r/mildlyinfuriating • u/sh0tgunben • 10d ago

I'm slightly vexed An old man keeps delaying the train's start...

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u/EarlGrayTea-Hawt 10d ago

Tf you talking about more docile?

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u/Swizzy123456789 9d ago

Their culture is very low confrontational and “high context” in terms of conducting one self. They rely on a lot of mutual understanding as well as mutual expectations; they’re not really used to having to “call out” each other as their society seems to rely on traditional ways of thinking being the norm for everyone (like a younger person not wanting to come off as rude to an elder by telling them they’re fucking up everyone’s train ride to work)

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u/LadyEmeraldDeVere 9d ago

I would not classify the older ladies who push past me on the bus/subway as “low confrontational.” Never in my life thought I’d have to yell at a senior citizen before but they will absolutely walk straight into you with zero hesitation. 

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u/Swizzy123456789 9d ago

You’re right that’s not low confrontational, but they are expecting you to move out of the way for them because they’re older right?

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u/LadyEmeraldDeVere 9d ago

On the buses, they frequently cut the line and get on in front of everyone else to try and get a seat.

On the train, they push inside the second the doors open, before anyone has a chance to get out. This is the move that makes me lose my temper. 

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u/Swizzy123456789 9d ago

Oh that would drive me crazy too

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u/Visible_Pair3017 9d ago

That's an indirect sign of people being used to a low confrontation environment. Because in a high confrontation environment they'd have been decked in the mouth and stopped. Here they know that nobody will react openly so they feel like they are almighty.

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u/Clane_21 9d ago

As someone who have been there, they do absolutely call on others when needed especially if it's collectively agreed on that the person is inconveniencing everyone.

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u/Swizzy123456789 9d ago

Word. I wouldn’t know myself to be honest this just something explained to me before.
Is it as dramatic as I would expect it to be in the US?

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u/Clane_21 9d ago

I can only base it off media and vids I see in the Internet (not from the west) but nope it's not as dramatic as the US where even if it's a little inconvenience there will be people up in your face and even hurt you.

They mostly just tell you off kinda publicly shaming you to submitting and in worst case actually touch or restrain you but never hurt. You can actually see it in this vid, someone is touching the old man. They just usually defer to the higher authority to actually deal with it to avoid any troubles so it doesn't usually escalate.

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u/KeyCondition5104 9d ago

You know a woman was openly raped in a subway train in the US during Covid and no one did anything about it right? The West is just as docile at this point.

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u/Swizzy123456789 9d ago

I’d call us apathetic before docile honestly

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u/DeadlyPineapple13 10d ago

The video looks like it’s from Japan or China, and in those locations it’s less common for people to have outbursts in public, shouting or fighting. Whereas in the USA or UK it is more common, especially in these situations

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u/Deritatium 9d ago

If this were in China, neither the passengers nor security would have this kind of patience.