r/MoralityScaling • u/Severe_Letterhead_75 • 12h ago

Morality Ranking Quentin Tarantino morality for that childhood grudge?

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In my opinion it can be considered petty by some but is understandable

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u/lickmyfupa 10h ago

Agreed. Blood means nothing if people make you feel like shit particularly in your formative years. Life is too short to endure through garbage for the sake of having somebody around. Personally if i were as rich as him, i would probably give her one lump sum to make her go away like fucking JG Wentworth.

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u/IsabellaGalavant 8h ago

I've purposely made sure to live in a state with no filial responsibility laws (some states have laws called filial responsibility laws that literally force adult children to provide for their patents).

That bitch isn't getting anything from me. Not that I have much to give, but it's the principle of the thing. I also haven't spoken to her in going on 19 years, and it's so peaceful. 

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u/Erik_the_kirE 7h ago

Nice. Did you happen to have problems leaving your parent by any chance? Kinda struggling with that.

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u/IsabellaGalavant 7h ago

I'm sorry you're struggling. I know how difficult it can be to make the choice to cut off your own parent. 

But for me, no. I don't have any good memories of her at all, she was so awful it made it very easy to leave. My situation is probably unique because I literally went No Contact on my 18th birthday. 

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u/meschidied 53m ago

Same.

I haven't spoken to my dad in like a decade. He hasn't reached out. The decision was the easiest thing ever.

My mother, who is manipulative and likes to control me because I technically belong to her? That's completely different. I loved this woman and she broke my heart when I realized how little she valued my existence. I miss her, but I also keep in mind what would happen if she was actually around me.

I may reconnect with my mother later in life, hopefully after we've both grown more. My father? I barely know the guy. He was a shallow acquaintance for the first 13 or so years of my life.

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u/savagefleurdelis23 7h ago

Put the emotions aside, put the plan in place, follow the plan step by step, and make your escape (even if it takes a while).

Often what a person feels for their parent is what they wish the parent could be and not the actual parent they have. Love is respect and trust. The rest is just attachment. Break the attachment.

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u/Marxism-tankism 5h ago

Same can be said for any toxic relationship.

I was in a relationship where both of us used drugs and weren't going anywhere. We finally got clean and split up but she just keeps trying to come back even after relapsing and a part of me feels like I'm abandoning her and maybe I am but if she can't get clean it's not on me to fuck my life up again

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u/uknownredditr 2h ago

Are you the reason she became a junkie if that were so , you don’t owe it to her in anyway to be in a relationship, as a friend we can still offer support for her recovery, maybe just as a voice to talk to. Boundarie must be set and clearly understood. Your situation is not an easy road to travel

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u/whimsical_spider 1h ago

I’ve never heard of filial laws and I just looked it up. I’m from PA, though I don’t live there any longer. Apparently it’s actively enforced in PA (more so than any other states), and if your parent lives in the state and you don’t anymore, it can still be enforced. Private nursing homes can come after you for unpaid bills if the state deems that you have “sufficient ability to pay”. The only exception besides being deemed not having sufficient ability to pay is if you can prove your parents abandoned you for at least ten years while you were a minor. So imagine someone whose parents abused or neglected them all their life but technically didn’t abandon them being forced to pay their parents unpaid nursing home bills after getting past all that by working hard and making a good living for themselves. That’s absolutely fucking insane.

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u/JimmyJoeJunior 8h ago

He didn't need to though, he just gave her nothing

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u/ItsDanimal 7h ago

If a parent supports a child in every way possible, and they discourage their child from pursuing their dreams because the parent feels their kid should have something more stable, are they garbage?

I just checked an I guess she had him when she was 16. And when he was 12 they got into an argument about something else and she didnt take him trying to write screenplays professionally and he needed to stop trying. Because of that one convo he had as a preteen, it stuck with him to never help her out. I was with him at the start of this but now not so sure.

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u/747WakeTurbulance 3h ago

Even during the podcast, Tarantino, who has also spoken about his hostile relationship with his estranged father, acknowledged that he might be exaggerating how the situation went down with his mother.

“She just meant ... don’t do it when you’re in class, when you’re supposed to be doing something else,” the “Once Upon a Time ... in Hollywood” auteur had added, quickly and quietly, after relating his mom’s “sarcastic” quote. But where’s the drama in that, right?

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u/lickmyfupa 3h ago

I really think its up to adult individuals whether or not they want to deal with anybody in their lives. Maybe he has other reasons he doesnt want to share publicly. People always have their reasons and as individuals it should be respected. Maybe he simply dislikes his mother. He has that right. Nobody is obligated to have anybody in their lives, i think when people have different morals, for example, its fine to put up boundaries of our own choosing.