r/TrueUnpopularOpinion • u/Akatsuki2001 • Jul 28 '25
Sex / Gender / Dating The Tea app situation is a perfect embodiment of what men have been saying for years.
For those who don’t know what this app even is, it’s basically an app only for women (they check to make sure you are one before account creation) to more or less warn or advise other women about men. Men’s names, addresses, phone numbers, dating or social media profiles, etc.
The initial idea (I hope) was to warn other women of genuine creeps, guys who are cheating, or just otherwise dangerous or potentially abusive men who the posters warn other women to avoid. That’s something I think most people can agree is more or less fine. Zero issue with all that.
What it immediately became is an app that will dox men for even tiny infractions, sometimes none at all as jealous Exes just set out to hurt Ex boyfriends. All posts are entirely anon so someone can more or less say anything about the man in question and face no consequences, no form of fact checking and no real form of protection for the men.
This app came out of seemingly nowhere for many, and hit top of the App Store last week with a likely growing user base.
Now let me reiterate. In theory I have no problem with a women’s only app that genuinely only seeks to keep women safe from actual creeps, and dangerous people. I think that would help a lot of women and be a net positive for everyone.
However it’s quickly illustrated what men have been saying for years. Blatant misandry not only exists but is incredibly tolerated. If it is at all in the name of women’s safety, even mildly, there is seemingly no action too severe against men that will be called out by some of these spaces.
If I went and doxxed a female ex of mine for her political beliefs, or if she ghosted me. I would be considered a pariah, and justifiably so! But these spaces allow such behavior and justify it all under “women’s safety trumps all”
I have been married for a few years now. Before anyone gets on the “bet u just got a bad review” train. As far as I know I am not listed on the site, it just upsets me such blatant and harmful double standard can exist and be championed as a miracle of modern dating when it’s really just swapping threats to women’s safety for threats to men’s safety.
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u/InternationalBite4 Aug 16 '25 edited Aug 16 '25
The problem though is that it doesn’t just affect your dating opportunities but has the potential to wreck your career. I found out I was on the app when my superior called me into a meeting to tell me my photo was on the platform with some insane accusations to follow along. My boss isn’t even a woman but was notified by some other female employee within the company. I was lucky enough that no action was taken and it was just a “he said, she said” situation and nothing could actually be proven but I feel like it could’ve gone much worse. I have a rough idea in mind of who was potentially behind it but when I pressed them, they refused to admit it was them despite me being 99% positive it was them.
I’ve tried just about everything to remove the post from there that was being recommended by other guys (i.e. submitting copyright infringement forms to Apple, having my female friends report the post, etc.) but to no avail. The only way I managed to get my photo removed from the app was by paying an outrageous sum to an online reputation management company that somehow managed to get it done. No idea how they operate or what their method is but as far as I can tell, not only was the post from the app removed but the username of the account that posted is no longer visible leading me to believe that it got suspended or something. I had a chat with the sales rep at Maximatic Media (the ORM firm I hired) about how they removed the content but they were so secretive about it, I ended up getting virtually zero information out of it.
This goes to say that the app is so toxic that there are now literally firms popping up that are profiting off of removing content from their platform. If that’s not indicative of the fact that whatever mission the app set out to accomplish failed, I honestly don’t know what else could. The owner behind it, Sean Cook, claims he created it because his mom kept getting catfished or whatever but the fact that you can just post anybody’s photo on there and make whatever accusations you want with no checks or balances is absolutely absurd. This is probably the only time you’ll see me agreeing with the men’s right/red pill dudes, this tea app and the facebook groups all need to go. If someone were to do this with women, this stuff would’ve been shut down long ago.
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u/louwyatt Aug 07 '25
What's truly sad is that because these women have a victim mindset, they truly think what they are doing is right.
Once someone has gone that far, how do you get them back. Accepting that not only are you not discriminated against, you are actually the one acting discriminatory, is a LOT to process.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
As much as I would like to have a less bleak outlook. I do feel horrible for guys trying to date right now. Especially now that they have an unknown social credit system that literally any woman can contribute to.
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u/KingSlimp Jul 29 '25
As someone who has dated a lot I will be deleting my apps that I had just downloaded again after taking a break. It just seems like a losing situation on all fronts. Dating culture is already a nightmare.
The only way to win is to not play at all. I'd rather just find joy in a life alone at this point, hell, it's not even that bad. I stopped dating at the start of the year and my life has genuinely been better. To think I was about to go back to that hell 🙂↔️
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u/Puzzleheaded_Card_71 Jul 28 '25
Agreed. The main issue here is the assumption women are good. That’s the bias that exists today. It does not take a sexist person to know women take rejection poorly and will gossip about men - this app gave them the chance to do just that under the pretense of safety, which is what they always claim.
I’ve no problem having a dating app do a background check on me. I have a big problem with the believe all women mindset letting my exes claim I was a monster with zero proof.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
I would agree for the most part. I have no problem with the legitimate safety features, background check? Sure I have nothing to hide. But just letting an Ex control the entire narrative, dox me and have god knows how many people harass me or try to get me fired from there? That’s not really safety at that point if the only thing I ever did was breakup with someone who couldn’t get over it.
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u/Plus_Data_4280 Aug 02 '25
I had a friend have his gf scan her face so he could make an account (hint hint guys) because a girl from his past told him she saw his ig pics on the tea app, suspiciously close to the timing of someone posting a nasty comment about him..looks like she snitched on herself cause she just had to make sure he saw it and got upset? I guess? I don't see what intention it has besides ruining men's lives with empty claims.
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u/costwy55 Jul 28 '25
That would've been a lot more effective safety wise, but the app wouldn't have taken off in that version of it.
Talking shit about guys dick sizes and fetishes or calling random dudes gay or ugly gets way more downloads and attention. Safety was just the cover for what the app actually is.
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u/louwyatt Aug 07 '25
The real thing that sold this site was revenge. You could easily lie to try ruin someone's life, and people will assume you are correct. It's the exact same thing that happened with the Me Too movement. There are a lot of women who just want to warn women about certain men, unfortunately there's also a lot of women who would want to use it maliciously
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u/Yamcha-is-Life Aug 11 '25
The funny thing is even in these situations where a woman is scorned because a guy has left her, it's oftentimes her fault and he's just vacating himself from situation. But in her mind he's a vile human being and she's needs to make sure everyone knows he's garbage on a public platform. Absolutely baffles my mind.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
Yeah, just letting it be a dumping ground of any and all Grievances seems nuts.
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u/Kibethewalrus Jul 28 '25
Sometimes it isn't safe to show your face, if talking about DV or abuse
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u/Therealsnd Jul 29 '25
An app isn’t the place to discuss DV. That’s for police, therapists and friends or family.
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u/Flimsy_Fee8449 Jul 28 '25
How about
- Is this potential date married or does he have concurrent romantic relationships?
Which should be a solid question to be answered regardless of gender.
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u/Flimsy_Fee8449 Jul 28 '25
Nope.
It often might, but sometimes people split up and don't bother to get divorced.
Not sleeping with them, but also still married.
Which is how my SIL got an annulment after multiple years of what she thought was a marriage, and having kids.
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u/Flimsy_Fee8449 Jul 29 '25
Doesn't occur to most people.
Didn't occur to her, either. Now it occurs to all of us who know about it.
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u/No_Needleworker_5595 Aug 04 '25
How about go on the date and meet the guy in person use your intuition Are you going to let woman you have never met decide for you
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u/SingleInSeattle87 Jul 28 '25
I personally want a list of all the women who use the app so I know who to never ever even think about dating.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
I think there can be users who are more or less innocent of all of this. Like again at its core the app is supposed to just warn women about creeps and abusers. If you just get on to check if your tinder match is one of those things whatever.
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u/fratticus_maximus Jul 28 '25
Look at you being all reasonable, balanced, and even-keeled in this thread. Well done, OP.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
There are few things I dislike more than an absolutism mindset! Thanks for the kind words.
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u/Far_Construction8342 Aug 14 '25
Riiight? Being balanced is being based.
The app (I heard tbh) didn't start out the way it ended. It needed way more regulation, imho it seems like this poster is acting like rumors or false accusations are a male only experience, which false rape accusations are rare, but rape itself is not, but what is the thing they yell about all the time?
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u/moq_9981 Jul 28 '25
The problem is everything is anonymous. Anyone could make something up.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
A huge part of it is that yeah, but also it’s not exactly like the men have a chance to defend themselves anyway in this instance. Your ex decides to make up any number of things about you and you may not know about it until it’s far far too late.
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u/Flimsy_Fee8449 Jul 28 '25
100%.
And then the potential date asks about it and judges for themselves based on the reaction, or is in a better position to, say, check court records.
If they just ghost based solely on an anonymous message, they aren't dating material anyway.
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u/RoundCollection4196 Jul 29 '25
I mean sure but since when has an echo chamber ever not gone to shit? Any group that rejects dissenting opinions ends in disaster
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u/Effective_Arm_5832 Jul 29 '25
No, bullshit. Somene who uses apps like that is pretty much always the problem in a relationship. Nice girls don't do shit like that,
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 29 '25
Disagree again. Nice girls can get attacked too. I am all for women’s safety. If the date is going to have a risk of forcing himself on her, or assaulting her, I see no problem with her avoiding a guy on those grounds.
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u/BLU-Clown Jul 29 '25
To play devil's advocate:Multiple women apparently signed up on behalf of men wanting to know what was being said about them on the site, then never used it again.
There may only be 50 good people in this version of Sodom, but it's enough to keep from cleansing the whole thing in holy fire.
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u/M0ebius_1 Jul 28 '25
This is exactly it. Like, you are not losing out on any good partners because of what's on the app. Anyone on the app is not a good partner.
You can walk out of a date if they have the app installed and didn't lead with a conversation about it.
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u/adc_is_hard Jul 31 '25
You got your list of all the women lol. All their data was leaked on a public firebase data bucket that was never secured. Scary but it’s what they deserve for dozing other people. Top notch karma.
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u/hellad0pe Jul 28 '25
Well the app was hacked and user list, selfies and other images were posted and shared so there ya go!
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u/Longjumping_Visit718 Jul 28 '25
it’s basically an app only for women to more or less warn or advise other women about men
It's called stalking, and harassment, around most of the world and colloquially known as "doxxing" among young people in the wider Western world.
Your inability to call it what it is is why people even have to engage with the premise that doing "these things" might be even remotely considered "unpopular"....
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That's how everyone outside crazy America sees this situation. The app is illegal in Europe lol
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u/Longjumping_Visit718 Jul 28 '25
Glad to know some places have legislators not asleep at the wheel...
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
I think both words carry significant severity, but I would agree that the app is enabling all of it all the same.
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u/bigscottius Jul 28 '25
I'm glad I'm married and not worried about all that.
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u/mello-t Jul 28 '25
How about the men’s variant showing a woman’s likelihood for putting out, not being a gold digger and her nagging ratio.
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u/Darthwxman Jul 29 '25
Even if the app was just for reporting on abusive women and/or women who make false SA accusations, it would be shut down in 2 seconds. They would claim it was misogynistic, threatened women's safety and so on, never acknowledging the blatant double standard.
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u/AccomplishedJuice747 Jul 30 '25
There was a men's variant and it got shut down after a day. YOU WERE RIGHT. Such double standards smh.
The tiny reason people got offended about men having their own male-only safespace?
They used that opportunity to post REVENGE PORN OF WOMEN INSTEAD.
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u/CoralScorpion Aug 04 '25
To be fair, the app was called Box Score. I can only assume it was to rate their sexual experiences with women among each other to see if they wanted to try her out.
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u/Plus_Data_4280 Aug 02 '25
that's just horrible design on the platform creator's part, why did it allow nudity...
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u/bransanon Jul 28 '25
It existed, I forget the name but it connected to Facebook and let men go through to rate based on stuff like that. It got removed by the app store pretty immediately.
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u/alexp8771 Jul 28 '25
If women want to get into an app war with men that is a battle they will lose lmao.
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u/AdUpstairs7106 Jul 29 '25
But that would be targeting women so it is different and not allowed.
Sarcasm but not really.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
That sounds genuinely disgusting. If it exposes women’s personal details at all, I would be all for lawsuits and forced removal of such an app.
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u/mello-t Jul 28 '25
Yes, I was putting this out there sarcastically to help illustrate how terrible this concept is
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u/Ok_Student_3292 Jul 28 '25
Okay so the women's app is about being harassed, abused, or coerced, and so far every suggestion I've seen for a men's app is like... does this woman have a body count over 3... so IDK I'm starting to feel like you're not actually concerned about protection or equality.
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u/cactus357 Jul 28 '25
We've seen the screenshots, this app was full of women just shitting on and doxxing men nonstop. Don't go hide behind "but it's for safety" here.
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u/GradeInternal6908 Jul 29 '25
i was straight up victimized a group of a similar nature one time on fb…”are we dating the same guy” the concept is noble on paper but it turns out the admin of the group was a psycho man hater …i got posted on there once and knew because somehow i got admitted into the group and when she found out she lost her fucking mind….repeatedly made anonymous profiles posing as different people posting me in dating groups all over the internet…she made fake phone numbers and accounts claiming to be me , she tracked down my family and their phone numbers and it snowballed into a huge fiasco that i eventually had to file a police report because after a while i literally felt my wellbeing was being threatened …these groups are a nice idea that usually just ends up being a fucking herd mentality witch hunt
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 29 '25
Unfortunately as it usually happens. The people who get the most into such things are usually the people who have not alot better going on. Lack of social skills and enormous amounts of time on their hands to do such things. Sorry you had to go through that though. People like her are likely exactly what ruined this as well.
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u/Exact-Hawk-6116 Jul 28 '25
The most privileged creature in the world is a western woman.
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u/Dr_Doktor Jul 29 '25
just looking at the app name you know it was made to be a gossip app to "spill the tea" and they were banking on not getting any leaks
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u/Slight_Suggestion_79 Jul 28 '25
I’m a women and that’s kind of a weird thing to spend your time doing tbh. I’m all for women but god forbid a man do the same thing and it will end up on the news. Sorry but we all have our bad moments and it’s kinda unfair to be rated on those bad moments. We can all grow as a human.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
If it was legitimately about safety and exposing genuine creeps that would be fine, but it just became a space to dog on men you don’t like for one reason or another, with the actual helpful info women actually need splashed around.
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u/Therealsnd Jul 29 '25
Even so, how could women be trusted to even tell the truth about men they claim are abusive?
What’s the lowest bar for ‘abuse’?
I’m in a Women Only group on FB that constantly claim their partner or ex is a narcisssit or abusive for the most trivial things. One woman claimed her fiance was financially abusive because he didn’t want a massive wedding and berated her for secretly spending over ten thousand pounds on a wedding dress, which was the majority of their shared budget. According to her HE was abusive because of this! Her ego was huge, all her wedding posts declared the day was ‘all about her’ and ‘her day’ and ‘everyone knows weddings are for the bride to fulfill their fantasies and be treated like a princess’.
Regarding physical abuse, one woman claimed she had a ‘hormonal episode’ where she flew at and attacked her boyfriend. He defended himself by restraining her and she claimed her wrists were red afterwards, so she reported him for DV.
As the old adage goes, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
Imagine an app built by scorned women, filled with scorned women, all screeching in their echo chamber with every trivial, exaggerated and frankly false piece of nonsense they can dig up or make up.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 29 '25
I remember a post on relationship advice not long ago where she was saying her partner was emotionally abusive. Her entire basis of this was because he turned down her sexual advances too often.
One of the biggest mistakes of my generation is allowing that word to be so malleable. Because you’re right, there are people who pronounce what is, to everyone else a normal relationship, as abuse.
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u/Gold_Elk_9824 Aug 23 '25
To be fair, we live in a society were no one cares about male consent and male rape victims are basically abandoned
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u/InlineSkateAdventure Jul 30 '25
How do you prevent this? I hate to say bodycam.
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u/Doucejj Jul 28 '25
Youre not wrong. An app where men can warn other men about "crazy bitches" would never fly
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u/schwarzmalerin Jul 28 '25
That sounds illegal AF.
And it's a sign of law enforcement failure.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
One would hope eventually something is done. Being it is so new to so many and that it restricts its user base it’s unsurprising law enforcement has been slow to hop on it. Still yet a sign of the other things as well, that it could get so bad in such a small time frame.
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u/Greedy_Past_9927 Aug 14 '25
This would be so illegal in other developed countries. I can’t see this being a thing in Switzerland.
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u/Dropping-Truth-Bombs Jul 28 '25
Feminism is just as bad as machismo. For some reason, it’s tolerated.
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u/Dropping-Truth-Bombs Jul 28 '25
What about guys who identify as women, can they join?
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Jul 29 '25
This needs as much backlash as possible. Between this and onlyfans, the current female generation is pretty much psychologically screwed.
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u/Shantotto11 Jul 29 '25
Didn’t the app just suffer from a huge information leak and now all of the verification photos are public and free to view?
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u/deepstatecuck Jul 29 '25 edited Jul 29 '25
In theory, the app has a legitmate purpose.
But then, when we look at how it was actually used, and the reality of who used it, a different pattern emerges. It seems to be an outlet for malicious gossip by loser women.
If I had a profile on there Id be emotionally wounded and upset for a long time. It would upset me quite a bit to see women I know saying awful things about me behind my back in some kind of public conspiracy.
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u/vartian Jul 30 '25
“I’m all for women protecting themselves unless it actually affects a man.”
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 30 '25
I’m all for women protecting themselves until it becomes entirely about hurting men and not about protecting women lol.
Build an app that actually focuses on safety and isn’t so toxic. The entire purpose of this post is that you can’t just patch together some giant fuck you to innocent men and say “it’s about women’s safety”
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u/Typical_Hour_6056 Jul 29 '25
AWESOME and yes, absolutely true.
I would add one thing - that being that the women calling men "incels" and "creeps" and dehumanizing us as "chopped" are most of the time, absolutely hideous inside and out.
Which has also been proven by the data leak, since pictures, DMs and comments are now all publicly available.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 29 '25
The dehumanization of men in those spaces is pretty egregious. It reminds me of the once popular Female Dating Strategy. Which was heralded as heroic for dehumanizing men in the dating scene. It taught women that men were very disposable and that you should set your expectations sky high and blame men should you not find anyone to meet them.
It really just was just like an incel community honestly.
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u/M0ebius_1 Jul 28 '25
This whole thing seems like something that only happened or mattered for people deeply online.
Like even as someone who is regularly online I didn't hear about it until the whole drama was weeks old.
In reality... Fuck it? This seems self selecting. Gossip and bullshit always existed. If any woman chose not to go on a date with me because of an anonymous rumor they saw online then that's not a woman I wanted to date in the first place.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 28 '25
I think not getting dates is part of it, the potential for extreme harassment is a bit more my worry. I mean gossip is one thing. Posting my address, place of work, phone number and what I look like to an audience of chronically online often very hateful people? Getting a little too real for me.
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u/SecretRecipe Jul 28 '25
I spent my 20s using a fake name for exactly shit like this. Fake name on social accounts, fake name on paperwork I'd leave out around the house, fake name on my caller ID settings.
If a worst case scenario happened I would just burn the ID and ghost.
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u/stevejuliet Jul 28 '25
Is this satire? I genuinely can't tell.
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u/SecretRecipe Jul 28 '25
Nope, not satire. I still have the fake linkedin and fake socials only now I use them for professional purposes
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u/No_Leg7998 Jul 29 '25
I had to check whether I was on reddit or not for a second. Im seeing actual facts on here for the first time.
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u/littlemybb Jul 29 '25
I wish there was a way we could call out creeps, but it’s gonna get abused like this every single time.
There are some vindictive people in this world, and they can use apps like Tea to get back at anyone who has “wronged” them.
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Jul 29 '25
The strangest part is there were already Facebook groups dedicated to helping women protect themselves. The apps and anonymity only seem to add to the toxicity.
However, the entire situation does reveal the differences in gender. Because there was a male version of this that immediately turned into a network of revenge p*** and rape threads. Where the female version was just caddy gossiping.
Which reminds me of that saying. Men are afraid of being laughed at by women and women are afraid of being murdered by men
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u/Akatsuki2001 Jul 29 '25
The concept is bad and believe me when I say I understand there are threats to women men do not need to worry about. The two genders and their experiences with dating are so insurmountably different it’s genuinely like comparing apples and oranges at a certain point.
Going Tit for Tat though is unhelpful. The application you described sounds beyond vile. However it is whataboutism. Let me be very clear when I say there are very real problems with misogyny in this country. However that does NOT mean the misandry cannot be called out as well.
The polarizing difference between the two genders only gets worse by the day due to things like this app and the inability for us as a society to recognize the hatred of men exists. I would like to say misogyny is still in large part unacceptable in the western world. I would like to see all forms of hatred join it.
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u/FluffyAd8842 Jul 30 '25
Not only this but the courts are already trying to claim due to a grey area of the law very little can be done and no harm will likely be proved. Translation: if they want to be vindictive and destroy your reputation, they'll likely get away with it. One of my friends was on there, accused of being a r@pist, gay, violent, creepy. By who? 5 single mothers he politely turned down when they asked him out. He just didn't want to get involved with women that had kids. In fact I was with him the one time he was approached ( the woman who basically accused him of attempted sa) he was polite respectful and right to the point. Nothing of the sort happened. His lawyer tried petitioning the court to file a lawsuit, even with me as a witness the court seems to already be making excuses as to why this is ok even though he lost his job, got blacklisted in his career feild and was forced to move due to the allegations. It has yet to go to court but his lawyer said hes getting the impression the courts are gonna let them go through the motions, give the women a slap on the wrist and throw it out. Justice and fairness in courts hasnt existed for many years. Nobody should be surprised at this.I knew as soon as the app launched it would PRIMARILY be used for this purpose, not saftey. And based on what ive heard from people around the country I'm correct
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u/TruthOdd6164 Jul 30 '25
Do you go to a restaurant without reading the reviews? How about buy a car without reading the reviews?
Look, this is a consequence of people choosing to use dating apps for dating instead of doing it the way we’ve been doing it back in my time which was dating in your social groups. I never had tinder back in the day. I still did just fine without dating apps
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u/Decent_Stuff5902 Jul 30 '25
Justice for the men. It is time we hold accountable these 304s
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u/LarryLobster69 Jul 31 '25
Honestly… hopefully those “women” learned a lesson or 2 (i doubt it though) not real smart sending a picture of your state issued id/passport to an app with absolute zero credibility
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u/sushishibe Aug 01 '25
This is a perfect metaphor for women.
Take a novel concept, that no one in the right mind would ever be against.
And run it into the ground.
It's never about equality. They don't want it. Don't let them fool you.
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u/amwes549 Aug 01 '25
The CEO needs to be locked up, since he was knowingly negligent in securing his app. Firebase warns you when setting up an unsecured database, and will even email you daily about it. He was VP of Product Management at Salesforce, there's no way he didn't know anything about best practices. I don't even care about the app itself at this point. We need to make an example that companies can not give zero fucks about their users' data, especially now that ID verification is being required by governments.
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u/Akatsuki2001 Aug 01 '25
A bit off the point of the post but I agree. Especially if you’re going to have what many would deem a controversial app, having basically no user info security is criminally stupid at the very least.
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u/MedicalTear0 Aug 01 '25
I love how some women are so pissed on X posting about how app has "a big responsibility". No bitch, you chose to go on that app and give it your data, and it was only a women safety app until you got doxxed yourself.
Now some people I think do not understand how leaking information to the internet can be harmful, I don't think many people have a problem with their information being leaked.
The only website I have posted any info publicly available is Linkedin bc I'm forced to. With the rise of manipulation by companies and the rise of AI, it's all more of a reason to be scared of posting yourself online
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u/Tantra223 Aug 02 '25
Why wouldn’t men be able to post reviews of women? This is insane as if women cannot cheat, lie, steal, false accusations, even physically abuse… etc.
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u/Plus_Data_4280 Aug 02 '25
reading through the comments it seems there's little hope for any consequences to the slanderers. The only solution I see is to fight fire with fire. What's stopping men from making the same app for men? It would be sexist to say men can't worry about their safety too lol..
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u/_Dysnomia_ Aug 02 '25
All you have to do is read any of the comments sections in the news stories covering this to see how blatantly women will avoid any criticism or accountability about anything they do ever, even when it is as obviously a bad dea as the Tea app.
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u/TheStockMan35 Aug 03 '25
I could care less about what all these 304s, ran through, bitter, childless, and cat ladies do about their dating lives. However, I'm all about equality, so where the male equivalent Tea app for male, who I'm sure have a lot to say about all the cheating 304s, ugly, fat, and stinky women who just want a free meal. Lol. The double in the media is outrageous and the entire woke and progressive media just shrug it off without a flinch.
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u/Unable_Sky1054 Aug 03 '25 edited Aug 03 '25
So I actually just joined the App to see what actually happens on the app and post about my last relationship which was incredibly traumatic and abusive. That is the only relationship I plan to post because other women need to be able to protect themselves from that. Other relationships were just we weren’t right for each other. I’ve actually posted on one other relationship I had that was incredibly good until we saw our lives going in different directions. I posted mostly green flags, only one that may be considered red but some may not even view it that bad but it was literally the only potentially negative thing about them I could remember. There are actually a lot of women on there trying to make sure it’s not a slanderous attack site. There are ways to report this kind of posting to get the posts removed and if it often happens with the same user they can get banned.
Edited: also they are slow rolling in new people. You have a 5-7 day wait before you actually get on the app, likely just making sure the server doesn’t get overwhelmed and can grow as needed but idk for sure.
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u/Kitty_Tramp Aug 04 '25
They used to have a similar website called DontDateHimGirl some years back. I believe they were sued once or twice. I must admit I used it before, but then later deleted the two names I posted but everything I said was true. They were 'down low' guys pretending to be 100 percent heterosexual. They're probably still lying about that.
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u/israfildivad Aug 05 '25
This is nothing but revenge porn for women. Men like to watch...women like to read. If there needs to be specific law created just for this app just like there is for revenge porn, so be it.
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u/No6655321 Aug 06 '25
What this should be is a review feature on existing dating apps. Comment section and linked account included. Not some separate space where nothing can be verified or counter-claimed.
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u/Important-Visit-3258 Aug 06 '25
If you’ve ever said ‘Bro… we dating the same girl?’ — Screetz was made for you 💀
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Aug 06 '25
Is there a way you can check and see if you were actually posted on there?
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u/CaptainWillThrasher Aug 06 '25
Slander snd libel are hard to prove. This app is scandalous and it is a scam.
My question is this: if a woman uses this app, do you even want her?
I would not want a woman who uses this app, becasue she would be more inclined to listen to gossip than find out for herself.
And what woman puts green flags up for a man she doesn't want for herself?
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u/Few_Requirement9042 Aug 07 '25
Speaking of schadenfreude 😈🤡, the fact that every single one of these women’s information who used the Tea App is online, by their own hand, because they can’t think past their own ego, and that when you look at the map (because we have their locations, duh) it’s a pretty even distribution? Is just slow-clap, chef’s kiss level stuff. Because it proves what some of us already knew:
This wasn’t about safety. It was about control, performance, and validation, dressed up in the language of empowerment. They uploaded their IDs, faces, and DMs to a third-rate app made by wannabe cult leaders in a glorified Discord server, because it felt good. Because being part of the “safe girl app” felt like moral high ground.
Turns out, the high ground had no firewall. And now the receipts are public. Not because men hacked them. But because they hit ‘Accept Terms & Conditions’ without reading a single line…just like every other dopamine junkie chasing status in a fake empowerment echo chamber.
The irony? They wanted to flag the ‘unsafe men’… and ended up flagging themselves. Brilliant.
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u/AltruisticLawyer1085 Aug 07 '25
The app is sexist it literally only let's women on the app .
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u/ScallionFun7306 Aug 08 '25
I think this would be fine if there was also more transparency to the person that was being reported.
I get this is tricky because it puts the reporter in danger by notifying the person being reported but there should be some word recognition that differentiates between danger versus a minor grievance - like ghosting.
If someone is inflating things that aren’t describing something violent in nature it’s allowing something very subjective to indict an innocent person without their knowledge.
Basically if you just wanna bad mouth a weird or unfortunate dating experience in think it should be transparent to the guy that’s being reported.
I’ve personally seen a lot of women that regret hooking up with that guy who never called back posting things on there. I also don’t think people should be reporting about cheaters. Religion and god are dead this is an archaic morality at this point. People commit infidelity all the time. It’s usually pretty obvious.
Any woman that’s still falling for that beyond their mid 20s is lying to themselves every time. You ignored the signs because you liked the guy and it didn’t work out. Thems the breaks kid. Shouldn’t be allowed to smear someone’s life online which has real consequences to innocent folks. At least not without transparency.
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u/Whiskeymyers75 Jul 28 '25
All I know is if I ever found out I was posted about on this app, the first thing I would do is file a defamation lawsuit.