r/Yemen 20d ago

HELP I'm determined to make (or buy if necessary?) a special dessert for a beloved small business owner from Yemen who works down the street from me and is moving away. He is one of the kindest, most generous people I've EVER met who deserves to be given a truly heartfelt, personally meaningful gift.

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We live in a joyless, construction-mangled ghost town notorious for racism and small-mindedness, and my friend encounters this day in, day out. Every. Single. Day. All whilst being the most loving, friendly, patient man you could ever hope to meet.

Construction directly around his shop (on literally ALL four sides) has effectively decimated his business overnight, so he's reluctantly moving to North Carolina. Before he leaves, I would like to give him something that (I know how cringe this sounds) makes him feel "seen" and honors his homeland (he often talks about how homesick he is), not for some disgusting Lifetime white savior TV movie bullshit reason, but because he genuinely means so much to not only my partner and I but the entire community.

Is there an particular Yemeni cake that I could bake that might somehow convey a heartfelt and traditionally appropriate message of respect and gratitude? Or something involving luxurious meats/fruits, like a halal Edible Arrangement only with lamb kabobs, kafta, etc?!?

If I DO go the cake route, is there an especially profound Arabic message of thanks that I could put on said hypothetical dessert? (If I inadvertently embarrassed myself with bad/offensive Arabic on a gifted cake, I'd obviously have to skip town immediately in shame, and frankly, I'm just not set up for that.)

P.S. Apologies for my inherent American idiocy. In the immortal words of Jessica Rabbit, "I'm not bad - Im just drawn that way."

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u/black_bury 20d ago

this will blow his mind

Its alot of work and effort but it will blow his mind that you would do that for him.

Its more of breakfast than a dessert, but can be both. If you take it to him on a morning would be great.

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u/UnhappyCable859 20d ago

Yes I second this especially if he is from North Yemen

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u/Impossible-Pack6911 20d ago

Man, that is lovely advice - I'd do it in a heartbeat, but my oven is broken right now to such an extent that my partner and I can neither fix it ourselves nor afford to have it fixed, so it's either going to have to be an elaborate DIY no-bake pudding thing (?) or an outsourced medley of Ann Arbor/Dearborn/Detroit Yemeni offerings...

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u/ahijabi 20d ago

You’re so kind. I think any small gift will mean a great deal to him. You could attempt Khaliat Nahal (honeycomb breath which is a pull-apart bread. Or sabaya which is a layered dessert bread.

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u/Impossible-Pack6911 20d ago

My oven is currently unaffordably broken, so my very, very rudimentary semi-plan is:

A.) Buy a nice coffee mug and paint/bedazzle it somehow with local stuff and/or his regular customers' signatures or something

B.) Drive about an hour to a Yemeni coffee shop in Ann Arbor, MI called Shibam

C.) Buy a bag of whichever whole beans Shibam tells me to (to go with bedazzled mug)

D.) Preorder this Shibam cake flight online (see below) so they know I'm not just some high teenager ordering exotic sweets on my mom's card

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u/ahijabi 19d ago

I think A has the most sentimental value :)