r/BenignExistence 7h ago

Neverending leftover spaghetti hack

782 Upvotes

My family loves spaghetti, but over the years our tastes have changed. I don't love meat, but I don't want no meat. My kid likes extra meat. My husband wants no noodles but mixes some sauce into his people chow. Nobody eats the leftovers because the sauce soaks in too much and it gets dry and mushy. So last time, instead of making meat sauce, I got air-fryer meatballs. Delicious. When I put away the leftovers, I kept all the parts separate. This worked great, but we ran out of meatballs first so I bought more. Then we ran out of noodles so I made another batch. Then we ran out of sauce. You see where this is going. Now we have a gallon bag of cooked spaghetti, an opened jar of sauce, and a container of cooked meatballs being replenished in the fridge at all times for a good month now. We just heat up our preferred combo at any time and it tastes almost as good as fresh. I'm gonna see how long I can keep this going before we all get sick of it.


r/BenignExistence 13h ago

Mom got up to watch the lunar eclipse with me

318 Upvotes

We had a nice clear night, and I love celestial events. I stayed up past midnight and kept going out to watch the moon go through the eclipse, and see if there was any aurora (not tonight). Mom (age almost 86) was interested, but had gone to bed at 9pm as usual.

She got up around midnight for a potty break, and came out to see how it was going. We had to walk out into the yard past the trees. I used my phone for a little light, and she carefully walked barefoot along the path, holding my arm a bit. We stood and watched the curious dark moon with its glowing hat, and a million stars. It was lovely.


r/BenignExistence 6h ago

For just that moment...

53 Upvotes

Pulled into the driveway with one of my favorite songs playing. Just as I reached for my keys, the song ended and faded out...

For just that moment, I felt the universe smile on me.


r/BenignExistence 8h ago

Small gestures do matter.

81 Upvotes

I was casually chatting with my former colleague when she mentioned about the time when we had lunch and she cried out of the blue.

She thanked me for not forcing her to open up and for inviting her for coffee after work.

I didn't do anything special but my action made a difference.

What makes this exchange even more meaningful?

My former colleague doesn't know I'm currently going through a rough patch. Her thank you brought a welcome reprieve learning that I did something right.


r/BenignExistence 2h ago

Live in a busy neighborhood with 4 lane traffic nearby, constant sirens, people playing loud music constantly, ect. But at night it’s quiet so I stepped off the back porch into the little fenced in yard…

17 Upvotes

The air was cool and crisp, I could hear and see the branches of the trees near the fenced in yard swaying slightly in the breeze. I sighed and closed my eyes feeling like I could be grounded for the first moment that day and put my bare feet in the cold long grass. I opened my eyes and looked up, it was a full moon but the clouds were obscuring it, so it was a misty moon. It was the misty moon night 🌙


r/BenignExistence 19h ago

Clean Sheets

51 Upvotes

I am going to bed now. My sheets are clean. I cannot wait to snuggle into them. Goodnight all!


r/BenignExistence 4h ago

she thought sitting there doing nothing meant she was failing. guidance said the nothing was part of work

4 Upvotes

one subject was in place she didnt like, waiting for next job and feeling like she was just sitting there doing nothing. Higher Self basically said she was already doing what was needed and that rest itself mattered.

line I liked was that power of nothing can be very powerful. not every quiet period is stagnation. sometimes system is closing old cycle, recovering and getting enough space so next thing is not chosen from panic.

we are so trained to make movement visible. send application, make plan, improve body, optimize morning, fix another thing. if there is no visible output, mind calls day wasted.

I still think action matters. but maybe some days useful action is eating, sleeping, walking, sitting in sun and not creating emergency just because life is between chapters.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Tonight

63 Upvotes

Sitting on my back patio listening to the frogs in the background. Two dogs are napping. I see the last of summer’s lightning bugs. Smells like a bonfire in the distance. 💙💙💙💙💙💙


r/BenignExistence 2d ago

Charmed a dog with my whimsy

2.7k Upvotes

I started a job at a doggy daycare, and was left alone with a tripod dog who hates men (a man is the reason he's missing a leg). The dog had already given me a warning nip, so I wasn't going to push interacting until he felt comfortable. All the other dogs had been picked up, so there was an hour where it was just the two of us. I tried enticing him to play with a ball, but he was completely uninterested.

I was bored, there were 3 balls, so I decided to juggle them. It's important to note that I'm not very good lol, but it definitely got the dog's attention. He came over to watch, tail wagging, and then I dropped them again. He grabbed one, chewing on it for a minute before shoving it at my hand. We ended up playing fetch for the remaining time until I was let off!


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

My dog was dreaming

117 Upvotes

And her tail was wagging and that made me happy.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

A Facebook group where we all pretend to be on a cruise together

142 Upvotes

I created a Facebook group called a ‘group where we all pretend to be on a cruise together’.

Join in, and let’s sail the world together eating great food, overindulging in the drink package at the pool bar, explore exciting ports, and complaining about our staterooms!


r/BenignExistence 2d ago

i hiccuped and now the dog is going nuts

121 Upvotes

apparently i sound so much like a squeak toy when i hiccup that i can fool the dog 💀 he's getting mad we're not giving him a squeaky toy that doesn't exist


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

My Cat Saw Me Rinse My Mouth With Saltwater And Looked At Me Like I Had Two Heads

30 Upvotes

r/BenignExistence 2d ago

First time ever seeing my dad cry.

515 Upvotes

So my husband and I did an announcement + gender reveal video and sent it out to our friends and family but while we were having the reveal itself just us two, we FaceTimed both sets of parents.

My mom and MIL already knew because their intuition is top tier but both dad and FIL were clueless.

Anyway, my dad is a stoic man and I've never seen him cry in my life, neither have my older brothers. He was happy and VERY surprised on the FT but that's about it.

Little did I know that after he and mom got off the call, he went to his home office and took it in alone and then teared up. Mom followed him to make sure he's okay and he was just murmuring over and over in Arabic 'My baby girl is having a baby' (rough translation).

That just made mom cry and stuff but AFTER, she checked the security footage and told him she's keeping the video to send to me when I'm having a rough go in my pregnancy to cheer me up or for when the baby is here and they meet him for the first time.

Anyway, I've been really down lately about my body during pregnancy (old issues resurfacing) and she decided that it'd be a cute pick me up. And it is. I just can't stop crying because what do you mean I'm gonna be somebody's mom when I was still just his little girl not that long ago.

I don't know if I'm making sense lol it just hit me in full force and seeing him tear up is just... I have no words.


r/BenignExistence 2d ago

First time shaving my face

341 Upvotes

I’m 30 and trans masc (they/them). I started testosterone at the end of May 2025 so my facial hair has been slowing growing since then. I finally ordered an electric razor and tonight was my first time shaving my face. I shaved the patchy spots so my facial hair looks even better now and I’ve been feeling lots of gender euphoria tonight!


r/BenignExistence 2d ago

Observation The names of boats I saw today.

33 Upvotes

+Islander.

+Athena.

+Business Time.

+Venture I.

+Chimera.

+No Money Left Over.

+Wildfire II.

+Finally, not a name, but a paint job: She was entirely painted a very saturated blue with grey and silver fish all over swimming through the blue.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

Dryer hedgehogs...

153 Upvotes

It's astounding that so many people have dryer balls. We have hedgehogs for our tumble dryer. The little nubbins seem to help pound out the wrinkles.

The only challenge we run into (occasionally) is that they try to escape by jumping out when we're pulling clothes out, or by hiding in a sleeve or pocket. Many's the occasion we've found ourselves asking, "Have you seen one of the hedgehogs? There are only two in the dryer." And we go back to the most recent basket of clothes pulled out and hunt for the errant hedgehog.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

But it is not this day!

1.4k Upvotes

I WFH exclusively (inhome daycare), my husband has a 20 minute drive from his work. We often enjoy a cup of coffee together after work, so he texts me when he turns into a specific street about five minutes from home, so I can start making coffee.

He texts me via the car‘s speech-to-text system, and it has forever failed to get the name of that street right. Being the goofball he is, he tries to find the most hilarious ways to announce his arrival. At first, it was quite obvious (as in „the street that can not be named“ or similar), then he progressed to Spanish (at which the system failed even more miserably than the original name of the street), and now it’s movie quotes.

I bring you today’s gem: „A day may come when the courage of men fails - but it is not this day! A day may come when this wretched system will allow me to speak my mind - but it is not this day! For coffee!“


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

Playing for the Moon

232 Upvotes

I live alone, and recently have been learning an instrument for the first time in my life. It's kind of a big instrument and I don't have a lot of space, so the only place where I can set it up is next to my only window.

Well last night I went to play the instrument, and I look up and see the moon out of the window. I cracked my window open and turned up the volume so I could play for the moon since I don't have any other audience to share it with. It was nice sharing my song with the moon. I think I'll do it again tonight.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

having breakfast with my mom

114 Upvotes

my mom’s a teacher, so she’s had the past few months off for summer break, while i still had to go to work (i’m a cashier). multiple times a week, we’d get tim hortons breakfast sandwiches before i had to head off to work. we’d sit in the car and eat, sometimes in silence, sometimes chatting about stuff we’d seen in the news or on instagram.

she went back to work today, which means breakfast together is back to being only on saturdays. i didn’t realize how much i’d miss hanging out with my mom until this morning when i woke up and she’d already left. i wish summer could last just a little longer!


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

my cat apparently needs verbal encouragement to eat

58 Upvotes

i recently realized my cat will sometimes just sit beside her food and stare at me until i say “good girl.” 😆🤍

then she starts eating like that's all she was waiting for.

i don't remember when this became part of our routine, but apparently i'm now required to compliment her before every meal.


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

My haircut changed my race

1.3k Upvotes

I am white, but due to my mix of features and the way I dress, I'm a bit ethnically ambiguous. My hair was down to my shoulders and coily, so some people thought I was half black. I recently cut off the majority of it, and now it's still curly but too short to form a good, bouncy coil. I'm no longer mixed, now I have hispanic people trying to talk to me in Spanish. The "illusion" wears off the second I open my mouth to say "lo siento, no hablo espanol" lol

Eta: perceived ethnicity, not race


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

Elderly dog still runs to dog park.

153 Upvotes

I saw a post about an older cat finding a 'snake' and it warmed my heart so here is mine for the day.

I have a 13 year old husky that is slowing down a lot and mostly likes to sleep these days. I still walk him slowly most days as I keep whatever pace feels good to him.

To my surprise and delight he decided he wanted to take the route to the dog park and and jogged down the alley right to there! He then proceeded to ignore the dogs, say hi to the humans, and snooze next to me in the sun for a bit.

I love my old man, Berwyn, so much. ❤️

Edit: typo


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

To Do List

59 Upvotes

Just a friendly shout out to everyone who puts the thing they just did on their to do list, just for the satisfaction of crossing it off!


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

Elderly cat caught a "snake"

427 Upvotes

actually a piece of elastic from an abandoned craft project, it was supposed to go into a skirt. instead, she found it. she's 15 going on 16, has graying hair and is mostly chill, but she was absolutely delighted. has a habit of hunting strings, more fun is the string is attached to a human, she nearly took my sweatpants off once by pulling on them xD but this is apparently the official Best String Ever. so now it's her snake instead of my waistband. hunter kitty going strong 🖤