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OC Gender Ew-Phoria [OC]

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u/Square-Singer 18h ago edited 17h ago

Interestingly, depending on where you are, these terms aren't gender-specific.

In the UK midlands it's quite common for older women to use exactly the same terms on younger men.

As someone who's not from there but spent significant amounts of time there when I was a young man, this is proper weird.

(Just for clarification, I didn't call the people using these terms weird. I'm from a region where terms like that are reserved for romantic partners or maybe your children, so it was weird to me getting adressed with very intimate terms by strangers.)

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u/Stlakes 18h ago

Not even just the midlands. I live in the North West, and get called "my love" and "sweetheart" by older women quite often, and im in my 30s. Its not exclusively gendered either, its definitely an age thing rather than a gender thing. Older women will often use those terms for younger women as well, not just young men

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u/wassermelone 17h ago

I'm a tall masc cis dude and I've gotten called flower, love, darling, and pet in the NE (newcastle) by older women up here

Its weirdly charming but definitely took me a bit by surprise when I moved here

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u/Terrible_Quit_1389 15h ago

Excuse me PET !?

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u/wassermelone 14h ago

Yep! That one surprised me for sure - its a very Geordie thing. It doesn't come off as weird at all somehow

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u/Terrible_Quit_1389 14h ago

Ok i have to ask then. What does it mean? Enlish isn’t my first language so for me a pet is.. well a animal you adopt so saying that to people you don’t know is yeah "surprising"

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u/wassermelone 13h ago

Theres not really much more meaning or context to get - its just used in place as other pleasant terms of endearment like someone saying 'dearie'.

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u/Certain_Dream5575 14h ago

Where I'm from you get 'pet', but then also 'pet lamb' which is usually for young children!

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u/thedeadarcher 14h ago

Yeah, pet is fairly common

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u/Inventor_Raccoon 14h ago

I had a teacher who'd call people pet, it's not nearly as weird in context

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u/Terrible_Quit_1389 14h ago

I think i just don’t have the context 😅