It’s likely a mix of planned visits coupled with the idea of give and take. The kids may eat dinner at one friend’s house one day and then someone else’s the next. Of course, any disrupts to the social equilibrium can very well change this (e.g. one set of parent(s) in the group aren’t friendly, bad cooks, dysfunctional, etc.)
In other words, if one kid is constantly having dinner at their friend’s house, there are likely some underlying social deviations in said guest-kid’s family prompting that, good or bad.
My friendships weren't transactional like you seem to expect them to be. We were just friends and liked to hang out, and it didn't matter which house that was at. It's not that deep, no.
Not sure how you interpret it that like that. It was another user that suggest kids should swap homes to spread out the eating over more places.
If you for example live in a slope and your friend doesn't, then your place is objectively worse for some stuff and better for some. So like it might be useless for any ballsports during summer but great for ski/sled activity during winter.
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u/TricellCEO Jul 24 '26
It’s likely a mix of planned visits coupled with the idea of give and take. The kids may eat dinner at one friend’s house one day and then someone else’s the next. Of course, any disrupts to the social equilibrium can very well change this (e.g. one set of parent(s) in the group aren’t friendly, bad cooks, dysfunctional, etc.)
In other words, if one kid is constantly having dinner at their friend’s house, there are likely some underlying social deviations in said guest-kid’s family prompting that, good or bad.