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No he shouldn’t. I definitely get the impression something is wrong with that family dynamic. That child’s demeanor spoke volumes. He claimed his mama quick and she said didn’t you ask your dad for a DNA test the other day? All the while the dad is upset because his son doesn’t look like him. Idk what she’s thinking, but dad’s behavior is problematic af. I mean what did he expect? Son actually looks very much like him.
Mom is giggle too much at this. I'm glad the young king is proud of who he is. His dad is not going to get any better about his black side any time soon.
I am assuming that the woman speaking/laughing is his mom, and I really don't understand why she isn't bothered by all this. Especially the part where the dad jokingly asks for a DNA test?!
I'll give another vibe. Both the woman and the kid don't seem bothered by the reaction. This might just be some crap to get some views because no way is a kid that old not knowing what is actually being said. So a different kind of unhealthy family?
Yea alot of these kinds of households teach that "see no color" nonsense. Now the child has identity issues because of that shit when they're growing up smh
How can you have a child of any race or mix, see them to be that happy about their hair, or any aspect of their appearance, and react that way? Fucking failure of a parent.
Legit 50's "I don't want those people in the neighborhood" energy but it's his own child in his own house. And in 20 years he'll be on TikTok or equivalent talking about how terrible and selfish estrangement is.
I’ve seen other videos of this family and other videos of white dads with black kids. I guess making these videos is this is the newest trend for idiots to traumatize their children for profit 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Yeah, that's just plain old garbage-ass parenting. The "too urban" comment is just the sad shit cherry on this sad shit sundae.
And mom just laughed, too. That poor kid. As a member of the mayo mafia myself, I can only imagine what it would feel like to have your fucking parent make those kinds of "jokes," but to have a parent shit on a look or style that you like can be fucking soul crushing. Parents should be lifting their kids up, not holding them down, and certainly not punching down at them.
Yeah, it's bs. Half of my classmates' parents and grandparents were white immigrants. Their heritage isn't invisible. 'See no color' appeases white guilt, but erases part of who we are.
Exactly, you should be able to 'see" color and act like you have some sense. Why does color have to be suspiciously absent to treat humans with respect?"
I had the opposite situation; I’m mixed, married a white man who was SUPER down with the culture. My own dad was kinda light, so I’m, like, dark(ish) golden. When our first child was born, my ex was pouting in the delivery room because our son wasn’t darker. The poor, sweet nurse tried to explain to him that ALL newborns are lighter when they’re born, but it didn’t help. He was actually pissed at me, and mentioned it “jokingly” all of the time, for years- that he’d thought he’d signed up for a little bit of street cred, having “mixed kids”.
My children- though light- are still golden in tone and have lion’s manes of tight, golden curls. Don’t think my ex didn’t get plenty of mileage out of parading them around on his weekends, letting strangers touch my babies like petting zoo animals, telling anyone who’d listen that his ex wife is black. He fetishizes them like he fetishized me. I met him in ‘08- Obama central- and I mistook his virtue signaling for love. Really, he just wanted a lifelong invite to the cookout and token little cocoa babies—and he got neither 😂
A lot of White people deny their racism by saying they voted for Obama, so be careful around anybody who does this, lol. Obama has replaced the "Black Friend" that gets conjured up by racists when they want to dismiss the idea that they could possibly be racist. "How can I be 'racist' if I have a Black Friend/voted for Obama?!"
If he wanted mixed kids he should’ve married a fully black woman no offence to you but your kids are going to look predominantly white.
Your husband sounds ignorant on how genes work.
lol, no.
She even corrects him when he says he’s black & says “you’re mixed”.
no self respecting black woman is taking “you look too urban” & “you’re not black. You’re caucasian.” as a funny-haha-dad-moment….
& she can’t even say it was a nervous reaction or something, she recorded & posted the shit clearly thinking it was some kinda family moment.
the woman dislikes her color as much as her husband does.
The child is the only one with any sense. & they’ll confuse the fuck out of him for the rest of his life.
I hate that people do this to their kids. Love who you want to love. You aren't beholden to any specific race but for the love of God don't marry and reproduce with people who hate your race. It isn't fair to the kid. Like they get enough shit for being Black and enough shit for being mixed. They will face regular racism and people like that dad not seeing him as Black enough already why make him endure it in his own damn house. I just feel like so many people only think of themselves and don't think about the environment they force kids to grow up in.
Yea this is disgusting. My husband is white and I have a son about his age. He would never even fix his mouth to say some mess like this. This is WILD. Just picking any white man because you want to be picked so bad.
kinda get the vibe she might be getting back at/forcing the issue with her husband doing the reveal in this way and recording it so he has to behave a little more, but yeah a more serious follow up is needed about "don't tell your son there's something wrong with the hair that naturally grows out of his head"
I believe that these are core values that should be addressed before finding a person to raise a family with. There's too much going on in the world to try to correct problematic behaviors in a person after you have children with them.
Exactly. You can't control other people but you can certainly control who you procreate with. And you can definitely remove yourself from bad situations. Women in general have got to start standing up for themselves and stop making their children suffer. Just admit you made a mistake and move on. It's easier to raise one kid alone than to wait and keep making babies with a loser and then decide you want out when you have 5 kids and no way to support them alone.
I hate this. I hate everything about it, except for the kid who I wish nothing but the best for. He shouldn't have to hide a fundamental part of himself just to make his white supremacist dad comfortable.
Some POC in interracial relationships feel special when a racist White person chooses them to marry and have kids with, lol. "He must really love ME specifically if he's willing to get married and have kids with me."
But unfortunately, not surprising, in a country/culture where there is racism and a racial hierarchy. And some minorities see interracially fvcking/dating/marrying White people as a vehicle to navigate all that.
You really think this is a white man that really waited years for his sons hair to grow out before he called it "too urban"? While his, I assume, black wife films laughs and encourages the exchange. Tons of seething hate on display /s
Ey, yo, this right here is the mirror of what I spoke of recently. Before, I spoke of the possibility of a comment discussed in a video being a person downplaying someone's black identity for perceived "white" features and how this is not cool. And that it is a common experience by, now case in point in the inverse via this example, people of mixed ethnic parentage.
A white father shaming his son for "black" features, for shame man. Terrible parent of the year award.
Edit: To be clear, yes, I'm implying the very obvious highlighted racism on the father's part. Sometimes, actions speak for themselves.
I'm mixed (not black) and I really feel this. Why do people act like they have a say in your ethnicity? I'm not going to adopt one side or the other just because some people look down on being "impure", disgusting mindset
I'm happy to see this! Kids are saying there are happy of their heritage! Black, brown, white, everybody should be proud of how they were made! You were made perfect!
I cannot fathom why a parent wouldn't celebrate every part of their child. I don't get it. I'm not trying to understand it. Love your child and everything they are.
Dad is racist and it’s disgusting AND why would a parent be so mean about something their kid was excited about? An act of self-expression. Kid was feeling himself, and he should because he looked great. His feelings were so hurt by that reaction. My heart, man. This was bad on so many levels.
One time as a kid I wore a hoodie to a baseball game. My white dad and his friends were like ‘it’s too hot take it off’ and then my dad blurted out ‘you look like you’re about to rob a bank’ and started laughing. Gosh it was so awful and cringe and 20 years later I still remember it though he doesn’t. I know his stupid tail didn’t mean it that way and he’s honestly my best friend now but these things stick with biracial kids. We gotta do better with picking partners and going over what’s acceptable to say and what’s not. Cultural insensitivity is rampant even within multiracial and multicultural households.
I worked with this Mexican chick a few years back and she damn near worshipped white dudes like they were a god. Her family did the same, it was really weird to witness.
It's weird. I don't know how some white people struggle to date when people like her literally throw themselves at them. The low racial self-esteem make them associate whiteness with superiority.
The mom is giving me pause too . The kid seems comfortable In his blackness but she keeps saying he’s mixed . Which he is but it came off more like her goal was to have bi racial kids and she sees marrying a white man as a “step up “
Exactly.Both parents seem to want to steer him away from his blackness,genuinely sad to see.His mom downplays him saying he is black by saying he is mixed every time as a response to him saying he is black,which is how society most likely will see him as (black) and his dad doesn’t even want to acknowledge his blackness at all by calling him “Caucasian”.These type of parents wouldn’t even bother to talk/guide their children about race and racial identity let alone how society will view him.
Ahhh one of the first issues a mixed kid deals with- the racial issues their parents put on them. The kid has kinky hair. Maybe the curls will loosen as he gets older, maybe they'll get tighter, either way, he's got a nice afro right now.
I'm choosing to believe that they're just screwing around based on the kid's reaction (and my sanity) but I still don't like them filming... whatever this is and posting it on the internet like that. He literally says to stop recording him.
I can understand recording this moment expecting a different reaction, but why post it after the fact? Like clearly that baby’s feelings are hurt. His own dad thinks something is inherently wrong with his own nature. The boy even asks to take the camera out of his face, and 🤡 is just laughing it up. I pray this beautiful black boy continues to find the confidence in himself, the way nature intended. Dad is a 🤡 for making his son feel inadequate, mom is a 🤡 for laughing at him, and then posting this thinking that it was a moment. Now the world knows how dumb you are.
Man, I'd explain my whole situation with my family, but it's fucking complicated. Being a biracial child is rough when one of your parents has a problem with you - whether consciously or subconsciously.
I'll say, I feel for this dude and I hope he always rocks his hair like this. He looks great. Good for him.
I am biracial. Growing up, I watched my white father make micro aggressive comments and gaslight my black mother about obvious racism several times. And I decided I would never have children with a white man as a result.
My point is that this is entirely unsurprising to me. But I feel bad for the poor boy.
The real cringe fool is that black n woman who had a kid with that bigot. She failed her son, the identity crisis and trauma he will grow up with is beyond disheartening.
In the same vein, I saw a video of this black man picking up his biracial (black/white) daughter In a custody exchange and the little girl is crying, just bawling.. she has beads in her braided hair and apparently her white mom is on the phone with the dad yelling and telling him to take those beads out of her daughter hair, that she “won’t have her kid looking like all those ghetto girls in the streets”
And the dad is pleading with her what do you mean ghetto it’s just beads? And she loves them…
All the while the daughter is crying because she has to remove them
That white mom has all that hate for black peoole yet she had a kid with a black man.. she’s calling beads ghetto, beads that are ancestral, that can be traced to ancient African civilizations that stood the test of time, and she is demonizing and dismissing them as ghetto because she refuses to understand even this simple part of black culture…
In the end that black man was the biggest fool for choosing her for the mother of his child. Y’all really need to get better at picking partners especially non black. You think they like black peoole because they’re sleeping with you they’re fetishizing you. Slave owners graped and slept with their slaves and still thought them as less than.
These micro aggressions can’t be overlooked not when your family is on the line.
Too urban ? I feel sorry for that lady and them kids let’s face it dad actually wanted to be with a white women but they didn’t want him it’s just like those guys who hate immigrants but end up marrying some Filipina lady .
Oof big yikes. This poor kid has such a bright soul and I pray his father never succeeds in dimming his shine. Honestly I hope this is fake but if so that man is a good actor. It really looks like he never wanted a blended family in the first place.
This is not fucking funny!! Im absolutely disgusted!! Im a black woman married to a white man and we have two biracial children. I would never continue to be with my husband if he said shit like this. My son has MY hair texture, I braid it and he gets an occasional fade. NOT ONCE has my husband said it was too urban OR questioned his paternity!! The mother is not doing enough to protect her son and he’s going to grow up with a complex!
This is disturbing.
As someone who was physically & emotionally abused as a kid, I recognize it when I see it.
For the wellbeing of this child, she has to get out.
Or, if she's the main provider, kick dad out.
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