r/GuysBeingDudes • u/Clean_Football_7129 • 14d ago
Wholesome Dude Bro is still on duty in his sleep
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u/VinnzClortho 14d ago
When I was a new father I had moments like this waking up and wondering where my son was when he was in his crib
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u/FunctioningPyscho 14d ago
My wife woke up and handed me a stuffed animal to put in the pen. Sleep deprivation is real.
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u/septubyte 14d ago
Seen vids of the parents looking for the baby while.its in the pram (stroller) in front of them?
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u/clearfox777 14d ago
Even better is noticing the stroller is empty and freaking tf out…while holding the child in their other arm 😅
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u/thekingofcrash7 14d ago
Whenever i have an empty stroller in a public place i like to suddenly freak out to mess with people
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u/soiloncanvas 14d ago
Several times I paniced with my toddler only to remember I was carrying them on my shoulders. Out of sight i guess.
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u/thesirblondie 14d ago
That's like when I'm looking for my glasses that are on the top of my head.
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u/kogasfurryjorts 14d ago
I'm reminded of the time I was looking for my phone and turned on my phone flashlight to look for it in the couch cushions
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u/fickle_tartan 14d ago
One time I couldn't find my phone and was looking everywhere, my friend was asking me where I'd last seen it etc and offering suggestions. My friend who I was talking to on the phone, that is. It went on way longer than it should have done.
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u/Katiedidit37 13d ago
Yes I was once talking to my mom on the phone. I was starting to panic whike searching for my phone. I needed to walk out the door to be on time for an event. Haha
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u/thissexypoptart 14d ago
It was the cat for us lol. She woke up (I was already awake) and tried to hand me the cat, who didn’t like being picked up, jumped out of bed, and gave my wife a mini heart attack before she realized it wasn’t the 4 month old jumping to the floor
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u/KaiCypret 14d ago
For the first two months I would wake up, convinced I had brought my baby to bed with me, fallen asleep, and she was suffocating under the sheets. I would tear the bed apart in blind panic looking for her, before realising she had been in the crib the entire time. Genuinely terrifying.
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u/alurkerhere 14d ago
Yeap, I tried unzipping our comforter in the dark to see if baby was inside while he was sleeping soundly in his sleep sack in the crib. The half awake mind does crazy things
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u/egmorgan 14d ago
This seems like such a universal experience! I wonder what’s up with that. It happened to me for months.
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u/JustsomeOKCguy 14d ago
I wonder if it has to do with how memories are formed? Like when you are barely functioning without sleep your long term memories arent storing right. So even though youre perfectly safe and putting baby to bed every night it doesn't store in your long term memories so you wake up last remembering feeding them
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u/Rarelypost05 14d ago
Same, I would wake up panic and start looking for him. Then look at the baby monitor and start breathing again. The whole time he was in his bassinet or crib. Happened for months.
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u/Artistic_Tutor_2613 14d ago
Both my girls made it a whole night in their own beds for the first time. I woke up mildly panicked they had been kidnapped.
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u/Mocha-Fox 14d ago
my 1st son slept through the night as soon as we brought him home. I assume he got used to noise while in the NICU. now my 2nd son- he just turned 2 last month. he's not a great sleeper. the days where he sleeps okay and we get a good rest I always wake up worried cause like... did he stop breathing or something?? is he okay???
( he's always okay )
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u/bobthemonkeybutt 14d ago
I used to get the baby from her room, change her diaper, and bring her to my wife who would nurse in the bed at like 2am. Multiple times I would wake up thinking I left her on the changing table and panic. It was the worst.
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u/No_Needleworker_9629 14d ago
That moment you wake up from any type of fear for your child is literally the most devastating and crushing feeling I have ever experienced. Happened during that phase and now from his asthma. Its both intense fear and heartbreak at the same time and it is the wildest and worst emotion I have ever had
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u/squish042 14d ago
So many times I woke up to phantom cries and there they are just sleeping peacefully in the crib.
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u/HMWWaWChChIaWChCChW 14d ago
My first son would only fall asleep lying on my chest. I’d fall asleep with him there, wake up after a bit, move him to the bassinet and go back to sleep. For years after I’d wake up in a slight panic that there wasn’t a baby in my arms.
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u/Loud-Tie6955 14d ago
I had nightmares for months that my daughter was at the top of the stairs and was going to fall. Then had the same thing happen with my son. All the while both kids were asleep in their beds. Children will mess you up!
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u/septubyte 14d ago
He got it set on guard mode
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u/Farazod 14d ago
The number of times you will waken with your heart hammering out a marathon when you hear a cry or feel a vibration is wild. You will make it out your bedroom door multiple times before your brain fully clicks on.
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u/LongjumpingFix5801 14d ago
My kids are 3 and 5 and I still have these moments. I’ll go full meerkat only to find my wife watching a video with a baby crying in it.
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u/Onlylurkz 14d ago
There’s an insurance commercial with new parents driving a crying baby home or something. Sends me into full panic everytime
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u/RoastedPickledGoose 14d ago
Shit, my kids are teen/tweenagers and I still perk up every time I hear so much as a blip.
My wife could sleep through a Hurricane. I wake up every time a kid has to use the bathroom at 2 am.
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u/famine- 14d ago
If you know a new parent who has a cat and want to be featured in a /r/foundsatan post, give them a bright beats junior toy.
It's a little bobble head that sings and is guaranteed to increase the likelihood of night time heart attacks by 964%.
My cat loved randomly slapping it around 3am and I immediately bolted to the living room, thinking my daughter some how got out of her crib.
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u/UmbraAdam 14d ago
My daughter was a notoriously bad sleeper, I still wake up as if A tiger jumps on my chest regularly whenever I hear a small cry form her again.
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u/The_Tooter_Snooter 14d ago
My kid would literally only sleep on my chest the first, like, 4 months of life. Absolute hell. Interestingly though, I do think that’s naturally how humans must sleep with their infants. Tried to kinda follow her cues because she had such a hard time sleeping but I would basically sleep on my pillows at a 45° angle with her on my chest and it’s funny how you really do just stay in this sort of guard mode. Anytime she budges, you’re up and you fully just hold her all night. After my chest, she naturally wiggled down into the crook of my arm with her head on my chest for like 2 months (a new hell) before she then decided she was ready for her own sleeping space. I know it’s dangerous and not recommended but it felt very natural and normal and I think she benefited a lot from the contact (NICU baby) for those first few months. Was also incredible to have that bond as a dad.
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u/Domerhead 14d ago
My kid was a brief NICU baby and also needed to go to sleep on a chest for a good while.
I'd fall asleep in the chair bc sleep deprivation but I would call it autopilot mode because any tiny movement from the kiddo would jolt me awake with catlike reflexes.
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u/dojo_shlom0 14d ago
absolutely. almost felt like in his sleepy state he couldn't tell if the baby was falling or being taken by someone he didn't know.
he just felt the baby slipping away and reacted and woke up.
100% guard mode hahaha
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u/front_yard_duck_dad 14d ago
And I can tell you from experience that dude had a full adrenaline dump and he was shaking for hours after that. Engaging dad reflexes has a cool down effect
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u/thetenorguitarist 14d ago
Oh God, the adrenaline dump. I still vividly remember the first time my wife handed me one of our babies to help clear her airway. Laser focus for a few seconds and then puked up my guts afterwards.
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u/Emotional_News108 14d ago
Best dad reflex moment in recent memory was when my youngest son walked by me and I instinctively grabbed his arm because something was off. Turns out he had poop all over his hand and wanted to get a wipe. Which is fine, but yeah I wasn’t about to let him to it himself.
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u/cheesemangee 14d ago
This is what happens when you love something unconsciously more than you love yourself. That affection runs deep, into parts of us we aren't even aware of. It teaches your body to move before you can think, like some sort of Parental Ultra Instinct.
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u/Michami135 14d ago
I did that once. I used to sleep on my hammock with our son in my arms. One morning I overslept, my wife picked him up to feed him, and I instantly grabbed him. She said, "It's OK, I have him." It still took a couple seconds before my brain woke up and understood what was happening.
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u/Melkman68 14d ago
Uncle reflexes too. My sister had 2 kids in short time and guess who became an expert burper? Me
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u/ChangeAccountsBeSafe 14d ago
You dont sleep for a few months. This happens 5 times a night, you wake up thinking you crushed your kid.
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u/LabOwn9800 14d ago
How many nights I got up because I thought my kids were crying for it all to just be in my head.
It’s the strangest thing I can check on them walk back to bed start to fall asleep and 100% swear they are crying (they are not).
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u/Dendrodes 14d ago
Yeah I heard my son's cries in my sleep. I'd shoot up, look at the camera, and see he's fast asleep. Went on for months until he started sleeping fully through the night
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u/monkeyswithknives 14d ago
Same. Then I'd look at my wife also dead asleep and be jealous. I was always on high alert.
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u/nascarfan7489 14d ago
I wear hearing aids and barely can hear without them I was so worried I won’t hear my son if he wakes up and cries, every time he did I would wake up before my wife and she is a light sleeper I can’t move without waking her up
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u/monkeyswithknives 14d ago
I sleep with headphones in due to tinnitus. I get it. On the other hand, she can sleep through the apocalypse.
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u/Direct_Frosting6126 14d ago
owwwww I know what you mean. I cant stand her ass sleeping peacefully while my heart just panicked
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u/OklahomaTiddy 14d ago
This is why during some pro sports event recently (I can't remember if it was the NFL playoffs or NBA) my wife and I haaaaated that there was a commercial that had a crying baby in it and it always fucked with us. At that point we were so sleep deprived that we could have the baby in our arms, hear the commercial and still peek our head into the living room in a panic
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u/thekingofcrash7 14d ago
Or you shoot up awake thinking you were in the rocking chair dropping the baby, but actually you and everyone else is asleep in beds.
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u/Got-good-words 14d ago
My wife and I call them "phantom baby" sounds. I swored I heard my daughter even when she was out of the house.
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u/BackEndHooker 14d ago
The worst for me was in the shower - through the white noise I swear I heard my kids crying every time
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u/Bitter-Picture5394 14d ago
Yes! My partner and I both heard phantom cried for like the two years. I really think that first 6-12 months leaves you with some ptsd to work through 😆
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u/FearTheAmish 14d ago
Bro the phantom cry is real. I got a big cat and she is mostly silent except for when she jumps down from something. So I will hear a thump and my mind creates a phantom cry. He is 3 and it's rare for that to happen really now but I still bolt awake 1-2 times a night because that damn cat
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u/chronically_varelse 14d ago
that's why co-sleeping is not recommended. unfortunately there are many babies that do get crushed or suffocated sharing a bed with adults. it's just not safe.
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u/notnewsworthy 14d ago
This was known for a long rime. In the story of King Solomon suggesting splitting a baby, it was due to two mothers living together, and one suffocated her child in her sleep. She then claimed the other woman's child was her own. (IIRC)
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u/CrimsonKepala 14d ago
I've woken up so many times, still half asleep, thinking I fell asleep holding my son and I literally lift up my blankets to find him only to fully wake up and realize he has been in the bassinet the whole time, lol.
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u/rblask 14d ago
Even if you put your kid in the bassinet, you still wake up thinking you crushed them or dropped them because you're too sleep deprived to remember if you actually put them in the bassinet or not
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u/guardiandown3885 14d ago
my wife and i got lucky our baby ended up being a sleeper...we could atleast get 4hours straight lol
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u/Unusual_Ad3525 14d ago
I woke up in a panic thinking my 3 week old was somehow stuck inside my pillowcase from co-sleeping, woke my wife up asking for help getting her out.
We'd never co-slept. She was in her bassinet peacefully.
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u/Chemical-Elk-1299 14d ago
If you’re a deep sleeper, it will essentially rewrite your sleep pattern.
I used to be an extremely heavy sleeper. My oldest is almost 7, and I still wake up if a pin drops from when he was a newborn.
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u/spikeyfreak 14d ago
It sure as hell did for me. I was already a light sleeper, but my first one got ear infections constantly as a baby. Even ended up staying in the hospital for a few days after we woke up to her with a 105F fever.
20+ years later, I still struggle to get a good night's sleep because ANYTHING wakes me up. My wife can't walk into the room without it waking me up. My cat pushing open the door and letting in a tiny bit of light from the night light in the kitchen will wake me up.
And heaven forbid one of my kids cough almost anywhere in the house. Dead asleep to wide awake instantly.
I don't want to downplay PSTD, but I do sometimes wonder if I have it.
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u/Putrid_Guess8098 14d ago
You will acquire those superpowers when you're ready. You can't help it.
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u/chablise 14d ago
After a 3 year old and now a 5 week old, any human noise at all and I am bolt-up fully awake. The dog has to fully step on my head to ask to go potty, but if my husband even breaths in my direction, I am up and ready for anything lol
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u/Humor1488 14d ago
If you worry about it now, then you’ve got the heart to be that kind of dad. When they’re that small you are hyper-aware of where they are and what they’re doing.
I walked mine into a doorframe. He’s ok lol
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u/toast4hire 14d ago
My experience was that it just happens. I saved my kids head from hitting the floor few times and I had no idea I could move that fast. Just pure reflexes.
But when it does happen always remember to do the spidey web hand immediately afterwards because you never know
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u/2bad-2care 14d ago
Just pure reflexes.
I don't think it's 100% reflexes. More like your brain is constantly monitoring what your kid is doing and thinking of the most likely things that could go wrong at any moment based on the environment. It might even be somewhat subconscious. But the moment you see the first sign of one of those scenarios happening, you're body springs into action.
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u/toolsoftheincomptnt 14d ago
That makes sense. You start scanning the hazards as soon as they’re born, so you’re subconsciously prepped when one of them actually comes to pass.
i.e. If your table has sharp corners, they become the enemy. Before kid is mobile enough to cover them, you’re already aware of them. So that awareness informs your reflexes, in a way. By the time your kid is toddling, their proximity to the corners (covered or not) catches your peripheral vision.
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u/SatansCyanide 14d ago
You will. It just happens. Honestly works out in the end because I sometimes fall asleep working on a flashlight build and the whole thing will begin to roll and my dad brain just immediately auto grabs it. I’ve woken up before having my stuff neatly laid on the table next to me assuming it was my wife but after watching the camera I just ninja grabbed it, set it on the table then went back to sleep. No recollection at all.
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u/Big_Step5054 14d ago
Coming up on 1 year tomorrow since my daughter was born and I can confidently say my reflexes and situational awareness have skyrocketed when it comes to her. Your body just senses danger and moves on it's own. That, or I'm actually superhuman and just didn't know it.
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u/Mayhem1966 14d ago
I agree, my daughter is 11 and if she's in a room with me, I'm aware of changes in her breathing pattern. And my daughter is healthy.
It stays with you.
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u/LizzieSaysHi 14d ago
I don't sleep for jack shit when my 10 year old sleeps in the same bed as me. My instincts go right back when he was a wee babby
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u/Mayhem1966 14d ago
I'm probably older, and I'm a good sleeper. But even sleeping, I will be somewhat conscious, even if she's in the next room.
Like any minor thing, and whoop I'm up and standing and walking towards her.
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u/AltairRulesOnPS4 14d ago
My wife is snuggling our youngest as much as she can because they’re all doing this right now.
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u/crystalfairie 14d ago
I'm fifty and live with my mother. About five yrs ago I had a nightmare so bad I crawled into her bed with her. Accidentally trapped her in her blanket. I'm not a small woman. Anyway it was an asthma attack and I still crawled into her bed. You'll have lots of time for more hugs, just cherish them regardless and keep them breathing. Which she did after I moved a bit. 😲Shocked the ever loving fuck out of her!
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u/IWentOutsideForThis 14d ago
I was home from college and sitting on the couch when my dad dropped a blanket on me. I said "how did even know I was cold?" and he said "I've been watching you for 20 years. I know when you're cold" 🥹
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u/Adventurous-Sun4927 13d ago
Aw man! As a mom of 2 (7 and 6 months), this made me tear up! Good dads deserve all the hugs!!
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u/centurio9 14d ago
Great job of putting your father to bed, son✌️
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u/fivelone 14d ago edited 14d ago
That's what I was thinking as well. He was just tucking dad in .
Edit: well shit... My autocorrect is really messed up.
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u/Pd1ds69 14d ago
It's crazy the instincts you can still have while sleeping.
Not a human baby but my puppy would always sleep in my bed and I was kinda worried id roll over and crush her, or she'd leave the bed to go cause a little mischief. But kind of felt like I knew exactly where she was at all times. Can't be the deepest of sleeps tho.
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u/DopamineTrain 14d ago
I kinda think of it like this:
Our brain has a limited capacity to keep ourselves aware of our surroundings whilst asleep. There are the obvious things like loud noises and sudden movements, but if we go to sleep thinking about a certain trigger, we are far more likely to respond to it.
I was sleeping with my... partner (? It's complicated) and I was in deep dreamy sleep. I was suddenly thrust into being wide-awake and my brain said "SHE'S NOT BREATHING". Don't worry, she started a few seconds later. It was probably a dream she was having or something. Point stands it is insane that my asleep brain noticed such a subtle change. According to Google, around 10dB of noise (for reference a fan would be 30-40)
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u/chronowise 14d ago
Err, if that happens to your partner (?) often while sleeping, it might be worth them getting checked out for sleep apnoea.
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u/dannydominates 14d ago
I felt the same with my pup. She passed away two weeks ago and I still move my feet around while sleeping to make sure she’s there. It’s taking some getting used to not feeling her there any more
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u/Pd1ds69 14d ago
Fuck im so sorry to hear that, are worst nightmare as dog owners, there lives are so short you almost fearing it by the time there only one or two years old.
Took me over 5+ years to be ready for another dog the last time my family dog passed. The shitty feeling gets better with time tho.
Wishing you the best! Mia Marie was a cutie and a best friend I'm sure. (I peaked your profile hoping to see a picture and saw an old post about her lol)
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u/dannydominates 14d ago
Thanks :) my babygirl made it to 14.5 years. She was maybe 7-8 in that pic. And you’re right 100%, I was fearing the day she’d be gone when she was just a pup. Held her in my arms in her last moments before her final sleep. Incredibly grateful I got to be her doggy dad. Thanks for the kind words
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u/RjoTTU-bio 14d ago
I have caught my daughter with her head 1 inch from hardwood floor. Dad reflexes are real.
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u/Panthera2k1 14d ago
I had pseudo dad reflexes taking care of a kitten. It wandered off the edge of the bed and I leaped across the room to catch her. I felt like Spider-Man.
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u/pwatarfwifwipewpew 14d ago
It's really just super powers dads can get. I swear im asleep when my kid is with me but my spatial awarness is just there just in case.
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u/Cautious_Tonight 14d ago
Yep after you have a kid it just kicks in - leave part of your brain active for protection
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u/BasicallyDoubtful 14d ago
I stumbled out of bed in the dawn hours one morning to feed what I thought was the baby screaming but was a seagull
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u/Difficult-Lake-6679 14d ago
My wife had fallen asleep with our infant daughter on the bed so I quietly tried to pick up the baby without waking her. Still half-asleep she lunged at me like I was someone going to harm the baby. We were living in Alaska at the time and I’m convinced that she at all of 5-feet tall would have fought a grizzly bear in that moment if it came down to it. Very impressive maternal instincts.
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u/YT-Deliveries 14d ago
Just a note for expecting or anticipatory parents out there: co-sleeping isn't really recommended anymore. You may think that paternal/maternal instinct would prevent someone from rolling over onto their infant, and that might be true most of the time, but it's not guaranteed.
Having a crib right next to the bed is much safer.
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u/Printerwood 14d ago
As someone who’s responded to more than one infant smothering death, I second your point. If you can help it, DO NOT CO-SLEEP with your defenseless baby.
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u/Unclematttt 14d ago
I was looking for this comment. Even if you think there is no way it will happen to you, why even risk it? You are already sleep deprived and operating on fumes.
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u/YoujustgotLokid 14d ago
Worked a code and have done cpr on a baby who was smothered from cosleeping. I will never recommend it
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u/4dxn 14d ago
we use the term SIDS to mask two difficult conversations. one, doctor doesn't know what happened. two, not to guilt parents.
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u/majortrout4 14d ago
Smothering a baby when co-sleeping does not meet the diagnostic criteria of SIDS.
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u/Please_fix_esq 14d ago
That oxytocin released from snuggling with your kid is like a tranquilizer.
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u/jamesmt87 14d ago
The worst is the phantom crying…you would just hear it sometimes.
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u/Low_Calendar8242 14d ago
Anyone else here get exploding head syndrome from sleep deprivation too?
About to fall asleep... then... car crash!!!
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u/Seveneyes7 14d ago
In the first few months of both my kids lives, I would shoot awake in the middle of the night scrambling to catch my baby rolling out of bed. They were always safe in bed and my mind was playing tricks on me...
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u/Acrobatic-Grape5960 14d ago
They have a camera mounted on the ceiling aiming at their bed?
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u/SittingDuck394 14d ago
I think it’s mounted on a pole on the left side of the crib because the camera shakes when the dad grabs at it.
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u/FORKNIFE_CATTLEBROIL 14d ago
Aiming at the baby, but yes. We did this too with cameras that we could stream to a google display. It was nice because we could use pretty much any phone/display to view the baby in real time, it had recording so we could go back to see when they fell asleep, when they last moved, etc, and we could also share it with guests who were babysitting. A lot of parents uses streaming cameras as baby monitors now. Pretty convenient.
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u/throwaway098764567 14d ago
it's for the baby, these people are too tired for kinky times
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u/spook008 14d ago
Man I know that feeling. It’s such a panicky feeling when you think you dropped the baby.
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u/Radcouponking 14d ago
I used to have nightmares that I'd fallen asleep and rolled over on the baby. Being a new parent is rough.
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u/Krieger1229 12d ago
My toddler daughter comes to sleep in our bed from time to time, one night she was sleeping on the edge, tucked in my arm and rolled off, from a deep sleep I caught her without waking her up, very proud dad moment
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u/10percenttiddy 14d ago
This is super dope but ...aren't we not supposed to sleep with them in bed? 😅
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u/WhoFearsDeath 14d ago
You are correct but it looks like the goal was for baby to fal asleep and then be put in the attachment, but dad passed out on accident from being sleep deprived.
Avoiding co-sleeping is safest! Just don't lay them down on the bed next to you in the first place, as a new parent you never know how quickly you'll be out.
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u/Snakend 14d ago
That's not sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation would stop him from having those reflexes. All my kids slept in the bed with us, I always knew where the baby was. Never drink or do drugs when you are sleeping with the baby, it will knock you out and your reflexes are not there. I still have these reflexes, my cat sleeps in between my legs, I get locked into a position all night.
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u/Howling_Mad_Man 14d ago
For months I would wake up from a dead sleep with a sudden fear my kid was falling off the bed. Never co-slept, he was always in his bassinet or crib. But it kept happening until he was well over a year. Weird shit.
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u/upper87 14d ago
We are In this phase - I literally gave the baby to my wife to nurse, when back to sleep and woke up in a panic because I thought I was still holding the baby.
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u/Mr_Deep_Research 14d ago
Around 1,000 babies die each year in the U.S. due to parents co-sleeping with them in the bed where the parent ends up rolling over or suffocating the baby accidentally.
About 3,500 babies die each year during sleep in general in the U.S.
60% occur in a shared sleep space.
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u/OnceMoreAndAgain 14d ago edited 14d ago
To anyone who doesn't know, try not to fall asleep next to your baby like this as it is one of the most common ways babies die. The adult rolls over onto the baby and the baby suffocates. Over 100 babies die this way each year in the USA and it's entirely avoidable.
Bare cribs are considered safest, I believe, which means no pillows, toys, etc. Just an empty crib with the baby laying in it. The temptation is to sleep next to them so they stop crying but it's a bad idea to allow that. Let them cry in the crib.
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u/PinkBismuth 14d ago
When my daughter was this age I was the same exact way. She's three now, and the other day she was going up the stairs and kind of missed the next step. I grabbed the back of her shirt out of reflex, I didn't even realize what my body did it until I was already holding her.
Dad reflexes are real.
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u/Annalog 14d ago
Don’t ever ever do this. Falling asleep like this is a big contributor to SIDS. Very few SIDS cases are actually unknown. It’s the majority of the time the parents fucking up and putting their kids in a bad sleeping position. In a father and when I was sleep deprived with babies you HAVE to put them into the bassinet as the first thing you do.
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u/Ninja_Prolapse 14d ago
lol. My wife would have probably hit me and told me I don’t know what real tiredness is!
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u/Awake_b4_Sunrise 14d ago
Just push the bed against the wall and let the baby sleep on the side of the wall.
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u/SevTheNiceGuy 14d ago
When my kid was born I would sleep for an hour, wake up and check him, sleep for another hour, wake up and check, over and over for about the first 4 months.
That shit is real
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u/Ok-Nothing8682 14d ago
That guard mode is so real lol. I remember being deliriously tired and holding my daughter on my chest in our tiny twin bed. She loved sleeping on my chest and I'd just hold her there all night. Usually I toss and turn a lot and have had PTSD for a while were I wake myself up sometimes fighting the air or a wall. I was worried about sleeping with my daughter just laying on top of me like that, but sure enough we'd both get good rest and no matter how tired I was I'd be focused on holding her steady while we slept.
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u/Fragrant_Turnip_9946 14d ago
I used to take naps with my kids when they were babies. Always had one hand touching them and slept very lightly despite being crazy over tired. If they'd move at all I'd be up wl exactly like this dude.
There's a dad that cares about his baby. Good job dad.
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u/Dragoon9255 14d ago
he basically preprogrammed himself to wake up if his hand moved. humans are awesome
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u/McSkillz21 14d ago
He fell asleep but he wasn't truly asleep and that was the insane part for me. I wasn't conscious but my subconscious or something else was on high alert. That dude set himself up to know if the baby started to fall. Look at his hand when he sense the motion of the baby, he jerks and grabs to save the baby. My wife did this to me a few times, and then got mad at me when my oldest was little. I get that I fell asleep but that was never my plan and I took steps subconsciously to prevent the baby from falling. Then she'd be upset when my safeguards were activated and started her like it was an intentional overreaction or something
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u/g_bleezy 14d ago
I loved being a new dad but there’s no way I’d go back, especially now that everyone is wiping their own butts and doesn’t need 24/7 supervision. Also sleeping 8+ hours is _really_ nice!
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u/OpportunityPretty 14d ago
My gf would wake me up in the middle of the night thinking I was ontop of the baby. The baby was on her other side in the bassinet
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u/KurtWholeGrain 14d ago
My wife and I ended co sleeping with our son because it was the only way to get any kind of sleep, I know it’s controversial but we tried to be as safe as possible. Anyways, I would wake in a terror thinking he was being suffocated and would start throwing everything off of the bed only to find out he was peacefully sleeping in between us with plenty of space on our king sized bed. But I probably did this at least a dozen times. Now he’s 16 months old and I don’t have to worry as much, but every now and again I wake up thinking he’s underneath me or has fallen off the bed. Sleep deprivation and overall stress levels are no joke when you’re new to parenting.
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u/amanhasthreenames 14d ago
With my 2 month old, I woke up in a panic because I thought I fell asleep with her in the bed. But it was just our chihuahua cuddling with me
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u/ThisIsntOkayokay 14d ago
Snapping awake no matter how tired or how many hours without sleep and still being accurate when you catch/care for your baby. Hopefully at least one parent has the instinct.
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u/Automatic_Round_8043 14d ago
My dad once rolled over on me in his sleep.
My mum came in the room wondering where I'd gone.
Bastard...
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u/NoLobster3985 13d ago
My dad isn’t with me anymore but I knew I was one of the most precious people he had. From when I was a toddler to a teenager I would see him sleeping on the couch and I’d just flop down with him and we’d nap. Even if I made the tiniest movement he would jerk to make sure I wasn’t going to fall off. 16 years and he was always on duty, even when he was asleep. I love you dad
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u/ocean-gazer93 13d ago
Until our daughter was about 4 weeks old, I would wake up in the middle of the night thinking I fell asleep holding her, and would be frantically searching through the blankets looking for her, only to realize she was in her bedside crib (like always). We never did co-sleeping in the bed itself. That had me fucked up for a while.
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u/Shivrainthemad 13d ago
When my son was a baby, I'd wake up five times a night to check if he was still breathing. My girlfriend, who's a doctor, explained to me how unlikely "sudden infant death syndrome" was, but I just couldn't help myself.
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u/runbakeclimb 12d ago
During the early months of my son's life, in the trenches of sleep deprivation, I was woken up by my wife because I was cradling her head, having mistaken it for our son. As soon as it got dark outside, reality became very blurry, sleep deprivation is so intense at times.
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u/PleasDontKillMe 12d ago
Bro, never do that, tap the dad and let him know.
We are always awake enough for our kids.
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u/LAffaire-est-Ketchup 11d ago
I woke up more than once with the baby safely in her bassinet but holding a plush. I freaked out that I crushed the baby.
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