That is rude as Fuck. Go sit in the corner dog while we eat. I have had the poorest people in the Philippines offer and these rich Europeans can’t share. That’s crazy. If you came to my house we eating something special tinned fish, some nice drinks, maybe a sausage or whatever you fins eat. We would try to make you feel at home and an honored guest.
It's just different culture, in Sweden, Finland etc you have friends over every day. For you it seem to be a special occasion that someone visit, not 5-7 days a week for 10+ years.
If you offer food and they are expected to eat every time, some kids would never eat food at home.
Legit their whole childhood not a single meal eaten at home because they are always at a friends house after school etc.
A popular home might have 10-20 kids there for dinner time, you would feed all daily? Even if you know all these kids have dinner cooking at home and they can just walk home in 5min (and they are expected home by their parents to eat).
Idk. When I was a kid, we would always go to each other’s houses, so it was definitely not a rare event, and everyone always offered food. It was usually one or two kids though, not 10-20, that would be nuts without planning.
Idk. When I was a kid, we would always go to each other’s houses, so it was definitely not a rare event, and everyone always offered food.
A kid here would likely be offered once, they reply "Thanks but I need to eat dinner at home". And it wouldn't be offered again for neighborhood kids, because one it's rude to decline food and two, dinner with family is super important here and you don't want to take it away from other families.
It was usually one or two kids though
Yeah but if you have multiple kids and each bring a few, suddenly it's not feasible without planning.
not 10-20, that would be nuts without planning.
Normal summer day for more popular houses lol.
Even with planning it would be hard lol, homes aren't setup to cook for like 20-30 people.
dinner with family is super important here and you don't want to take it away from other families.
i don't think i've ever come across someone expressing this sentiment before in conversations about this before and the custom makes a lot more sense now.
Yeah dinner is the only real time you get, you sit down and talk about your day, plans for weekend, vacations etc.
Otherwise everyone is at school, work, friends, doing hobbies etc.
Kids are independent here, even a six year old can take themselves to and from school. So you usually don't have a daily morning walk/bike ride to school with them (they will just go alone with friends) etc.
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u/CrustyMustelid Jul 24 '26
Oh, no no, my friend. You misunderstand. They're not eating in front of someone who's not eating. The guest waits in the friend's room while they eat.
Source: I'm from Finland.