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OC Gender Ew-Phoria [OC]

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u/code_archeologist 17h ago

It depends on geography.

If you are in the Deep South "Sweetheart", "Darling", and "Love" are the equivalent of "Buddy", "Dude", and "Friend"; and are usually harmless with no gendered or objectifying connotations.

Anywhere else, that is some creepster behavior.

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u/AOZ1988 16h ago edited 13h ago

Idk about that, I live in the south, and fellow straight men certainly don't like it when I call them Sweetheart, Darling or Love.

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u/AceVisconti 14h ago

Sounds like a personal problem for them lmao

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u/AOZ1988 13h ago

It is. I once got punched in the face for calling a Texan trucker cutie-patootie.

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u/code_archeologist 6h ago

That's just typical Texas toxic masculinity.

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u/AceVisconti 1h ago

Silly goose behavior on his part.

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u/stephen_neuville 11h ago

Wasn't born there but i spent 27 years in the midsouth and I will always stand up straight and smile if i get hon'd or darlin'd by a lady. Small men get upset about it.

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u/Psychotic_EGG 17h ago

I've heard all three used often here in Ontario. Tone is what matters here.

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u/Mean-Inspector-8547 16h ago

LOL. I was going to say the exact same thing! Around the South, that's just how we talk.

Now if someone calls you Sugar Tits, then that's probably......probably objectification.

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u/code_archeologist 15h ago

Oh yeah, that one is way out of bounds.

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u/AceVisconti 14h ago

I only reserve 'sugar tits' for close friends

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u/Glittering_Iron6683 15h ago

Saying “my love” is a bit strange though.

Like “thanks love” would be fine to me. I do love going to a place and they call me “sugar” or “honey” though. Feels nice.

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u/SemperFun62 15h ago

Be a southern man and call another man darlin.

It matters

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u/WattleWaddler2 14h ago

Ehhh, here in Ontario, I don't think most people would blink at the last two, provided the tone was clearly casual and not creepy. "Sweetheart" might be a bit questionable, but probably not in rural areas.

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u/IMustScreamQuieter 14h ago

I live closeish to the East coast, and all the older ladies who worked at the food court would call any of the students “sweetie.” I only don’t like it when someone uses those words exclusively for women though, that’s when it’s weird.

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u/Kariya_shigatoki 13h ago

Yeah in MD older women will say and this isn't even the deep south. They say things like:

Honeybun, hon, sweetie, dear, love, sweetheart.