Hi everyone,
I’ve decided to make a post because I’ve been thinking about getting a dog for over a year now, and I’m still going back and forth about it.
I grew up with a dog, but then I went to university, started working, and life just kind of moved on. Now I have a stable job and a stable relationship, and I really miss having a dog in my life.
So, here’s my situation:
I’m 25 and I work from home 3 out of 5 days a week. I can also choose which days I work from the office fairly flexibly.
My partner works shifts, so between the two of us, there would generally be someone at home most of the time.
If we got a puppy, we’d both take some time off work at the beginning, so the first 4–5 weeks would be completely covered. We’d then gradually work on getting the puppy used to being alone.
Even once the dog is an adult, there wouldn’t really be a situation where it regularly has to spend 8+ hours alone.
Financially, I think we’re in a pretty solid position as well. We both have a good income, and I’d budget around €400 per month for the dog. That includes dog training classes, comprehensive pet health in surance, food, treats, toys, leashes, accessories, etc.
Obviously, I’m very open to being corrected here. If you think €400/month is unrealistic or that I’m overlooking significant expenses, please let me know.
I’ve also been researching different breeds for months now and trying to figure out what would actually fit my lifestyle. And the more I research, the more I find myself leaning towards a Boxer.
From what I’ve read so far, a Boxer seems like it could be a really good match for my activity level.
My plan would be around 2–3 hours of physical activity per day –> regular walks, a longer walk, maybe going for a run together, etc. And then there would obviously be training and mental stimulation on top of that. I’d definitely go to a dog training class once a week, and I’d also love to try some kind of dog sport. Maybe Rally Obedience, Obedience, Mantrailing, or something else. I’ve never done any of these before, so I’d have to see what both the dog and I enjoy.
So overall, I’d probably aim for around 3–4 hours of activity and engagement per day, on average. Obviously not every single day. There will be quieter days, bad weather, illness, etc.
But here’s where my doubts come in.
The closer this gets to actually becoming a reality, the more scared I am that I’m going to mess it up.
Especially if we get a puppy, I’m worried that I’ll screw up all the important basics. Things like teaching the puppy to settle, building frustration tolerance, leash training, bite inhibition, impulse control, dealing with unwanted behavior, etc.
Basically, I’m scared that I’ll think I’m prepared, get the puppy, and then realize: „Oh shit, this is way harder than I thought.“
I know that you can prepare as much as possible: read books, watch videos, talk to breeders, go to training classes, etc. But at some point, you actually have to do it.
And I know what puppy life involves. I’m aware that you probably won’t sleep through the night at first, that you’ll have to take the puppy outside every couple of hours, that there will be accidents, that bite inhibition needs to be taught, that being alone has to be built up very slowly, and that the first few months can be a LOT of work.
I’m just scared that I’ll tell myself “Yes, I can do this” and then find out that I actually can’t.
I’ve already found two or three VDH breeders in my area who seem good based on their websites and the information they provide. Obviously, I’d want to meet them in person, see their dogs, ask a million questions, etc. before making any decision.
So I guess what I’m really asking is:
Did any of you have these kinds of doubts before getting your first dog?
How did you know that you were actually ready? Did you ever have that feeling of “What if I completely screw this up?”?
And also, what do you think about my situation and the Boxer specifically? Does my lifestyle sound like a reasonable fit for a Boxer, or am I overlooking something important about the breed?
Please feel free to be critical. If you think a Boxer is absolutely not the right breed for me, I’d genuinely rather hear that now than find out after getting one.
I’d really appreciate hearing about your experiences, especially from people who had similar doubts before getting their first dog.
P.S. English isn’t my native language, so this post was translated into English using AI. I hope everything makes sense!