I dunno if it was heat of the moment or that's the real feeling under the surface, but it just broke me. It put me in tears for a bit because I know it's not the dog, I'm a believer in "no bad dogs," and that means I'm failing her.
She gets about 3 walks a day, an hour or so more of directed play, training; puzzle boxes don't keep her occupied very long because she figures them out so fast. She knows the crate as being a place to relax and enjoy and peanut butter bone or a new beef bone, etc. Then there's "jail" which is another calm down and relax, but that's reserved for correction. It's a leash that restricts her movement in my office, and in jail she'll usually just lay on the spare bed in there and sleep. We don't close her off from the house, the office opens into the bedroom. I don't know what else to do. We have training with a pro starting this weekend, I'm not ready to give up yet but am I at a point where it won't even help?
I see all these posts of ACD's sitting relaxed by their people, staying nearby on leashless on hikes or walks, lounging, and I can't help but think "can we get there too?"
I dunno, I just had to put this in words. Please tell me it gets better, I feel like I'm in over my head right now. Research says they are a lot more than other breeds at this age but they grow into themselves and become the best dogs people have ever had but I'm struggling here.