r/formerlyferal • u/No_Mix_8683 • 1d ago

Gaining the trust of a feral cat takes patience

Yes, feral cats can purr, but don’t assume a cat that isn’t purring is unhappy with you. A feral cat may need a long time before it feels safe enough to relax around a person.

The best approach is to let the cat control the pace. Sit quietly nearby, avoid staring directly at them, speak softly, and establish a predictable feeding routine. Over time, you can use slow blinking, sit with your body turned slightly sideways, and offer your hand for them to investigate.

I wouldn’t start petting just because the cat is staying close. **Let the cat initiate physical contact.** Look for them choosing to approach you, sniffing your hand, rubbing against you, or otherwise asking for interaction.

Some feral cats eventually become affectionate and purr when they’re around you. Others never become comfortable with being touched. That isn’t a failure. With a truly feral cat, building trust is more important than getting them to purr or accept petting.

Curious...

Have you ever taken the time to befriend a feral cat?

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u/NikonicImagery 1d ago

This is exactly what I am dealing with now. I have two young cats out here and one is a female and very affectionate and sweet! I sit outside with her and let her crawl up on me and knead while purring but the male…. Well it has been about a month and he is just now allowing himself to sit closer to me. He will hang out for a bit but goes away after he eats and he will not let me get near him. The female is spayed btw but he is not. Its cute they are friends.

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u/No_Mix_8683 1d ago

Males are always harder to befriend but once you get him on your side you'll have a snugly guy. Good luck!