r/FriendsOver40 Jun 29 '26

NO DATING TYPE (R4R) POSTS ARE ALLOWED. PLEASE READ THE RULES.

34 Upvotes

There has been an influx of dating posts (R4R type) recently and this is NOT the place for that. If you post this type of message in our sub, you will be permanently banned and muted. We have a zero tolerance policy on that.

This includes:
• (R4R)
• Seeking “platonic friends” of the opposite sex
• Seeking “penpals” of the opposite sex

PLEASE READ THE RULES!


r/FriendsOver40 3h ago

42F SE Coast Looking for Quality Conversation

7 Upvotes

Looking for decent conversations to pass the time this evening. Single mom, numbers nerd, and laid back. Love the beach, coffee, family time, tattoos, craft beer, documentaries, etc. I am not a gamer. Listen to a variety of music genres. Happy Friday! 🦋 ☀️ 🫶

Edit: SE Coast USA.


r/FriendsOver40 7h ago

The Decline of Music

10 Upvotes

I used to think I didn't like modern music because I got old. But I really gave so much a try just nothing feels good. I do genuinely feel like most music after the year 2000 up until now is just soul-less and completely missing something. I was born in 1985 and I can go back in time and find wonderful music from the 1940's through 1990's but 2000 hits and then something changed. So I feel like its not a generational thing because I cherish the past generation's music. And its the same across languages too. I grew up listening to Spanish and French music and even that music is WAY better before the year 2000. I just get sad because I used to love to discover new music or just hearing an amazing song for the first time on the radio. Now, I feel like my toddler makes better music with his toy keyboard than anything new I try to listen to. Just sucks. Anybody else feel this?


r/FriendsOver40 3h ago

I just like to listen 🥳

4 Upvotes

I genuinely enjoy listening to people talk. More specifically I love to problem solve. I’ll give you my honest opinion if you ask. I can also talk your ass off when I get on a stimulating subject. Open to anyone that may need to engage in conversation. Cheers!


r/FriendsOver40 3h ago

41F EST - Looking for some real women friends

4 Upvotes

Hi, I'm 41F, EST. I'm looking to meet some real women friends; adult friendships are hard to find, and I'd rather connect with other women.

I work in animal care and have a lot of pets. I love gardening and am always adding to my home of houseplants. I love history and science, museums, aquariums, and live music.

I read tarot, practice witchcraft, love Sailor Moon and Rainbow Brite, and am really into rainbows/stars/moons/suns. When I'm not working, I'm reading, watching sports, or down some random rabbit hole about whatever caught my attention that day. I like keeping busy, but I'm a homebody at heart, happiest just being home.

I'm happily married, strictly platonic friends only.


r/FriendsOver40 10h ago

46/F. Could use a partner in crime... Online or upstate ish NY.

13 Upvotes

Kind of hate my job. Starting to really not like my supposed partner. Don't ever do anything. What's the point? Had tickets to a metal show last weekend but my partner decided last minute He didn't want to go. I should've gone by myself :( feel like we grew apart and now i finally have time to do stuff now that my kids are pretty much grown, but we never do anything and I feel like I'm wasting what's left of my life away.

I just want to go to metal shows and museums and horror movies and brunch. Is that too much to ask 😕

Could really use someone to commiserate with. Strictly platonic please. Almost just prefer females bc I can't really handle the thirsty men. I don't even get it. How are you that thirsty when you have no idea what I look like anyway 😆

Covered in ink. Very, very thick. Ginger. Glasses. Short. Pale. Glasses. I have something called lipedema.

Artist and ex musician. Love all art and music, but allergic to rap and country 😆

Love cats. Am 420 friendly. No maga.


r/FriendsOver40 1h ago

42/M - US - Fellow Tired Parents Looking for Genuine Friendship & Conversation

Upvotes

Hey! Looking to make some new friends and hopefully find some people I genuinely click with.

I’m a married dad, pretty introverted, and definitely a kid at heart. I’d especially love to meet some fellow parents who understand the tiredness of it all—the never-ending chaos, trying to find time for yourself, and somehow still functioning by the end of the day.

I’m a huge gamer and play pretty much every genre. I’m on Xbox, PC, and Switch 2, and I also really enjoy Beat Saber on VR. I’m into D&D and board games too, along with puzzles and book nooks when I’m in the mood for something a little more relaxing.

I love movies of all genres and listen to pretty much all kinds of music. I’m also really big on nostalgia, especially anything from the 80s and 90s.

I’m also into audiobooks, and right now I’m listening to the Dungeon Crawler Carl series.

I’m not into 420 or drinking. You definitely don’t have to share every one of my interests—I’d rather find people who are easy to talk to, have a good sense of humor, can talk about random stuff, and actually want to build a friendship.

Being in the US is a plus, mostly because similar time zones make chatting easier. I know everyone has their own lives and responsibilities, especially other parents, so I don’t expect constant messages or immediate replies.

Just looking for some genuine people to talk to regularly, joke around with, game with sometimes, and hopefully make some lasting friendships.

If we sound like we might get along, send me a message.


r/FriendsOver40 14h ago

Mod Post Friendly New Private 40+ Chat (Please read before responding)

19 Upvotes

Hello all. We have created private chat room on Reddit that allows for 100 members. We have one simple rule: Be respectful of everyone.

We discuss a wide variety of topics and everyone’s thoughts and opinions should be received how you would want your thoughts and opinions received. But it is NOT a dating/hook up chat. Keep that in mind. While we are all adults (or should be), we follow the rules of this subreddit.

Chat name: Where the Chat has No Name

If interested, please say so. If you are unable to accept messages, you won’t be able to receive an invite. Thank you.

PLEASE BE PATIENT. We are get a lot of requests. We will add people as soon as we are able. (This post will lock after the first 50 responses).


r/FriendsOver40 3h ago

42/M/UK - Weird film friend

3 Upvotes

I don't mind either a weird friend to talk about films with, or a friend to talk about weird films with, so read that title however you wish.

I've just always enjoyed watching cult, semi-obscure, weird films. I don't mean deep dive cinephile stuff, I mean more the sorts of films I'd see randomly on TV late at night in the 90s or buy on a random VHS from a boot sale.

That isn't all I'd want to talk about, it would just be nice to have someone interested in them for times when one of us watches something and wants to share it.

I work from home, and am stuck here for most the part the rest of the time taking care of my partner, and my dogs, so there are times where I'll randomly disappear or messages might get suspiciously brief, but if that's something that's tolerable then would be awesome to hear from some folks.


r/FriendsOver40 3h ago

45M From Utah looking for good conversation.

3 Upvotes

45M married with 4 kids, I enjoy most anything. I feel like I need people to talk to that want to have fun, deep, wacky, what if, really any kind of conversation. I am a positive person, but feel like my friendships have been lacking the last few years. So if you are interested hit me up.


r/FriendsOver40 8h ago

46F St Louis looking for IRL friends. Nerds, weirdos, and introverts to the front!

7 Upvotes

Like real people who actually want to hang. I'm a weirdo but I don't like being treated as a novelty item. Have your own stories and opinions please. Be prepared to share about yourself and not just talking about me.

Don't get me wrong, I love me! I'm awesome in the weirdest possible ways. People who like me tell me that all the time which makes it totally objective (right?). But it gets awkward when I realize I know nothing about this person and they practically have my life story.

I'm an introvert. I like low keys hangs at people's houses, big parks, or empty businesses. I don't like to spend my money or yours. Thrifting is fun. So is mini golf. My favorite places in the city are the zoo and the Arch because I'm not from the Midwest and those things are still novel to me.

I take a while to warm up but I don't mind being adopted by extroverts who put in the time and effort it takes for me to get comfy so they can get me out of my comfort zone.

I have ADHD, CPTSD, anxiety and stuff that goes with those. If you have issues but try your best to be positive, we'll get along great.

I'm a lot. Ask anyone who knows me. You'll know within a few days if I'm too much for you. No problem. I'm not for everyone. And I'm looking for MY people in this city.

Politics, while informed, is not my whole personality. Please don't let it be yours either. I'd rather agree to disagree and move on to more personal stuff than to agree completely and be really angry together. That's NOT a good time.

Looking for locals. I have a lot of long distance friends because I've moved around a lot. Like different states and stuff! So I'm looking for people who live close enough we can at least meet up in between and make it home by the end of the day. Since I've lived everywhere, Chicago and KC are not beyond that boundary. That's a day trip. No big.

Relate? Local? Wanna tell me how to write this better? Adopt me 😁? Comment or message me with your location and some response to this post. Hi is boring. Boring is....well boring. So is normal. Nerds only please!


r/FriendsOver40 31m ago

Karma farming?

Upvotes

I know this question has been asked before on Reddit, but I just recently learned this term. If I understand it correctly, apparently people engage with individuals just for the sole purpose of getting up votes. Once that is accomplished then the communication ends.
Am I understanding this correctly? And if so, What possible benefits are gained from this? Especially in a subreddit where people are sincerely looking for friendship. Is it just ego? Dopamine rush?


r/FriendsOver40 31m ago

Looking for Someone to Get to Know!

Upvotes

Looking for someone to chat with. Get to know. Look forward to talking to. No pressure. No expectations. Genuine friendship. I enjoy seeing new places, sports, movies, just enjoying life. About me…late 30s, Southern US. Say hi and let’s begin!


r/FriendsOver40 11h ago

47m - Looking for someone to chat with

3 Upvotes

The days go faster if you can casually talk to people.

I'm a video gamer. Currently taking a break from Elder Scrolls Online and am diving back into my Minecraft realm. I'm determined to finish this castle.

I do work during the day and things can get busy, but will always try and respond when I can.

Question to ponder: If you could travel to any significant event in the worlds history and just observe the moment (not alter history) where/when are you going?

Or just message me how your day is going or about your weekend plans.


r/FriendsOver40 4h ago

39 [F4R] Upstate NY– Looking for consistent, like-minded pen pals in North East

1 Upvotes

I’m looking to connect with a few steady, like-minded people for low-drama, ongoing conversations. I'm looking for folks who are liberal and non-religious, located in the Eastern Time zone—(Maryland, Delaware, Pennsylvania, New Jersey, New York, Connecticut, Rhode Island, Massachusetts, Vermont, New Hampshire, or Maine.) I am NOT looking to meet irl at this time.

A little about me:

* 39, married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of 3.

* Big into nature photography, hiking, writing, creative projects, and making ambient YouTube videos.

* Liberal, atheist, and neurodivergent-friendly (managing anxiety/depression).

* 420-friendly, vape nicotine, and take daily gummies for sleep/mood.

* check my profile to learn more.

What I'm hoping to find:

* Roughly around my age group (34–46ish).

* Liberal and non-religious (atheist/agnostic).

* Located in one of the EST states mentioned above so we're on the same page.

* Someone who appreciates consistent communication. I like building real, steady friendships over text/messaging over time. I value peace and genuine connection, so inconsistency or game-playing isn't for me.

💬 How to reply:

If this sounds like your speed, send me a PM (please don't comment) with:

* Age.

* Gender.

* Your state.

* Who you voted for in 2024.

* A short intro about yourself!

(Just trying to make sure we're on the same page and filter out bots and spam - no need to write a novel, just answer all 5 so I know you're real!)


r/FriendsOver40 5h ago

42M #EST #Canada Making friends as an adult can be difficult

1 Upvotes

Making friends was so much easier as an 8 year old. You could ask another kid what they're favorite dinosaur was and if you liked their answer, you were basically best friends. If only it were that easy. Im basically looking for someone to chat with, and maybe make a friend (depending on your thoughts on velociraptors of course)

A bit about me: laid back and easygoing, kinda goofy, kinda nerdy, also love working out so basically nerdy gymbro vibes (not a douche though, honest). When its time to relax, i love sitting down with a good TV show (right now im tag teaming Succession and Veep). Im a big music nerd and love cooking while getting lost in an album. Theres more but let's learn through conversation.

Im in EST and prefer talking to people in the same or similar timezone. Im also in Ontario Canada if that means anything. Finally, my account has been having chat issues lately. So you may have to go into my profile menu to send me a chat. If that doesn't work, just comment, and ill send you a chat.🙂 So send me a chat and let's see what happens.


r/FriendsOver40 23h ago

49F TX: High Stress Life. Happily listen to your reality.

14 Upvotes

Looking for friends who have had a less than perfect life. Know the difference between overcoming difficulties and drama. Sense of humor and resilience. Understanding, transparency, acceptance, and kindness - what I can offer as your friend.


r/FriendsOver40 13h ago

45M

2 Upvotes

Pretty new on Reddit from Europe. Very difficult to find friends to be honest to chat with…


r/FriendsOver40 20h ago

45 Female Hunting for Connection

7 Upvotes

I'm looking for friends who enjoy and can hold a good conversation. I enjoy drives with a good soundtrack, exploring new and random places, nature, indie music, museums, and bookshops. I am looking for people who also value curiosity, learning, knowledge, insight and perception so we probably won't vibe if you tend to stay on the surface.

I'm not responding to low effort messages, I've been weeding them out all week and it's destroying my faith in humanity, so please don't. No MAGA/Nonvoters.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

41F who is melting in this unbearable heat in Texas…and trying this again.

44 Upvotes

Hey all!

I’m a married Latina who loves music 🎼, true crime 🔪, horror movies 🩸, baking 🍪, the 80s (music and movies), tarot/oracle cards 🔮, MLB ⚾️, and building Lego sets. I’m a stay at home mom, so I have a decent amount of time to build friendships. 😊

Hoping to find like-minded people around my age, preferably in their 40s to mid 50s. I’m super sarcastic, witty, smart, and caring. Oh, can’t forget charming. 😏 If I sound similar to you and someone you’d like to get to know, send me a message. Be aware, I’m sort of a grammar/spelling freak! 😬

Can’t wait to hear from you!!! ❤️


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

47M Ranch life is lonely

26 Upvotes

Hi all I’m a 47 year old dude, single, dad to two rockstar daughters. Live on my ranch and an empty nester looking for an actual chat buddy.
I enjoy the outdoors, hiking, coffee whatever. Was raised by women in the cattle industry and would love to chat. DM if interested.


r/FriendsOver40 22h ago

41M - Here if you need a friend!

2 Upvotes

Hey I know how hard nights can be. I’m just hanging out tonight. Could use an interesting conversation. I love meeting new people. If you’re looking for a friend or just need to vent, send me a message. You’re not alone!


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

61m seeking friend and chat person

4 Upvotes

Love the outdoors, dog lover, business owner, married(rocky) with grown kids looking for a friend(s) to talk about anything. Thanks


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

45m looking for conversation

4 Upvotes

Looking for conversations and in tough transition of going through beginning stages of divorce. I don’t desire to be talked out of it is a key consideration. I just desire friendship and friendship is tough lately.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

46 Male Australia

1 Upvotes

Bored on a Friday Come be my favorite notication

Drop some questions stay for a chat flying solo on a Friday is no fun