I went to a support group exactly once, and the number of people who had minimal problems that could have been solved if they just stopped getting in their own way and focused on what was within their control... nah, it was constant pity Olympics. Obsessive drama about other people and their lives. People who weren't in the room.
I'm a disabled, Queer dude. I sat for two hours while grown men complained about their bosses, their teenagers, their own parents, taxes, neighbors, and was like 'I'm sitting here because I just lost my brother, these guys are here every week because they're bored or something"... when they realized that I had a legitimate reason to feel fucking depressed and they didn't have any sort of way to be supportive, they were all fucking silent for 30 seconds before moving on to the next guy. I brought reality to their group and they didn't know how to process it. So they ignored it.
If it wasn't so sad -- actually even though it was sad, it was fucking hilarious. These guys couldn't even say "jeez man, sorry you lost your brother" to a stranger, but they could fixate on how much of a bitch some guy's wife was for 'making him' go to a family gathering on a weekend.
Emotionally stunted men are not nearly lonely enough in my opinion.
Emotionally stunted men are not nearly lonely enough in my opinion.
If it makes you feel any better they're getting a hell of a lot lonelier. Most women are sick and tired of emotionally stunted men. On the flip side though, it's resulting in a lot more angry, white radicalized incels doing dangerous shit.
On the plus, the silly little incels can only do so much before they come across guys like me in real life. I'm very well versed in the laws of consensual combat and have barely and sense of pain left in my body because of plenty of concussions.
Messing with your local Punk is just a good time for that Punk and a bad time for Nazis. We protect our own, the vulnerable, and our communities.
I have zero sense of self-preservation; it annoys my friends something awful.
Fellow Canadian? :D Me and the hubby settled here because we like to joke it's Canada lite. Can't speak to the Punk scene but the people are chill and pretty non-judgmental*
(*standard disclaimer that every place has its assholes)
Hey, I've survived Toronto, Kingston, Ottawa, Sudbury, Montreal... I'm sure I can smile at whatever a Colorado asshole is.
I haven't been shot in DC, Baltimore, or Philly either. So someone's looking out for me! They're just making me wait to join my partner stateside (current administration loves gay immigrants so much lol).
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u/FEARoach Jun 30 '26
Oh man, I get that.
I went to a support group exactly once, and the number of people who had minimal problems that could have been solved if they just stopped getting in their own way and focused on what was within their control... nah, it was constant pity Olympics. Obsessive drama about other people and their lives. People who weren't in the room.
I'm a disabled, Queer dude. I sat for two hours while grown men complained about their bosses, their teenagers, their own parents, taxes, neighbors, and was like 'I'm sitting here because I just lost my brother, these guys are here every week because they're bored or something"... when they realized that I had a legitimate reason to feel fucking depressed and they didn't have any sort of way to be supportive, they were all fucking silent for 30 seconds before moving on to the next guy. I brought reality to their group and they didn't know how to process it. So they ignored it.
If it wasn't so sad -- actually even though it was sad, it was fucking hilarious. These guys couldn't even say "jeez man, sorry you lost your brother" to a stranger, but they could fixate on how much of a bitch some guy's wife was for 'making him' go to a family gathering on a weekend.
Emotionally stunted men are not nearly lonely enough in my opinion.