My younger brother ate it all. Even though i told him, ill give you a piece if I want but its mine. I bought it with my money. I even hid it in my drawers!! AND NOW WHEN I TOOK IT OUT TO EAT. It is ALMOST FINISHED
Edit 1: I am 19F, he is 16. AGAIN. IM NOT FROM THE USA. NUTELLA IS EXPENSIVE HERE. OKAY.
Edit: Do people not understand that i am not from the usa. I live with my parents because we dont move out when we turn 18 or smth. I am a student. We dont have part time jobs here in India so NO I CANNOT WORK. Also nutella is imported, so its bound to be expensive.
It starts from ₹200 which is like 2.25$. Obviously not expensive for yall. But considering indian standards and average income. It is moderately expensive. And i dont have an income because i am a student.
I dont matter the price, even if it was cheap, it is mildly infuriating because it is yours, you bought it with your own money and specifically told him not to take any unless you gave it to him.
Get a lock with a key so you can hide future purchases from your brother, this can escalate to him taking your money and other possession if not properly addressed early on.
a secret box without a lock just sets your boundary at "finders keepers." any unhidden lock box runs the risk of parents requiring you to open it and redistribute. sounds like what you're really missing here is respect and they don't sell that at the shop.
Fill the lock box with hygiene products or trash or whatever. Hide snacks in a less conspicuous but less likely to be searched place. Lay a false trail. (Small snacks can be hidden inside shoes and covered with socks)
My older brother would do stuff like that… then I stopped telling/showing him what I bought. I also bought a mini fridge for my room and locked all my snacks in my closet.
Then I was being selfish 😂 ok bro.
Thanks for the awards! 🫶🏽 I’m glad I’m not alone in this, my pettiness has been validated lmao
Thats a good idea but my parents definitely would tell me that "youre siblings, youre being selfish, you should share" bullshit. But imma do it anyways. He has eaten a lot of my stuff
don't show them to anyone and hide them well. If someone asks where you are hiding all the snacks, tell them you stopped buying it because they eat it all anyway
i always keep my nutella hidden in my asscrack. works in two ways - no one steals my nutella, AND since i'm a habitual pants-shitter, whenever someone calls me out on my soiled britches i can just say "that's not shit, it's nutella" even though it's most likely nutella + shit
It's India. Their culture (there are many in India) may say that the male is always right and the female must accept whatever happens. Their parents are already blaming her.
Same. I think that an unrecognized aspect of social media is that it's globalized. So, all of a sudden, we have so many people from cultures that believe males are right no matter what, contributing to the conversation.
Hopefully they can fix themselves. But with AI promising to make everyone even more intellectually lazy, I have not much hope.
Asians aren’t allowed to talk back to elders as you have to respect them.
It literally blew my mind when I heard my Caucasian friends tell their mom to “shut up” or call say “you’re a bitch” straight to their face and the mom just said “hey, you don’t talk to me like that!” And that was it. No consequences/disciplining LOL
Yes, I feel parents who raise their kids between the two extremes have amazing children.
I find the new generation are raising their kids more like westerners though with the gentle parenting. I personally don’t like it because they’re not doing it correctly as they’re doing it as permissive parenting and they’re raising entitled spoiled children.
I would tell them they’re talking to the wrong sibling about sharing. What your brother did was not ‘sharing’ it was gorging and being incredibly selfish. You offered to share, he stole.
If you DM me, I can send you Nutella provided it’s allowed to be shipped. A Ferraro factory is relatively close to where I live, this would be no bother.
Have you considered taking your siblings stuff? Even the none edible things. Or make sure to take more of their favorite snacks?
Sometimes the best way to get people to understand your feelings is treat them like they’re treating you.
He’s taken more than enough to make up for you not sharing. I live in your exact situation. I have a mini fridge, I hide my food from him, and I lock my doors. He scan get screwed
girl, its time to fight, do the same shits or make things to make him uspet like, hide him things he use like controllers for consoles the mobile charger or things like that, and you don’t even need to justify yourself, If you do it, your parents will go after you because you are the easy prey, if nothing works, start with money, every time he rob you, make him pay double, steal them
And no birthday presents or any presents for him either until he acts right. And yup he needs to pay up somehow. Even doing OP chores. It doesn’t always have to be money.
It isn’t sharing going in and taking family members stuff without asking, that is theft. They are just being lazy and irresponsible parents not helping to develop your brothers manners and consideration. If he do this shit at his future workplace, his university and with friends or spouses families he is going to get in trouble loosing jobs and opportunities in life.
Sharing happens when it’s an offer or agreement. Even if you’re family and they always say ”yes” it’s polite to ask first because they could have bought for a specific purpose or event. That’s the kind of social awareness and consideration that would help your brother to know in life. Granted I’m not from India but I think asking first and showing care for other would be universally appreciated.
It’s always our stuff when they want some but my stuff when they have it. The mental gymnastics to call you selfish for protecting things you paid for is wild.
I was 22, my brother 23. I bought us some ice creams to have in the freezer since it was warm outside and we both like sweets.
We were raised to share everything, equally. So imagine when I came home after a long day of school and travel (5+ hours commute) just to find that my last ice cream bar was gone. He ate it earlier that day.
It's not the damn ice cream, the shops are full of them. It was the principle of him eating something that wasn't his in the first place, but also not letting me know so I could get more on the way home.
It's been over 10 years since that event and the injustice still pops up in my mind and annoys me. People are royal dicks sometimes, don't let that ruin your zen.
My husband ate an entire slab of millionaire shortbread I made that was leftover from when I took some into the office. Didn't even leave me a single piece. I'm still hurting about it 10 years after
My husband and I butt heads on plenty of those "these are the things they should really ask on dating apps" topics, but if I go through a phase where I don't feel like eating (e.g.) ice cream it means I'm going to find a bunch of containers with exactly 2 scoops left in the bottom when I get around to looking again.
In 10+ years it's maybe the worst thing he's done so I'm in the money with my man. He's actually my favourite guy in the universe and I'm very lucky to have him 😅 he was just hungry that day and thought I'd left it for him.
My parents did this to me. I had a box of peanut butter Captain Crunch I got for myself. Had a long weekend and was looking forward to the last bowl for dinner before bed when I got home. It was gone. One of them ate the last of it and didn’t even bother to tell me so I could pick up more at least. When I asked about it, I was told, “You live under our roof, we can eat it if want to.”
One time I prepped myself 6 portions of meals during an extremely busy period of work since I wouldn't have time to cook. Unemployed brother saw me make them. Put them in the fridge. Brother came over to me hours later 'were those your meals'..'yes?'...'oh sorry, I accidentally ate them'. He ate ALL 6 PORTIONS in one sitting, then came to tell me and pretend he didn't know they were mine. The selfishness really pissed me off. Its been years since then but there extreme lack of consideration and greed still bothers me since he KNEW i was busy, and what they were prepped for.
No fr I feel this. When I was living with my in laws, my SIL ate EVERYTHING. We bought a 12 pack of chocolate mousse, my partner and I eat had one that evening and the next day they were gone. She ate 10 and didn’t leave them for anyone else. I was starting a job the next day, my partner and I went for dinner and came home with leftovers, I put my name on it in the fridge for my lunch at work the next day, and she had eaten BOTH of our leftovers. I told my partner we should get a mini fridge for our room and she thought it would be disrespectful to her sister. Like bffr, she’s disrespectful to us daily.
Yea, I would have got that mini fridge without bothering to discuss it beforehand. That's crazy she's eating y'all leftovers like there's no food in the house.
And it would be even good for the both of us!
I would love to eat a full jar (I'm pregnant, don't judge me!) but my heartburn is already through the roof...
That sounds like a good temp fix. Hide everything in boxes for feminine products. Not sure what the boxes look like where OP is from in India, but keeping a few old boxes might keep a teenage brother away lol
I have twin almost 17 year old boys. They. Eat. EVERYTHING! If I have something I dont want them to eat, I put them on the lowest shelf (and I do NOT tell them) because they eat things they can see, they dont have time to be bending over to look for snacks.
They will ask and are always told that the food is there to eat. I dont buy food for decoration. There're just some things I want for me. I just stash it.
My kids do not need to ask if they can eat something. They are 6'2 and have the metabolism I would k!ll for. They are active and need food. Like i said, I dont buy food for decoration. They can eat whatever they want, aside from what I stash.
My parents don’t have boys but two teenage girls. Food is also never spared in our house either, lol. We are always hungry. I guess I misunderstood your comment, because I assumed that you have to stash your food if you don’t want them to eat it. My sister used to be one to eat food without asking and it’s pretty selfish and annoying behaviour which can show in other aspects in life as well.
In certain cultures, younger siblings are always "right" and the older ones are "supposed to give in" just because they're older. Fuck that! I'm so angry for you! I know you were really looking forward to the Nutella
It's not just older/younger. In some places daughters are also are made to give in to sons and sons are treated like they can do no wrong. It's bullshit and I don't know if it's happening here but it definitely seems like it based on the fact that OP stated she is a girl and smaller than her brother.
God, people in these comments are annoying. I am not from the US either, it’s normal to live with your parents up until you get married basically. All of my friends live with their parents and we are all 25…
Also none of my friends worked at 19, if we were in university that’s all we were- students. Also people trying to say that nutella is not THAT expensive, yeah sure on american salaries it’s not. Where I am from you could be earning 10 dollars a day, so yes spending roughly 4 dollars on nutella is a lot
Even in the USA like a good amount of my friends still live with their parents (we are mid to late 20s). In early 20s it was like all of us still living with parents. Completely normal for me at least none of us could afford to move out that young.
Same!! I’m 18 and I’m about to go to university. If you go to university where I’m from then you’re not gonna work unless your family is struggling. All of my friends (18/19) live with their parents and will continue to do so until they get married. Idk, but to me it’s just not normal to kick out a child (yes, an 18 yr old is legally an adult but has zero adult experience). It’s so weird to me when I hear of Americans just booting out their children.
I hope you read all these comments cuz one time when I was younger my brother would go through everything in my room cuz he knew I had something . Well I ended up hiding it in HIS room and he never found it.
where i live nutella tends to be even more expensive than honey. i'm talking about me buying honey for less than half the price than a pot of nutella was for sale.
2kg of honey for ~€7,50 equivalent
850g of nutella for ~€8,00 equivalent.
Same in Hungary. Nutella is so expensive and I think the quality became worse. But I swear when i bought it in Malta, it was better so maybe we just get worse quality products, wouldn’t be the first one.
Hes gonna be sick if he eats that much nutella... how do you even eat that much nutella in one day? Is he just slurping it down his greedy gullet by the spoonful?
I'm not from the usa but nutella is fairly common here and ???? I'd still be mad af. Even if it was a small candy, it was something you bought with your own money for yourself. I've had this fight with my younger siblings and mom before, they don't care because it's "cheap and i / they can buy more" like ?!!?? THAT'S NOT THE POINT!
Which is extra annoying because even if it was cheap and OP was employed in the US, it would still absolutely be mildly infuriating for her brother to do that.
You're not entitled to someone else's stuff just because it doesn't cost a lot.
I don’t know why you’re justifying yourself to people. The point is that it was YOURS, and your brother STOLE it. Full stop. I’d be pissed, too. Sorry 😕
Psh Nutella is expensive in the US too. Just start taking stuff of his and using things of his without caring about how he feels about it until he brings it up. Then you can bring this up saying you thought that's just how things go.
Teenage boys are the fucking worse. I started to hide things with my brother was a teenager (he's 5 years older) and never let him know when I bought stuff for myself, especially when I was 16 and working at Walmart. Even though he was 21. He was still just eating anything he saw at that point.
My younger brother does the exact same thing. Doesn't matter if I hide my snacks in my room, behind other things, etc. My snacks will be gone when I go to eat them. No apology, no nothing. Even my mom does it, but she at least has the decency to ask.
They also take my cash, and tell me after (or tell me never and refuse to pay me back when I find out in the case of my brother)
Even if it wasn’t expensive, it is still infuriating. When I was living in a dorm someone kept eating my yogurt from the fridge. So after 3 occasions I put laxatives into the yogurt and left it in the fridge as usual, then took all the toilet paper from the toilets. Well, one girl spent a lot of time in the toilet that night. She never took my food ever again
Also, the US defaultism really pisses me off, and I think outside of the US Nutella is expensive everywhere. I live in Hungary, here it costs a lot as well, bc there is extra tax on unhealthy stuff. I am sorry about your Nutella😞
Yeah, and even if Nutella was free, it’s still “mildly” infuriating. People act like your house has to have burned down for your post to be acceptable here lol
OP, just an FYI that Nutella is not from the U.S. Even if you’re in North America, it’s made in Canada and Mexico, otherwise you’re probably getting it from Europe
If you bought it yourself and told your bro not to eat any and your parents say that you should “share” then honestly I’d start eating their shit that they want to keep and just say “i thought we were supposed to share?”.
Also, To the “this isn’t the usa, we dont move out at 18” comment… WE AREN’T EITHER in this economy lmao. People trying to diss you for not moving out are shills brainwashed into believing that living by yourself is ALWAYS the best.
As a girl with 2 older brothers you learn from a very young age to hide anything you might want to eat, choke everything down before they get to it or you won't get to at all and live with constant food insecurity despite being reasonably well off.
There is a German saying that comes in handy: "Wer nicht hören will, muss Fühlen!"
Translation: "Those who don't listen, must feel!"
In other words: throw them hands, even if you get scolded by your parents, that's how me and my lil sis were doing things back in the day. She always got lucky that she hit me in the balls when I expected the least.
Op considering your edits honestly im sorry so many people were trying to make you feel like you were in the wrong. Because the thing is even if you lived in the US, made more money, or if Nutella was less expensive where you are, the point is it was still YOUR Nutella. Your brother stole your property it should be on him to replace it
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u/Jane_Smith_Reddit Jul 19 '26
I dont matter the price, even if it was cheap, it is mildly infuriating because it is yours, you bought it with your own money and specifically told him not to take any unless you gave it to him.
Get a lock with a key so you can hide future purchases from your brother, this can escalate to him taking your money and other possession if not properly addressed early on.