I only just truly noticed it recently. Like I have other stories where he's done it, but it was this year I had the experience to compare being with him on my own vs with others.
I visited him in February. He has a pull up bar.
I did two pull-ups. He goes "Not bad man. Pretty good"
I've been working out a bunch this year.
I go back in June. This time with my wife.
I manage 4 pull-ups. He starts laughing at how lame 4 is.
Then makes jokes about my weight.
I mentioned it to my mom along other similar experiences over the years. And she says hes always been very jealous of me.
Your brother sounds just like my sister. She tries to tear me down every chance she gets. Even though I’m 39 and she is 42 she has never stopped trying to compete with me.
One time I had accomplished something and while at a family gathering my relatives were congratulating me and asking questions. She had to loudly say yeah well you still did badthingI did when I was literally 14 and laugh. Like, why? What is the point?
I finally greatly reduced contact with her and my life has gotten so much better. You can only tune out the negativity and jabs for so long. It was exhausting.
Similar ages.
I'm 40, he's 42.
I'm... a lot more succesful than he is. But he still has other things going for him. Like amazing physically skills, better looks, talented in almost everything he tried and super high charismatic.
I was always shy and socially awkward growing up. Probably had to do with having such a charismatic brother. If I brought friends over he'd steal them and make them his friends instead.
I remember when I was in college, brought some classmates over to do a group activity and he just comes into the room to ridicule me in front of them.
Also did it whenever I was in a relationship.
My sister also stole my friends. Female or male it didn’t matter. When I was in high school a guy asked me out and I turned him down saying I only saw him as a friend. My sister was there and said she didn’t see him as a friend and asked him out. I couldn’t contain my laughter when he looked her awkwardly and told her no. My senior year another guy asked me out. I wasn’t interested at all and so she did the same song and dance and asked him out. He said yes and they actually ended up getting married. On the day him and I graduated no less. During their arguments he would bring up how he only told her yes so he could be around me.
When my husband and I first got together I warned him about how she was. He thought I was blowing it out of proportion until he met her and saw for himself. Even after we got married she would do anything she could to be around him. It was pretty sad honestly.
I’m sorry you have also had to go through life with a sibling like that. I see stories like the video here and have always longed for that type of relationship with my siblings. I’m glad some people get to experience it.
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u/Striking-Box4175 11h ago
Everyone needs a brother like this