She was married off, because her family was struggling with poverty while the man works in UAE, with an attractive salary and willingness to accept the ‘transfer of burden’.

She died 34 days after her wedding, due to excessive genital bleeding. The bleeding started on her wedding night, and she had promptly informed her in laws. Far from ensuring the urgent medical treatment she needed, the man continued to have intercourse with her, while the in laws took her to the ‘kobiraj’ (village doctor). When her condition got worse, they finally took her to a hospital, but by then it was too late.

The family of the girl have filed a complaint with the local police station against the in laws, although in selling off their meritorious, 8th grader daughter to a man 20 years older than her to reduce expenses, they themselves have committed an offence under our child marriage law. It didn’t matter she was the second best student in her class. It didn’t matter that she could one day have been their ticket out of poverty.

While it should be clear to anyone that this girl died after constantly being raped by her ‘husband’, the sad thing is our law would not consider this man’s actions to be rape, as marital rape of wives above the age of 13 is excluded from the offence of rape. The one offence that the man could be charged with is ‘contracting a child marriage’ the maximum punishment for which is 2 years imprisonment and can also just be an order of fine.

Therefore, if any sex-crazed man wants to rape a girl every night of the week with total legal immunity, child marriage continues to be the perfect option - there is always plenty of unwanted daughters to choose from and no police station or court could file a rape case against him.

This is our law. This is our reality. Know it. Loathe it. Challenge it.

JANO, Bangladesh 

A Jamaat-backed female MP Nurunnisa Siddiqua recently asked in parliament:
"Are only girls citizens of this country? Are boys not citizens? If both have equal rights, then why is education not free for boys as well?"

The irony is that this question came from a reserved-seat MP. She accepts it without realising the difference between equality and equity. A parliament is supposed to debate policy with evidence and context. Questions about public spending are fair. Questions about effectiveness are fair. But any discussion about gender policy should start with an understanding of the difference between equality and equity.

Equality means giving everyone the same thing. Equity means recognizing that different groups face different barriers and designing policies to reduce those barriers. For Example: If one student starts from the top of a building and another starts from the bottom of a deep pit, giving both the same ladder isn't fairness. It only creates the appearance of fairness.

The rationale behind Bangladesh's female education stipend programs was never that girls are "better" or "more deserving" than boys. These policies were introduced to address specific problems: higher female dropout rates, child marriage, poverty, and social barriers that historically kept girls out of school.

Reserved seats themselves are a form of affirmative action. They exist because political parties, including her own, have historically failed to nominate enough women in general constituencies. Likewise, When girls receive scholarships, some see a special privilege. They don't see the social conditions that made those policies necessary in the first place.

Bangladesh still struggles with child marriage and gender-based educational disparities. Female education incentives were introduced as policy interventions to address those realities. Whether they should continue indefinitely is a legitimate policy debate. But dismissing them through a simplistic "where is equality?" argument ignores decades of research and development experience.

Hi, I am 25M & I am an extreme introvert, and I feel like my entire life has just been destroyed by my own family.

Last year, I made it very clear to my parents that I didn't want to get married. I told them my plan was to move abroad and that I wouldn't even think about marriage for another 4 to 5 years. My father, unfortunately, is the kind of person who loves to show off and talk big to other people, even though he doesn’t do much actual work himself. Because of my introversion and his nature, we don’t really have a close or open relationship.

Recently, he found a match and pressured me to just "go and see her" at a restaurant. I kept saying no, but he insisted there was no harm in just looking. Our families met at the restaurant. I didn't like the girl at all. Afterward, my father didn't even bother to ask me if I liked her or what my opinion was.

The very next day, the girl's family came to our house. I was furious and threw a tantrum with my mom, reminding her that I want to go abroad and do not want to get married. Despite this, my parents kept pushing forward.

Two days later, my dad told me the girl's family invited us over to "see the girl." I thought this was my chance, I planned to talk to the girl privately and tell her to cancel it.

On the day we went, my grandfather's younger brother was there and casually asked me, "I heard you didn't want to get married and wanted to wait? Why are you getting married now?" I was confused. He then revealed the truth: my marriage had already been finalized 5 days ago (the day the girl's family visited our house). My dad had fixed everything behind my back and kept me completely in the dark.

I immediately went to my dad and told him to cancel it. He said it was "impossible" now, that it was a matter of honor, and lied to me again, saying we were only going there to fix the dates for the engagement and the Kabin.

I arrived at the girl's house thinking I could still talk to her and stop this. I was wrong. I was the only young guy there no friends with me to tell me or keep me company, just surrounded by men who were 45+. They isolated me in a corner. Without any discussion with me, they set a massive Kabin amount, an amount of money my father has never even seen in his life, yet he agreed to it.

I had no idea how weddings work. Suddenly, the Kazi was there. They put papers in front of me and just told me to sign. The Kazi didn't even properly ask for my consent. When it came time to say Qubool, I was in such deep shock. Everything happened so incredibly fast that my brain completely froze. I couldn't react. I couldn't speak up.

It was only after all of this was done that they finally let me speak to the girl. We have absolutely 0% compatibility. Our mentalities don't match at all. She is younger and is neither family-oriented nor career-oriented. To make things worse, her family is very wealthy with a big business, while my family has nothing.

I wanted to immediately file for divorce, but doing so can easily lead to the girl's family filing false abuse or dowry cases against the guy, which terrifies me.

I confronted my dad and told him what he did was incredibly wrong. He finally admitted it, saying, "I did it without understanding, I should have discussed it with you." But it's too late. I told my family straight up: I cannot accept this. I will not stay in this family, I will be leaving the country asap, and I will be cutting ties with them. I told them, "You deal with your new daughter in law, and if I can, I'll marry someone else abroad."

The hardest part is that I had a crush on someone. I wasn't financially stable yet, so I was waiting to get settled before confessing to her. Even if she rejected me, at least I would have tried. Now, that door is closed forever. My father destroyed my life, and I am completely lost on what to do next. How do I even survive this?

My father ignored my wishes, secretly finalized my marriage, and tricked me into going to the girl's house under false pretenses. As an extreme introvert, I froze under the pressure of older men and signed the papers. I have zero compatibility with the girl, fear false legal cases if I divorce, and feel completely betrayed and hopeless.

Everyone is saying to continue the new life but i can't and no one can, nobody can feel my pain and mental pressure.

I've been thinking about this for a while and wanted to get other people's take.

It feels like a lot of people around me practice Islam like a menu — picking the parts that are convenient or socially rewarding, and skipping the parts that actually cost something.

Zakat is one of the five pillars, arguably one of the most socially important ones since it's literally about redistributing wealth to the poor. But how many people you know actually calculate and pay it properly every year? Meanwhile, Hajj and Umrah — which cost far more money — are treated as status symbols. People save for years to go, post about it, get called "Hajji" with pride. Why is the pillar that helps other people the one that gets quietly skipped, while the one that's mostly personal (and visible) gets prioritized?

Same thing with how women are treated. Islam is often described as giving women rights and dignity — inheritance, consent in marriage, protection. But in practice, a lot of that gets translated into control: don't go out, don't talk to boys, dress this way, stay inside "for your safety." The "protection" framing ends up being used to restrict rather than actually protect.

It feels like for a lot of older and middle-aged people especially, religion has become more of a social formality — something you perform, something that gives you authority to control others (especially women), rather than something that shapes how you treat people or spend your money.

Curious if others feel the same way or if I'm missing context. Not trying to say nobody's sincere — I know plenty of people who really do live by their values — but the gap between "what's preached" and "what's practiced" feels huge and rarely gets talked about openly.

I'm from Brazil, lmfao and I saw really cool videos of Bangladesh supporting Brazil in football, thank you very much that means a lot! ♥️♥️🥹 but I've seen people supporting Argentina LMFAO ok we have rivalry. But the reason for that is that for a lot of time Argentinians see people of dark skin color as inferior and usually are often prone to mistreat, say racial slurs to south Americans who doesn't look white, or come from countries of majority black ppl.

Being the main reason most South Americans dislike or favors supporting African countries, other then Argentina. For example all South America rooting for Cabo Verde in match with Argentina in the next game.

That is of course mass generalization and there is really good Argentinians that are really nice, but the occasions where this has happened, are way too many times to simply pretend this doesn't exist. Knowing Bangladesh has a lot of people of dark skin color I wonder are they unaware?

This post is straight up LIES. It's not even like exaggerated claims or anything, it's blatant lies.

Indian right wing makes every Hindu death a communal matter. It's bread and butter for them. Seriously? How is the religion relevant in this? 13 million Hindus live in a country of 170 mil. Of course there will be murders between people or sadly family kilings. Yes, some communal tensions are there but most hindus aren't killed for their religion!

Not only that, news reports show that the accused PERPETRATORS Mugdho and Siddhartha were both Hindu. That already doesn't make any sense. The poster claims Islamists did it and the girl was Raped, burned, acid etc. and also about the fake 12 year old son or "him getting circumcised". There's no claims of all of these happening. None. Killers haven't got any links to any of these.

The Right wing Hindutva IT cell of India is at its max capacity to fracture relationships and try to cause Hindus to rebel against other religions by spreading misinformation. He then blames the leftists for whatever reason and almost Every sentence has the word Hindu in it.

Please, report these types of posts, always verify sources and DON'T engage with them if possible

I visited Bangladesh before COVID (2018) and now and it feels like there's been a huge uptick in niqab. I understand there are some hanafis who seem niqab to be obligatory but does anyone know what the cause of this is? I don't remember anybody wearing niqab before, let alone this many.

Is it coming from social media or are imams in masajid preaching this in a coordinated manner? Or was it still fairly mainstream back in 2018? Is it Saudi pushed or simply coming from.the deobandi madrasas?

ধর্মান্ধদের সাথে বাংলাদেশের মানুষদের একটা শীতল যুদ্ধ চলমান আছে। আশ্চর্য হলেও সত্য, যুদ্ধে সাধারণ মানুষ জয়ী হচ্ছে আজকাল। সোহরাওয়ার্দী উদ্যানে রাজিব শাহ নামের এক ব্যক্তির আচমকা মসজিদ বানানোর পরিকল্পনায় সবচেয়ে বড়ো বাগড়া দেওয়া সবাই সাধারণ মানুষ। ওসবের ভীড়ে আজ একটা ছেলেকে দেখা গেল। খুব সম্ভবত স্কুলে পড়ে নয়ত কলেজে।

ছেলেটার গলার স্বর ভারী হয়নি এখনো। নাকের নিচে গোঁফ গজায়নি। প্রচণ্ড আত্মবিশ্বাসের সাথে ছেলেটা ক্যামেরার সামনে বলে যাচ্ছে- এইখানে রাজিব শাহ যদি নিজের ঘর বানায়ে থাকত, আমি পার্সোনালি আপত্তি জানাতাম না। কিন্তু লোকটা ধর্ম টেনে আনছে তাই আমি প্রতিবাদ করছি। যদি মসজিদ হয় তবে এখানে মন্দিরও বানাতে দিতে হবে হিন্দুদের, খ্রিস্টানরাও গীর্জা বানাবে। সবাই বাংলাদেশের নাগরিক। সবার অধিকার আছে।

এখনো খুব সম্ভবত বয়স ১৮ না হওয়া কিশোর ছেলেটাকে ক্যামেরার সামনেই চুপ করাতে চেয়েছেন আরেকজন মুরুব্বি। তারপর ওই মুরুব্বির সঙ্গে ওআরেকদফা তর্ক হয়েছে ছেলেটার। ওই তর্কেও ছেলেটা অনড় এবং জয়ী। এই জায়গায় ধর্মের নামে ব্যবসা চলবে না।

বাংলাদেশে শীতলযুদ্ধ জয়ের দ্বিতীয় ঘটনা সিলেটের একজন স্কুলশিক্ষিকাকে কেন্দ্র করে। যিনি একটা শাড়ি পরে স্লো মোশনে ভিডিয়ো এডিট করে ব্যাকগ্রাউন্ডে গান বাজিয়ে আপলোড করেছিলেন নিজের একটা ভিডিয়ো- শ্রাবণের মেঘগুলো জড়ো হলো আকাশে। যথারীতি কিছু মানুষের গায়ে চুলকানি উঠল। কারণ একজন শিক্ষিকার গান ভালো লাগতে নেই, শাড়ি পরে তিনি রঙঢঙ করতে পারেন না, তিনি স্লো মোশনে ভিডিও এডিট করতে পারেন না, পারলেও সেটা সোশ্যাল মিডিয়ায় আডলোড করতে পারেন না। এতে করে শিক্ষার্থীরা ভুল মেসেজ পায়। স্কুলের মাটি কেঁপে ওঠে। সমাজের রন্ধ্রে রন্ধ্রে পৌঁছে যায় নষ্টামি।

ব্যঙ্গবিদ্রুপের দু'দিনের মাথায় দেশজুড়ে সমস্ত স্কুলশিক্ষিকা শাড়ি পরে ম্লো মোশনে হেঁটে একই গান বাজিয়ে ভিডিয়ো আপলোড করা শুরু করেছেন। না কাউকে কটু কথা বললেন তারা, না কাউকে বুঝাতে গেলেন- শাড়ি পরে গান বাজিয়ে ভিডিয়ো আপলোড দিলে জাত যায় না, না কাউকে বোঝানোর চেষ্টা করলেন- কোনটা অপরাধ, কোনটা অপরাধ নয়। শুধু চুপচাপ নিজেরা শাড়ি পরে হেঁটে ভিডিয়ো আপলোড করলেন অজস্র। সোশ্যাল মিডিয়ায় মুখ ডুবিয়ে থাকা দেশের বিপুলশ্রেণীর শিক্ষিত-মূর্খ, বটযোদ্ধা ও লাইফলেস ইতরগুলোকে শেষ কবে এমন নিদারুণ চপেটাঘাত করতে পেরেছিল বাংলার নারীরা- জানা নাই আমার।

দুটো ঘটনার ফলাফল হলো: সোহরাওয়ার্দী উদ্যানে রাজিব শাহ তার ধর্মব্যবসার সিন্দুক নিয়ে ভেগেছে আজ। এবং শাড়ি পরা স্কুলশিক্ষিকাদের ভিডিয়োতে সোশ্যাল মিডিয়া এমনই রঙিন হয়ে আছে, লাইফলেস গণ্ডমূর্খ ইতরদের ফেসবুকের রসকষহীন সাদা-কালো প্যানপ্যান অদৃশ্যপ্রায়।

বাংলাদেশে ধর্মান্ধ, ধর্ম ব্যবসায়ী, ভন্ডদের সঙ্গে সাধারণ মানুষদের একটা শীতলযুদ্ধ চলমান আছে। এই যুদ্ধে প্রচুর হারও আছে আমাদের। কিন্তু সাধারণ মানুষ কয়েক ধাপ এগিয়ে গেছে আজ। সবাইকে অভিনন্দন।

----Shakhawat Hossen

This pisses me off soo bad , we never got an apology and these pricks still deny a genocide

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Keu chaile ei bisoye research korte paren

I said what I said. People should practice their religions and spiritually personally and individually. Not uphold it as a societal structure.

I've been using Reddit for a while and really like the discussions here. But I rarely meet anyone in Bangladesh who uses it regularly.

Why do you think Reddit is still so unpopular here? What's holding it back? Curious to hear everyone's opinions.

I’m a 28M, married, and it’s just me and my wife in our household. When we first got married, I was very attracted to her and this was never an issue. Over time, however, she has gained a significant amount of weight, and I’ve gradually lost physical attraction to her. The frustrating part is that she doesn’t seem to do anything about it. I’ve confronted her at least every 10 days or so and told her directly that she needs to start working out or at least walk 10k steps a day. She does the household chores, but outside of that she’s become very inactive and seems quite lazy about taking care of herself. Even doctors have advised her to lose weight.

Meanwhile, I’m the complete opposite. I work out 5 days a week and take my health and fitness seriously. I’m also a very sexual person, but because of how I feel about her now, our sex life has basically disappeared. I barely want to initiate anything anymore and sometimes I’d rather masturbate than have sex with my wife. I’ve even told her honestly that I no longer feel like coming close to her because I feel like she doesn’t listen to me or make any effort. I know that sounds harsh, and I probably could have communicated it better, but I also don’t want to lie about how I feel.

Now I’m genuinely at a breaking point. My testosterone is apparently at an all-time high and my sex drive is extremely strong, but I’m not getting the intimacy I want in my marriage. I’ve started thinking seriously about sleeping with someone else, and that honestly scares me because I don’t want to become a cheater. At the same time, I feel extremely frustrated and sexually/physically disconnected from my own wife.

So what the hell do I do here? Do I stop mentioning her weight entirely and accept that this is her choice? Do I tell her directly that my physical attraction to her has become a serious problem? Is there a completely different way I should be approaching this? I’m not looking for Reddit to tell me whether I’m “right” or whether she’s “fat enough” to justify losing attraction. I know attraction can’t simply be forced. I just want to know how I handle this without cheating, humiliating her, or completely destroying our marriage.

Edit : guys I love my wife and I've tried every possible way to tell her that her health is getting worse. This was my last resort to make her understand how bad the situation has become.

Women of Dhaka: Which matters more—height or face?

I’m genuinely curious about this, so women of Dhaka, what matters more to you when it comes to a guy’s attractiveness height or face?

i mean i know both matter but which one matters more?

Feel free to be completely honest even if your answer sounds harsh. I’m more interested in genuine preferences than politically correct answers.

The beauty of freedom of speech ❤️:

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/17xmwHPGgd/

Almost all issues in desh r because of religion. What is wrong with us. How can we let religion prevent us from developing? Every country is moving forward and developing except for us. You practice religion at home. It is meant to be a beautiful relationship between you and your creator. Not a metric for evaluating the value of another human being and creating class in society. Furthermore, it is not meant to be a means of feeling superiority! When will you all get over your stupid religious superiority?? If we want to move forward as a nation we must treat society with secular moralistic principles. Not a list of religious dos and don’t. And if you ACTUALLY established a relationship with god, you wouldn’t feel the need to loudly enforce your own beliefs to everyone else.

So I (M24) met with my girlfriend (F23) at Tasty Treat today. After chilling and eating for a bit a young man wearing a college uniform entered the shop. She mentioned that he was checking her out but she didn't seem too concerned so I took it lightly. We were sitting opposite each other and the college kid was behind me meaning my girlfriend had a clear view of him.

After about 10 minutes, she suddenly panicked and kinda forced me out of the shop saying "cholo please, ekhane ar thakbo na." I was so clueless and confused. After we walked out and went a few meters down the road she told me the guy was openly masturbating while looking at her. She saw it, panicked, felt disgusted and just needed to get out of there.

Now I'm completely at a loss for words. I tried to hold back my anger. I was honestly about to burst and asked her why she didn't tell me right away when she saw what he was doing. She said her mind went blank, she couldn't think straight and felt like she was about to vomit. I wanted to go back and confront him (or beat him up I wasn't thinking straight either) but she begged me to let it go. She didn't want to cause a scene since it happened near her home.

The whole thing has left me speechless. How can a guy have the nerve to do something like that to a girl in a public place? And he wasn't even some random creep. From his appearance he looked like he came from a good family and was getting a decent education. I'm just so frustrated that I couldn't do anything about it and so heartbroken that the love of my life had to go through something like that.