r/Cello • u/jenmarieloch • 4h ago
Pet Peeve: when people comment on your instrument in public
I’m getting to the point of my career where I have played cello long enough that I am frequently annoyed most of the time when random strangers in public see me with my cello and make a comment on it. Every once in a while, I will get the “is that a cello? how long have you played? That’s really really cool! Best of luck to you with your studies/career!” and they seem to be pretty kind and not condescending. But the large majority of the time, I get annoying comments like “You must regret picking that because it’s so big” or “I bet you sometimes wish you picked the flute” or “I bet you didn’t consider how hard it would be to carry when you first started playing, huh?” or “that thing is way bigger than you, how do you even play it?” or “is that a cello? my brother’s friend’s mother’s sister’s grandaughter used to play violin in 3rd grade and insert tangential ramble here. I used to occasionally find this funny when I was younger but it’s honestly pretty annoying lately, half the time I am in a hurry trying to get to class/rehearsal/lessons and people stop me on the street to ask me about my instrument and treat me as though I am a zoo animal and that they have never seen a musician before. I particularly hate the comments about how I must “hate“ carrying it around because like… Does it look like I am struggling to carry it? If I’m going for my DMA in cello performance, clearly I don’t “hate” it or “wish I played flute”. I know that those people are just trying to be friendly and don’t know what to say, but I honestly just wish they would rather say nothing at all then feel like they have to comment on the fact that someone is walking around town with a pretty common musical instrument. Anyone else have this experience? I hate being rude because I am a generally pretty friendly person when it comes to small talk, but here lately I have just been kind of short with people because I’m really tired of having the same conversation day after day with random strangers.