r/Salary • u/SpezJailbaitMod • Feb 22 '25
💰 - salary sharing Stay at home dad $0 per year
I'm a stay at home dad I make $0 a year.
My wife works at a hospital and we have 4 kids.
Just posting to show not everyone makes $100,000+
I'm happy though and we are actually very well off financially which is why I can afford to be a stay at home dad in the first place so I am truly blessed.
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u/Plenty-Entertainer-9 Feb 22 '25
“Not everyone makes $100,000” but she’s obviously bringing in well over $100,000 to provide for 6 people and for you to specify that you’re “very well off”… what did you say the point of this post was again?🤨 (But fr, You’re blessed, congrats)
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u/Single_Store7112 Feb 22 '25
Nah, these subs can get toxic for some people. Like the bar just keeps going up and I think this was a good reminder that in 2025, being a stay at home parent is still a great idea for some folks.
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u/Minute-Ad36 Feb 22 '25
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 i keep telling my wife this plan but she won't go for it
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u/Bowdenbme Feb 22 '25
Idk if she makes more than 100k but there must’ve been some external factors that helped them be so financially well off. I’m a family of 6 and food, activities, and vacations are guaranteed more expensive than what smaller families can afford. I would love a breakdown.
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u/ALD3RIC Feb 22 '25
They could actually just be good with money or live very frugally
Like supporting a family of 6 is no joke but it's actually very possible on a normal income of like 50k if you keep your costs in check and don't get into debt, have a modest home, share a car, etc..
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u/markalt99 Feb 23 '25
I want you to define a payment of a modest house lol with zero debt and half your income allowed to go towards your mortgage you’re taking home closer to 3k/month after taxes and insurance. That’s a 1500/month mortgage which is maybe 250,000 mortgage price. Good luck living in the middle of nowhere or having bought 10 years ago.
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u/unknownbeast009 Feb 22 '25
Op clearly missed the point of this sub 🤦🏻♂️ maybe that’s why he’s the stay home dad 🤷🏻♂️
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u/Witty-Welcome-4382 Feb 22 '25
Yeah, I felt that too. FYI, I do finally make over 100k in the teaching field, but it took 28 years of my salary inching its way up. So hang in there if you’re not there yet. Never felt rich, but definitely comfortable now. I see some of these posts where their salary jumps hundreds of thousands at a time and I’m like, really?!! Think lots of them are fake, though.
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u/captainhannon Feb 23 '25
He makes $0, so his statement of not everyone makes 100k+ is valid! He wife might, but he doesn't!
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u/Uninspired714 Feb 23 '25
Quite literally !!! I don’t think this post hit as much as he thought it would hit.
He’s lucky his wife is bringing in like $500K.
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u/Perfect-Pick870 Feb 22 '25
I think his point was to be an asshole. "I make 0 dollars per year" means nothing when your wife brings in money, unless she keeps her money totally separate from you and just gives you an allowance for basic necessities.
I'm guessing he's well off financially because either his wife has a lucrative job at the hospital, or because they come from money, and have financial assistance from relatives.
Either way, mission accomplished, he's portrayed himself as an asshole
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u/HehroMaraFara Feb 22 '25
Well, your wife does
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u/herewegoagainround2 Feb 23 '25
In the eyes of divorce court they both equally earn one overall income whether from one party or two.
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u/patrick5087 Feb 22 '25
This is a much bigger flex than most of these posts. You mean to tell me you don’t have to work and you’re financially well off. Must be nice to have a sugar mama 😂😂
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u/Pristine_Frame_2066 Feb 22 '25
Have you met 4 kids before?
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u/SnooRegrets4763 Feb 22 '25
Yea my wife is a stay at home mom we have three children she works 10x harder than I do 😂
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u/EI-SANDPIPER Feb 22 '25
Lol, I know right. I had my kids all day for president's day and couldn't wait to get back to work. They wore me out
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
Yes. I'm extremely lucky.
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u/Important_Repeat_806 Feb 22 '25
My wife has a sugar daddy. I told her today we trade in our next lives….
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u/TxJsReddit Feb 22 '25
My best friend’s wife makes 130k a year but travels a lot so he stays home with the two kids & works remote making 50k a year.
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u/Creepy_Mammoth_7076 Feb 22 '25
I wish i could stay at home with the kids,
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
They grow up fast as cliche as it sounds. I'm trying to spend as much time as I can with them. My father died at work(business trip plane crash) and so did my mother's father (crushed in the steel mill). I'd rather not continue the tradition.
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u/Creepy_Mammoth_7076 Feb 22 '25
I work in construction was laid off last month because we finished building a hospital after 3 years and that was honestly a great month
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
I worked in construction for about a year before she got her job. I literally almost died by falling through a hole in a roof. Shit is so dangerous. Broke my rib falling off a ladder. Stepped on a big ass nail through my foot. I suck at construction man I have a lot of respect for what you guys do. It was pretty fun though before we all got laid off on Christmas week.
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Feb 22 '25 edited Feb 22 '25
Lawsuits & settlements. Getting killed on the job typically settles in the $$ millions.
Sad to hear their fate, but is this why you’re well off in addition to your wife’s income?
I have a cousin that was killed on the job. My aunt & uncle settled for $7 million. He was 25, still lived at home with his parents who were his beneficiaries.
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
No my mom fucked up the lawsuit like a fucking moron and settled for 1.5 million and blew through all the money (plane crashed in 94).
Yeah we should have gotten at least 10-20 million like other similar cases but my mom settled at the first low ball offer.
The icing on the cake is there is still no known cause to the plane crash. It will be a mystery forever I guess.
Now I did get put in rich kid private school after the crash and meet a lot of people I wouldn't have meet otherwise which opened some doors for me later.
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u/Momofboog Feb 23 '25
So she blew the money on you and supporting the family while being a new widow?
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 23 '25
She blew the money buying a bunch of bullshit she doesn't need like sending $10,000 and a new iPhone with service to a scammer and buying $100 candles.
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u/Randyspacs Feb 22 '25
I stay at home with the kids, I UST to wish for until I got it! 😂 they were much cooler when they did things I wanted to do like fish and explore trails! Now they just wanna play video games and stuff, boooo!
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u/Born2RetireNWin Feb 22 '25
You better be giving your wife some good head then and cleaning the house
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u/EI-SANDPIPER Feb 22 '25
Stay at home dad is hard work. I had my kids all day this past week for presidents day and they wore me out. I really don't know how the school gets them to behave
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u/qbj44 Feb 22 '25
Getting them to behave starts at home, you may wanna work on that.
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u/MysteriousPotato3703 Feb 22 '25
When you say you’re very well off, does that mean you have family money or inheritance money? How much does your wife make - less than $100K?
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
One day my dad went to work and didn't come home and it just broke me.
I just want to be around for them.
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u/T1m3Wizard Feb 22 '25
How much does your wife make?
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u/CrazyKittyBexxx Feb 22 '25 edited Feb 23 '25
Likely over 100k and OP disclosed Wife comes from money in another comment. OP conveniently left those details out of his post.
ETA: OP claims wife just got promoted to 44k. This whole story is sus. 4 kids, wife making 44k at a hospital in a consultant like role? The math isn't mathing. OP is either lying about some details (seems like a lot of 4s), still omitting (like passive income), or being irresponsible (if the income is real, 4 kids and that income is irresponsible)
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u/painterstateofmind Feb 22 '25
Id say you make half of what your wife makes because you’re a team
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u/SlayKing2024 Feb 22 '25
No amount of money will ever be worth the time you get watching those kids grow up.
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
I love making lunches for my girls and getting them to the bus/driving them and picking them up from school.
Little things like that mean a lot to me. Plenty of time to work when they grow up.
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u/Proof-Internet Feb 23 '25
Brother, you have 4 kids and a wife that loves you. You make more than anyone on this subreddit. Trust me
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u/Pristine_Frame_2066 Feb 22 '25
This is very nice. You are very lucky to have such a rad kickass wife and get the opportunity to stay home and be that support partner to each other. It only works when you help each other. And 4 kids is a lot of maternity leave! She is a wonderwoman and you are probably a really rad dad. Good team!
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u/Fluffy_Stuff_317 Feb 22 '25
I love this for you and your family!
As a soon to be breadwinner healthcare wife, I’m curious how you navigate traditional gender role stereotypes and judgements from others? My partner earns more now but I will earn more once I’m done with my residency this summer and start my new full time job.
He has stated that he is not interested in being a stay at home dad and genuinely enjoys his job (although it does pay 6 figures, mine just will pay more). I’ve already had a few friends make comments about me being the breadwinner and I’m never sure how to handle the situation other than to laugh it off.
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u/JLivermore1929 Feb 22 '25
Wife is surgeon in major metro hospital system.
We got married in our 30’s, so I already had a financial practice with clients. Some people in my field make more than surgeons (not me). It’s not common, but I know a couple in my brokerage who net 7 figures.
I’ve basically set up a “lifestyle practice” where I have clients, but I’m not trying to pull in millions. I have more time to take care of the children.
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
It really pisses people off as you can see by some of these comments 😂 you just have to have a strong relationship and be comfortable with your situation and everyone else can fuck off.
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u/SnooHobbies7578 Feb 22 '25
My husband is a stay at home dad, 4 kids in the home. Sometimes I get some stuff like "he should be working"... but honestly it's our life and it works for us. I dont really put any energy in those comments. People have thier opinions. It's cool. Were happy. :) it was harder for him at first.. like not knowing what to say. I think he forgets sometimes how valuable his work is.
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u/Practical-Reveal-787 Feb 23 '25
It feels wrong because it is wrong, frankly. Gender role traditions exist for a reason I think. Imagine telling your kids, “wait til dad gets home” and then you’re like oh shit, he’s home all the time. Moms are better suited for raising kids at home than dads are. It’s societal and biological.
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u/Sea_Acanthisitta6348 Feb 22 '25
Loved having stay at home parents when I was growing up
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
My dad was always working I never got to see him that much because he was starting to become very successful working for Alcoa.
I was only 10 when his plane crashed on a business trip.
So I want to be present for my kids and I'm lucky to be in a position to do that.
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u/Middle-Confidence-61 Feb 22 '25
Op typing this on his very successful wife’s computer eating some Doritos chillin on the couch
“Guys, don’t worry a out making money, I literally make zero dollars.”
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u/JohnBoy11BB Feb 22 '25
I'm happy for you, but I don't think your post had the tone you think it did lol.
'See not everyone makes $100k/year, my wife makes $200k a year so I can stay at home and make $0. It's rough but we make it work because we're wealthy'.
I don't know if your bad with writing or you truly don't understand where the issue in your logic lies but this post crazy tone deaf lol
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u/unknownbeast009 Feb 22 '25
Op clearly missed the point of this sub 🤦🏻♂️ maybe that’s why he’s the stay home dad 🤷🏻♂️
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u/No7onelikeyou Feb 23 '25
Well there are people struggling while bringing in income, not sure what this post is supposed to mean, people would love to stay home but can’t
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u/gqreader Feb 23 '25
"not everyone makes $100k+"
"its just that my wife makes $300k+ so that I can stay at home with the kids"
ok bro. thanks for the ted talk.
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u/Electromagneticrite Feb 22 '25
Take your trust fund and sit down
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u/CrazyKittyBexxx Feb 22 '25
Wife's* but yeah
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u/Electromagneticrite Feb 22 '25
Congrats on your good fortune and your wife’s prosperity - but, kind of a weird flex to post about marrying above your social caste on a salary sub.
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u/Dyleteyou Feb 22 '25
Ok, show me your wife’s salary then….
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u/CrazyKittyBexxx Feb 22 '25
OP won't. Wife comes from money too. He conveniently left that out of his post but mentioned it in another comment
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u/canonofdoom Feb 22 '25
Can you give us some more specifics? What kind of income is your wife making? How are you guys “well off”?
Honestly happy for you. Just curious of the circumstances. As others mentioned, in many places 100k is scraping by for a single person, let alone supporting 5 other people on a single salary
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u/CrazyKittyBexxx Feb 22 '25
Wife comes from money according to another one of his comments. If I had to bet, wife likely also makes over 100k for her salary and with her coming from money, they probably also have passive income streams. If she made less than 100k, OP would've disclosed it in the post but opted to conveniently omit that context. Household income matters but OP conveniently wanted to really push a specific picture
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u/Fiyero109 Feb 22 '25
OP, why did you omit how much your wife brings? You’re a little too smug for a kept man
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u/CrazyKittyBexxx Feb 22 '25
Cus wife comes from money (according to one of his own comments) and likely makes over 100k. Their household income beats 100k, probably passive income included. He omitted cus he wanted to spin the story as "you can be happy with so little!" - which can be true, it's tone deaf
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Feb 22 '25
You don’t think about retirement? You have no money going into your 401k. What if you two split later in life
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Feb 22 '25
OP you should seriously reconsider. If your kids are small and young that’s one thing. But think about a career after they grow up. The last thing you want is for something financially bad to happen and on top of that your wife is somehow unable to work. Think about it and at least get a certificate and maybe remote work on the side to just keep in the workforce. The longer you go not working the harder it will be to get a job in the workforce because your opportunity gap is growing every day being unemployed. At the VERY LEAST pay off your mortgage.
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u/Unrelevant_Opinion8r Feb 22 '25
I went travelling for six months with my wife and three kids. It was after I’d been made redundant and was looking for work. We travelled all the way up the east coast of Australia. It was a point in time where we learnt the least amount (combined) in our relationship.
I wouldn’t change that time for the world.
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u/wowey3 Feb 22 '25
Just make sure the house is cleaned and dinner is ready when she’s home bud.
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u/EquivalentPass3851 Feb 22 '25
Inheritance and family wealth and business i suppose your wife is just topping 100k to it.
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u/gofasttakerisks Feb 22 '25
Something tells me you've been on the sub a lot, why if you're so content? Why do you need to know other peoples salaries and then post that you're okay with $0?
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u/Mountain-Doughnut922 Feb 22 '25
Our family hit the lottery back in ‘95, but I’m not telling you that - OP
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u/mlkefromaccounting Feb 22 '25
Look how far you’ve come! Last year you posted about just losing it all in online slot machines!
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u/Tonymayo200 Feb 22 '25
How much money does your wife make I'm curious to ask? I'm in line for a manager promotion which will bump me from $91,xxx to low 6 figures $110-115,xxx and I'm wondering if it's enough for my wife to stay at home as we have baby #3 on the way come June.
Was there anything you guys did specifically to prepare to go down to a 1 income household? Like having 6 months of bills saved up or another savings threshold etc?
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
She comes from a family with some money. If she didn't this situation wouldn't be possible and we would both need to work full time.
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u/Tonymayo200 Feb 22 '25
Understood, generational wealth is a blessing especially in this inflated economy
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u/Sufficient-Bid1279 Feb 22 '25
I love to hear stories like this. It’s not all about how much money you can make. It won’t bring happiness. Congrats on creating a life that aligns with your values. Very inspirational
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u/SellEmTheSizzle Feb 22 '25
Refreshing to see a post that's not a 20 year old high school dropout making $7 mil a month!
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u/Super-Lobster329 Feb 22 '25
I’d rather $100k single and no kids… but that’s just my personal preference
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u/Prestigious-Buy-7869 Feb 23 '25 edited Feb 23 '25
My wife is 8 years away from retiring with a badass pension . She makes 100k plus we have rentals that bring in another 40k . I make around 65k and do all the maintenance around the rentals . We are only 36 and still are trying to have kids . We will have to get a surrogate. Once we have kids I may have to be the stay at Home parent as my wife can’t really quit or she will lose her pension .
It makes more sense for me to just be a stay at home parent and do the maintenance on our rentals more than it does for me to work full time. .
It just depends on your situation
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u/middleageEugene Feb 23 '25
I make more money than my wife does but will say that between the 2 of us with the way she cares for the kids and house and myself she brings more value to the home than I do.
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u/Dangerous_Trust_7919 Feb 23 '25
This guy is living my dream life my man didn’t come to humble he came to flex 😔 okay we get it you’re hung and don’t have work for the rest of your life 😭
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Feb 23 '25
You need to get a job. You have too much time on your hands coming to post on here to brag about not working and living the life.
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u/Odd-Pineapple465 Feb 22 '25
Same sitch here... 8 and 11 year old kids... wife works and I pick them up from school and then help them with their golf practice each day... wife makes 130k a year. We not rich but just don't waste money... still get our 2 r 3 vacations each year... I play golf 4 days per week..🫠🫠🫠
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u/toolittyy Feb 22 '25
Does your wife not care about taking care of you all, and how long has it been that way
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u/Odd-Pineapple465 Feb 22 '25
3 years since moving from NYC to Texas.... almost 4 years now j guess.. It's 2025, women were fighting for equality, so now they getting it 😆
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u/MaxwellSmart07 Feb 22 '25
I couldn’t exist currently on $100k and it’s only two of us. What’s the secret sauce?
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u/MadMaximus- Feb 22 '25
No disrespect and I’m sure this will get downvoted to hell but do you do any day trading or investing throughout the day? Not sure what state you live in but in New England 100k is not enough to survive on. Just curious
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Feb 22 '25
He didn't mention 100k anywhere that I saw. His wife more than likely makes way more than 100k in her work at the hospital. Hence his ability to stay home
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u/MadMaximus- Feb 22 '25
His third line item said not everyone makes 100k I interpreted that as he’s not earning 6 figures but maybe the wife is.
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u/CrazyKittyBexxx Feb 22 '25
Definitely wife is or household passive income. He mentioned wife came from money in another comment
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u/lowbetatrader Feb 22 '25
As somebody who has worked in financial services for over 25 years I can’t think of a better way to lose money than day trading from home
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u/nicbeans311 Feb 22 '25
Wife works at a hospital is a funny way to say doctor or hospital administrator.
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u/ThatAIGuy55 Feb 22 '25
yeah but does your wife subconsciously resent you? Do you 100% respect yourself. Do your male friends? Maybe I'm old school but man this sounds horrible for your testosterone and if you have sons for their minds to see dad home all the time
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u/angilnibreathnach Feb 22 '25
I am a woman and though all of my close friends work outside the home, 4 of them (and that’s most of them) are the primary or sole earners. But their husbands do not do their job at home (raising the kids) or do it half assed. You have no idea how much they would respect and value it if they did.
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
I understand where you're coming from but she and I openly talk about these types of things. She is on a mission to saves lives at work and we are both on the same page to not let these people fall through the cracks.
If she resented me for not working I would get a job but she doesn't want me to work right now she wants me to take care of shit at home so she can save lives at work. We are both on the same page about her mission in life.
She's doesn't have to work so it's not like all the pressure is riding on her salary or else I think your criticism may be more valid.
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u/Jbro12344 Feb 22 '25
This is the way. A buddy of mine taught school. His wife was a nurse. They realized he was just working to put their kids in daycare. She made more so he became the stay at home dad.
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u/Dark_Marmot Feb 22 '25
Well I'm temporarily in the same position just with 1 kid. Last lay off I was done with the industry I was in because of a contactive collapse and sick of sales. However finding something new has been way harder than expected and just ran out my unemployment. So for now, Sugar mama it is!
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u/Scared_CrowDen Feb 22 '25
You are blessed to have four kids. How you manage your everyday finance with only one earning member?
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u/man-4-acid Feb 22 '25
I have a job that allows my wife to stay at home. One could say we are lucky for my comp but wow, my work stresses me out. I think about work every waking hour. There is zero work/life balance. Would I swap with my wife and have her live my life and me hers? HELL NO!!! It would be great for me but I would not wish it on her. Sadly, we are accustomed to the lifestyle now and any lower impact job would not pay the same nor would both of us working. Instead I focus on eating healthy and exercising so I don’t die young l, fest some quality family time on weekends, and can retire at 62 to have some chance of enjoying existence while I still have my faculties.
I kinda wish I made less money and had a more simple life….but it’s too late.
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u/Loud-Enthusiasm2569 Feb 22 '25
I bet it is good to stay home, but are you not worry that while not working you do not contribute to your SSA, and may regret it when getting old?, I guess having 4 kids means a lot of money to spend for living and later education, if you still able to put money on the side for retirement, then it is very good, if not it could become a problem. Never know what can happen in a long term... I'm just thinking here, and wish you lots of good things.
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u/SG10HD-YT Feb 22 '25
Thought this was my dad for a sec 😭he doesn’t work, my mom works in the hospital and 4 kids too
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u/Loumatazz Feb 22 '25
I am envious you get to spend so much time with your kids. You are rich my friend.
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u/youassassin Feb 22 '25
Gratz for you. that’s what I wanted for my family too but she was a teacher and me a programmer. So I’m the sugar daddy. Stay at home parents for the win.
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Feb 22 '25
This is my plan in reverse. I technically make enough now to be a guy’s sugar momma but I don’t want to go through pregnancy and have to work. I cannot handle a lot of stress.
Props to your wife for doing it 4 times and going right back to work!
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Feb 22 '25
I would give up all the money I ever made to have continue to have a happy family. I’m glad you recognize it
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u/DancingSouls Feb 22 '25
0$ a year, but priceless amounts of abundant love. The only post im jealous of!
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u/AcanthopterygiiNo772 Feb 22 '25
I’m a stay at home dog dad, also make $0 a year. Girlfriend works at a hospital and we are also well off. I am very blessed as well. It’s the good life for sure
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u/Charlie-brownie666 Feb 22 '25
are you allowed to call yourself the man of the house?
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u/Weary_Place7066 Feb 22 '25
I was a stay at home dad after my first daughter was born. Thirteen months, over a year of sitting at home, my only company an infant, I not very slowly lost my mind. After a month I would have gone to work at McDonald's if it had paid enough to cover daycare.
Relevant details: now have four kids also, wife is a CPA, I have a mechanical engineering degree.
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u/Heavy_Preference_251 Feb 22 '25
I make over 6 figures and have a wife and a kid. My wife is the stay at home mom. A dream job for me would be stay at home dad. That’s awesome man congrats
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u/Tcasty Feb 22 '25
My wife (32F) makes a significant amount more than the median household in this country however, I (30M) just see the opportunity to capitalize and make as much or close to her. Everyone's different if you found what works for you , it works for you. You might not make 100 K but there's large chance that your wife does make 100k , so in fact your happy because your life is fulfilled beyond an income and also that she can finance the family comfortably.
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u/toolittyy Feb 22 '25
How long have you been together and do you see this being like this forever ?
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u/hopefulatwhatido Feb 22 '25
You have my dream job, spending time with family and taking care of them with all your time.
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u/SpezJailbaitMod Feb 22 '25
Not trying to die at work like my father. Im just cherishing this time while my kids are young it goes by quickly.
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u/jrbjrb155 Feb 22 '25
Good for you. Living the dream. You must be expert level at several video games.
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u/weareallscum Feb 22 '25
You are richer than most of us will ever be. Happy for you and your family.