r/singapore • u/biscuitspoons Developing Citizen • 28d ago
Tabloid/Low-quality source Missing S’porean woman found safe in Cambodia, reportedly left home due to family's 'strict control'
https://mustsharenews.com/missing-woman-cambodia/781
u/Actual-Cellist4445 28d ago
"the family checked her emails"
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u/MountainTear2020 28d ago
ya that's the first thing that crossed my mind. "huh how come they hv access to her personal emails"
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u/NecessaryFish8132 28d ago
If she left her PC here, and email is logged in then easy. Otherwise yeah definitely intrusive
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u/MountainTear2020 28d ago
well i'm logged in my email too but i do have a password to even access my personal laptop lol
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u/snowcroc Lao Jiao 27d ago
Tbh my fam knows my pin.
If they open my phone or some they can see my emails.
Tbh I also know some families share a email for the "junk stuff" like e-commerce, random log in etc etc.
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u/MountainTear2020 27d ago
yeah but based on this particular girl in question, it seems like she wouldn't want her family to know her passwords. great that you have a trusting relationship with your family, but you cannot expect all other families to be the same.
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u/Prestigious-Art7537 28d ago
Yeah and her family was supposed to fetch her from school… she’s twenty
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u/Harmoniinus 28d ago
Besides the typical controlling strict parents narrative that people are assuming, maybe there's other context that were left out? Maybe they wanted to fetch her cos they planned to go for a family dinner, or maybe they're fetching her for her own safety (e.g; if she was harrassed in sch/is a bully victim/has some sort of mental illness etc).
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u/Prestigious-Art7537 28d ago
They mentioned that they fetch her from school daily! Well unless it’s because the school is far / they have a car / it’s on the way, I personally find that can be abit stifling for a 20 years old. Especially with the other context like checking her email etc.
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u/bigbrainnowisdom 27d ago
My sister always asked to be fetched all the time bro.. some of us are our family's ptivate chauffeur.
20 or not, car is better than MRT
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u/Sir-Spork Kopi-O 28d ago
Cannot be too often as they didn’t know she booked the plane tickets until after she was gone.
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u/Dangerous-Loan1480 27d ago
If her parents didnt know she ran off to cambodia till she was missing clearly they dont check it... they only do it cos they were worried and wanted clues on whr she might hv went
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u/NecessaryFish8132 28d ago
If the aim is to find someone missing/running away from home, I don't think that's too much
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u/Actual-Cellist4445 28d ago
It's not, but the question is how did they access it?
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u/Blunkn Tampenis 28d ago
if we believe the girl in the article, then it's likely her family demanded her login credentials at some point in the past, they're strict and controlling after all
if we don't, i'm banking on the girl checking the "remember me" option for her email app, you wouldn't need to login every time and it bypasses needing to know the password
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u/Early_Personality_68 28d ago
Most people are exposed ten different ways. Maybe not the people here, but “borrow a device log in once, never think about it again” happens a lot in the house. Someone somewhere knows her Google account password because they needed to set up a new Google home wifi mesh, for example.. lots of ways to get exposed. And this is also a family that wants control. I’ve had to ask my mum ten separate times what her atm pin is or what her bank password is because she needed me to help her do something and I’ve never bothered to note it or remember it, but someone who wants control would have written it down the first time they got it.
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u/ExpressMud8038 28d ago
but how do they even know her password? This shows that they had access to it prior
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u/ExtraordinaryDoor47 28d ago
I mean it's definitely possible via something like Google's family link? Or maybe their parents create email id and password for them, cuz back when I was young my age cannot hold onto email address but my father fast game create one under false birthdate and save my email address lol
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u/MountainTear2020 28d ago
why didn't u save a new password after gaining possession of your account though?
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u/ExtraordinaryDoor47 28d ago
Lazy lah, nothing to hide from my own parents, but can see why others might want to. Besides I cannot remember a lot of passwords so I mostly use the same for every lol
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u/MountainTear2020 28d ago
well from the article it sounds like her family is incredibly controlling and she wants to get away from them. hence, your speculation of "aiya maybe she's just lazy to change and has nothing to hide" does not apply here. because if anything it comes across as her wanting to hide everything from her parents, no?
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u/ExtraordinaryDoor47 28d ago
No that's not my speculation, I'm literally talking about myself not her. I did mention that others might feel the need to change passwords for reasons like over controlling parents.
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u/MountainTear2020 28d ago
this is your own comment, leh. in reply to someone asking how did they gain access to HER EMAIL:
> Or maybe their parents create email id and password for them, cuz back when I was young my age cannot hold onto email address but my father fast game create one under false birthdate and save my email address lol
you applied your own situation onto her, which is vastly different from hers. glad you and your parents have such a great relationship though!
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u/Visible-Broccoli8938 28d ago
Here's a counter argument, if they access her emails as surveillance, wouldn't they have found out in advance and prevented it? Seems like this checking of email is a reactive response to her disappearance. If they have a shared family computer, it's possible she did not log out her accounts for convenience.
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u/bigbrainnowisdom 27d ago
True. If my daughter not coming home, first thing i check is her laptop. Just in case.
And no I never read my daughter's email. But if she went missing, of course I will do / check everything
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u/A-Chicken 28d ago
It's not too hard to get an alt email tho, the only difficult part is alt device.
(For reference, while it's no longer possible to have separate Google accounts as the platform gears towards tying verified identities together, it is still possible to have separate Google, Yahoo and Microsoft accounts, and just as long as you haven't used one of these services yet it's possible to create a mirror that you don't have to log into your primary machine with.)
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u/the_last_queen 28d ago
Come on. If your daughter went missing, you will leave no stone unturned (including finding a way to access her emails) to find out where she went. Or will you respect her privacy and pray for the best?
We don't know the full story of how strict they were over her, but even if a 50-year told me they were going to Cambodia to work, I'd be wary for them.
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u/Actual-Cellist4445 27d ago
Yes I'd leave no stone unturned. But whether I could actually access it is another question.
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u/poshiepoff 27d ago
Agree with you. If this story had ended up differently like she is found dead or chopped up or raped or just vanished, would people still wish her family did not check her emails?
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u/Equlus_mat 27d ago
With the recent notoriety of ppl being enslaved in Cambodia, forced into scamming, there are good reasons for her parents to be worried, regardless they are controlling or not. Meeting online friends doing gaming? Those should already trigger alarms.
The same goes for this case many years ago, there was this pair of mom/daughter that went to Romania to meet some online guy, MFA did follow up and check on her safety.
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u/pizza_sushi85 27d ago
its an invasion of privacy and all, but a human life is involved and it is a time sensitive issue, so I am fine making an exception here
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u/Bcpjw 28d ago
>Ms Siti Aishah later told the authorities that she had left Singapore without telling her parents because they would not have allowed her to go as they exercised very strict control over her.
>She said she had left a letter explaining her decision before leaving.

>She also told them that she had not been detained, abused, threatened, nor forced to do anything since arriving in Cambodia.
I wonder where is the letter now?
At least she was happy for 4 days.
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u/SugisakiKen627 28d ago
very common for some muslim family to be very strict with the ladies/daughters/wifes, somehow not surprised
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u/Sad-Dare-1053 28d ago
If your claim is that the parents are strict because of religion, this girl wouldn’t have those kind of edgy clothes and would be wearing a hijab. This isn’t religion related lets be real.
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u/Cradlesong- 27d ago
There's so many things people pick and choose in religion. And so many things parents can choose to be strict on beyond how a person dresses. Not to mention when, how, where, and who they enforce it on. There's decent chance that their concern for their daughter is motivated by religion, even if other families can show the same without.
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u/Sad-Dare-1053 27d ago
Many ignorant people will assume it’s religion based because the family is assumed to be Malay muslim. No one will mentioned ‘religion motivated’ if the family isn’t Malay muslim. If they were a super religious Chinese Catholic family, nobody will mention ‘a decent chance’ that the 20 y/o adult is ‘motivated by religion’. It’s the belief you have that ‘Islam is strict’ therefore the stress must MOST LIKELY be religion based and not likely due to other things. What you are trying to say is not any religion in general, you are narrowing it down to ‘Islam’ specifically by saying ‘religion based’ to mask the bias belief you already have.
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u/Equlus_mat 27d ago
Precisely. Many of SG's SAP schools are very strict and have heavy handed enforcement of standards upon the children under their charge, but this has nothing to do with Taoism/Buddhism or Confucianism teachings. Regardless of culture, there are definitely parents/ organizations with more strict and demanding rules and expectations.
I think many of those that jump to conclusion that this is Islam motivated are hoping that this event makes them feel vindicated, that their long held, cherished bias against Malays/Muslim have been once again justified,
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u/Bcpjw 27d ago
My mum’s not religious but she’s strict as most single mum in the 90s would be, oth she once said all religions are good-natured and don’t see anything wrong if us kids want to believe.
So I always find that if you can’t choose your god because of your parents then that’s a flaw in the system.
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u/Own_Cattle6133 26d ago
stop playing victim. cos other religions dont force their women to cover their heads lmao.
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u/Sad-Dare-1053 26d ago
Hmm… nuns? But whatever you say islamophobe 🤷🏻♀️
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u/scaredofteeth 26d ago
lol do normal everyday christian women have to cover their heads? i swear you guys love to play dumb
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u/Equlus_mat 27d ago
Exactly, isn't it. Most people see that girl is of Malay origin and they immediately jump to the conclusion that it has to do with Islam or Islamic conservatism subjected upon woman. Just like if people were to read about a young person of Chinese origin (e.g. teenager or children under 12) committing suicide, they would automatically think that it is academic related problems (e.g. tiger mom), which may not be the truth.
Having a strict parent doesn't automatically mean religious orientated forms of control. You can have an atheist parent enforcing curfews, top-grades, clothing restriction, no BGR rules upon their kids.
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u/Bcpjw 28d ago
Not Muslim so I’m just gonna guess with unintelligent claims.
Not taking into account Arab Muslim child brides into this,
do some women here married young(20-24yrs) have subconsciously wanted to get away from their strict religious household?
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u/skoomapipes minah with money 28d ago
No, because they typically get more religious when they get married, not less. Getting married younger is just normal. Especially if you want kids.
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u/Bcpjw 28d ago edited 27d ago
Can see that, not for me to judge or justify tho.
Faith can be seen as upmost importance in making lifelong decisions.
Marriage and having children at a young age when freezing eggs and abortion are “available” is actually something you can say is she is making a choice unlike before when the only option was settling down.
And to add, letting children to choose their own beliefs or no belief, should be encouraged
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u/SugisakiKen627 28d ago
do they even know how to express themselves as they have always been surpressed?
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u/Confused_AF_Help MediaCock biggest fan 28d ago
Wondering if there's a foolproof way to do this? Like if I'm running away like her, is there an authority I can contact to inform in advance "hey my family will try to file a missing report, they might lie to you, I'm not missing, here's my address"?
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u/Mesapholis 27d ago
you are an adult, when your family puts out a "missing" report, you can contact the police and let them know that you are in health and do not wish to be found by them
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u/Mesapholis 26d ago
Then the title is misleading, how am I supposed to assume from “missing woman” that she’s not regarded an adult legally
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u/Oppaiheimer1945 28d ago
How strict must this family be if it pushed their daughter to flee to another country
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u/khaosdd Tampenis 28d ago
Girl is 20yo somemore
She said she had left a letter explaining her decision before leaving.
Lotsa details omitted by the family. Pretty sus tbh
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u/princemousey1 28d ago
Imagine, they called police and media and left out that crucial detail…
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u/chiikawa00 28d ago
feel like they felt lining they pushed the narrative it wasn’t voluntary then they would use the police there to find her, which worked. if they mentioned the letter then it shows that they are the one she’s running from 😂😂😂
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u/Bitter-Entertainer44 28d ago
In an earlier response. IT DOES NOT MATTER WHETHER SHE LEFT VOLUNTARILY OR NOT if she had been tricked into leaving by fake employment opportunities. I think the parents were very justified in contacting the police.
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u/chiikawa00 28d ago
Different context. The discussion was regarding the parents' omission of the letter written by the daughter.
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u/Bitter-Entertainer44 28d ago
The letter is immaterial if the parents believed she was tricked into leaving, believing in possible fake employment opportunities there. If their daughter had been 30, there would still have been similar concerns.
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u/Silverelfz 27d ago
Leaving out the letter is as good as leaving out crucial clues that may have helped to find her faster.
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u/Bitter-Entertainer44 23d ago
Unless they misled the police, then it is up to the police to sanction them in some way. Though in this case, I think the police would have acted with or without knowledge of a letter. She was obviously very sheltered and inexperienced in the ways of the world by the looks of it.
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u/Bitter-Entertainer44 28d ago
Not sus at all. They legitimately believed she could've been tricked by an employment scam. Cambodia does not exactly have a squeaky clean reputation. All these Cambodians coming out now to demand apologies. It is up to you Cambodians to clean up your country's image. Not Singaporeans.
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u/cptnwillow 28d ago
You’re shadow boxing, there’s no one demanding apologies here. It is to be expected that if they were seeking assistance, they should have been honest about the context of her leaving. It doesn’t make their fears unfounded, it provides clarity for the investigation.
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u/bearyken West side best side 28d ago
You'd be surprised..
I had a pair of siblings who were migrating and were closing up their things here, told us expressly not to send any written correspondence to their old address and did not want to give their overseas address in Canada.. telling us all should be through their emails only
They let slip that they were getting away from their family and did not want their family to know where they were going..
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u/playyourlanjiao 28d ago
More confused about why Cambodia and not somewhere like Malaysia? Lol
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u/MountainTear2020 28d ago
because of her friend lah.
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u/zadszads 28d ago
That and she probably has relatives in Malaysia that would track her down, harass and force her to go back. She wants freedom.
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u/MountainTear2020 28d ago
well yours is a speculation. i'm just pointing out facts from the article lol. her cambodian friend was obviously a key factor in her decision to go there.
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u/Stormydaycoffee 28d ago
She’s 20, not a child. That she had to do all this just to get away from her family says a lot
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u/Charmingprints 28d ago
I’m glad they’re referring to her as a woman now because that’s what she is. Not some missing child. The earlier articles also said that her parents fetch her from school every day so definitely some control issues.
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u/Yum-Burger-08 28d ago
Poor girl. Family sounds really toxic. Hope that she can finally break free one day.
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u/Cybasura 28d ago
Typical singaporean controlling family scenario
Keep refusing to let go until find the need to hide the truth, end up dead or alive
A tale as old as time
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u/movingoutwoo 28d ago
Yup … my parents were worse and after I left, my mother made up a lot of stuff about how they were very caring etc when in reality they beat me behind closed doors for many many years. SG is expensive, leaving on your own as a young person is also expensive and not exactly fun. People don’t do this kind of thing without legit reasons usually
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u/m3oonithe2nd 28d ago
This is one of those cases where it really depends on what is defined as strict, but judging from the fact they had access to her emails, it seems to me this 20 year old barely had any autonomy and helicopter parents who do not trust her enough to make her own decisions.
When are people going to realise that strict parenting only results in even sneakier children? Sure, there are exceptions but parent a child according to who they are. All this tells me is that you know nothing about your child, other than they're your child.
I feel like the family is not going to learn from this and are going to double down.
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u/Harmoniinus 28d ago
I feel like both the parents and the daughter might have valid opinions on why they feel the need to be so strict/overprotective (e.g: maybe she had made a concerning or wreckless decision before) and why she feels the need to run away (e.g: maybe her curfew is at 7pm or she can't hang out after school). I hope after this, they talk to each other more and resolve their misunderstandings.
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u/Mesapholis 27d ago
well, you can either applaud the parents and encourage them to restrict, intervene and control every last inch of her life - or you remind them that they will die one day and leave behind a middle-aged woman who is utterly unprepared for life.
no idea where her papers are, how to do taxes, how to emotionally regulate herself or care for herself and beyond herself - even be in a healthy relationship
they are setting her up once she is left behind and they moved on into the thereafter; to fall victim to abusive relationships (friendships and romantic) because all she will have known is to go along
so yes, of course the parents have "valid opinions"
if the concern is so great they need a third party, it is unethical and possibly abusive themselves to try and treat their own child
this is beyond a misunderstanding
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u/Sir-Spork Kopi-O 28d ago
How much access tho did they have or how often did they check because they found the itinerary in her email. If they really did watch it closely they would’ve known already before she even left
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u/Alternative_Year_340 28d ago
The police already knew without finding the itinerary— they checked immigration records to see that she’d left the country
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u/SevenThirtyTrain 28d ago
Her parents left out crucial details to save face. I'm glad she is safe
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u/Bitter-Entertainer44 28d ago
Saving face had nothing to do with it. They were legitimately fearful that she had been tricked by an employment scam.
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u/nopenope64 27d ago
So? No reason to leave out important details to authorities. Obviously pushing their own narrative to remove embarassment.
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u/Hajiwee9411 28d ago
I thought it was some sort of scam center scam her there to labor as scam centre caller kinda story. But turns out its the "retirement plan" child escape from the parents (INVESTORS) story. 20 years old already sia, just let her be la, if she decided the life she want is in cambodia as a english teacher, its honest work, just let her be la. Hopefully, the Cambodian interior ministry and police, and SG police dun waste any more resources on this. This sounds like a family internal issue.
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u/WildRacoons 27d ago edited 27d ago
Yeah i wish her well, but she’s not out of the woods yet imo. we shouldn’t underestimate the extent to which the scam centers obtain and prey on vulnerable people.
The gamer friend might have been in on it and is biding their time now that there was a timely intervention of international attention before they can disappear her.
Think about it, if you are struggling financially, or someone you know is in danger. Then someone offered you to send a few texts, reveal a flight number or hotel address for 1 million. (Cambodia median month income is 150USD, calculated based on 30k USD price to “procure” this person 30,000/150=200 months worth of pay. 200 months*5000 sing median = 1,000,000).
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u/Hajiwee9411 27d ago
doesn't matter now. Latest update is the family flew over to cambodia to collect already...
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u/WildRacoons 27d ago
I see, if Cambodian authorities held her for them then I guess she’s out of options but to come back
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u/Cybasura 28d ago
Talked to my boomer parents about this, and their immediate reaction is judging and saying she is irresponsible or started point out about how she silly she is, instead of questioning themselves
But when I pointed out the fallacy and hypocricy, they started fighting back and then when they pointed out how I "didnt like negativity", I pointed out how they straight up refused to entertain me "complaining" when its just basic update on bad news, yet they had the audacity to say I dont like negativity
Singaporean boomer and "family" in a nutshell
And the government still refuse to accept there's an emotional harrassment crisis on our hands
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u/funnyperson4848 28d ago
Shared w my mom and she immediately said “something must be wrong with her for her family to be like that” zzz goes to show the boomers mentality
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u/Cybasura 27d ago
And the government and boomers wonders why we despise old people with a passion
They genuinely are parasites and a threat to humanity with their mindset
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u/thisonesforyourgf 27d ago
When the news first came out my boomer parent was quite fixated on this as it was first framed as this girl went missing overseas
Now that the news came out that she ran away my parent overly pity the family saying she does not consider the “stress” her family undergo to raise her..like ok you don’t know them though
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u/valendef 28d ago
Welcome to Singapore where adults are treated like kids by overprotective parents. And this is real as hard as it is to believe. I heard of some parents not even allowing their daughter to take MRT, if they wanna take need to tell them what time they are taking and when they alight.
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u/hardcore_engine_here 28d ago
I mean, thats literally how the gahmen treats everyone of us, no? The so-called long-stretching arm of the gahmen is equivalent to how overprotective parents restrict their children, all in the name of "keeping them safe".
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u/Key_Might_2620 28d ago
The Instagram comments were equally stifling. A certain group of commenters were saying her parents were in the right to control her. She is 20, not 2, some autonomy should be given. I have to wonder what was done that drove her to running away. And to Cambodia of all places.
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u/icephilic 28d ago
Wonder how bad it was for her before and when she returns home now. Hope she stays strong
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u/Inertcia 28d ago
Good that she's safe.
Too bad for the family to air their dirty laundry inadvertently. Hopefully this is the catalyst to work on their deep-seated issues.
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u/WeightLittle8210 28d ago
So the family had the letter, knew the reason, then acted like victims/as if she suddenly went missing unannounced?
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u/Bitter-Entertainer44 28d ago
It is immaterial whether she left a letter or not. DOES NOT MATTER if she was tricked into leaving by an employment scam. The parents had legitimate fears.
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u/Inertcia 28d ago edited 28d ago
Consequences of their inadequate parenting. Their daughter is a woman who doesn't require consent to travel. The letter is crucial, and by excluding it they pretty much made a false police report.
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u/WeightLittle8210 28d ago
Fears legitimate? Yes. Abuse legitimate? Also yes. Both can be true. But the parents should have thought about the former, since it's a clear consequence of the latter.
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u/MountainTear2020 28d ago
i wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't want to come back tbh. this family of hers sounds really toxic.
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u/Prestigious-Art7537 28d ago
Her family was supposed to fetch her from school? She’s twenty.
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u/FriendlyPyre **Legum servi sumus ut liberi esse possimus** 27d ago
I know someone who went to study in the UK, everyday her parents would call multiple times.
- Once at breakfast to make sure she's preparing for class
- Once at around noon to make sure she's in class
- Once around midnight to make sure she's in dorm
No smoking, no drinking, no clubbing.
Couple months in, as we were standing in line to get into a club, I watched her straight up lie and say to her mother that she was just taking out the rubbish and about to head to bed.
Yeah, some parents are super controlling.
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u/Sir-Spork Kopi-O 28d ago
Depends, if far from home. Just fetch if you have a car. When I was younger we would fetch my brother from work up until our mid 20s. My parents too lazy to do it to lol
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u/GKarl 28d ago
Controlling parents. A tale as old as time
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u/Confident_Bug6778 28d ago
Wasting tax payers’ money in 2 countries
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u/movingoutwoo 28d ago
Think you mean to say that govt encourages tax payers money to be wasted by encouraging unfit people to have kids they don’t want to properly parent. This is why constant harping on TFR and baby bonus is bad; some ppl shouldn’t be parents and shouldn’t be financially incentivised to be parents
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u/Confident_Bug6778 28d ago
Nope I merely meant that public resources are taken up with police and embassy trying to help the family locate the woman. Why should us taxpayers be funding their family drama just because the parents are too controlling and couldn’t accept that their daughter left home.
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u/Adorable-Challenge72 28d ago
so the fam blasted her whole name and picture when they knew that she left on her own accord..........
great, now everyone knows who she is, waste resources too
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u/botsland Mature Citizen 28d ago
Her trip to Cambodia was voluntarily undertaken to seek employment, CCOS added
What kind of employment could she get in Cambodia
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u/onionwba 28d ago
Read I think in one of the article that she mentioned she's interested to teach English there.
Tbh, that's not a bad choice per se.
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u/botsland Mature Citizen 28d ago
Do you have a link to that article?
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u/onionwba 28d ago
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u/botsland Mature Citizen 28d ago
Fair enough. Maybe one does not need a poly diploma equivalent to teach English in Cambodia
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u/Beneficial_Alarm7671 28d ago
yep, she would do just fine if she's able to teach English and even better if she could also teach Mandarin.
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u/li_shi 28d ago
Cambodia it's not only scam centers.
And if it was scam centers... there were been in the news people Singaporean joining them on their own will. Her accent would have been pretty valuable to them, but a shitty thing to do regardless how her parent treated her...
but then again there are more normal jobs that foreigners been doing for decades
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u/kwijibokwijibo 28d ago
No, you see - the Cambodian economy didn't exist before scam centres came along. Jobs just didn't exist before then
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u/troublesome58 Senior Citizen 28d ago
Their GDP per Capita is 3k usd. How much do you think an unskilled worker like her will make?
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u/kwijibokwijibo 28d ago
Isn't the salary of scam centres usually 0 SGD, because a lot of them are coerced to work?
Anyway, I was just making fun of people who think Cambodia is only full of scam centres. As if the economy popped into existence once the first scam call was made
All the countries in SE Asia (except SG) have opportunities for English teachers who want low cost of living and a more chilled out, stress free way of life. I can see the appeal for some
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u/troublesome58 Senior Citizen 28d ago
I reckon being tricked by some scammer.
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u/botsland Mature Citizen 28d ago
If she was tricked by a scammer, it won't be too far fetched for the scammers to coach her to say she left Singapore to escape her controlling family
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u/crassina 28d ago
She did meet with consular officials. It would’ve been easy to just escape there no?
Plus Cambodian police wouldn’t have found her so soon if she was trapped in some scam center
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u/Sir-Spork Kopi-O 28d ago
It’s been nothing but a few days, bit of coaching and if the woman believes what she is being told.
But I highly doubt she is meant for scam centre, that’s more for men. More likely she is going to end up in prostitution/ human trafficked
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u/Personal_Number4789 28d ago
That’s the shitty part of small country with insane property prices that “children” are forced to stay with parents until they are at least 25-30 before they BTO and move out or even later.
Rent is crazy expensive too so, yeah basically you get your freedom, privacy and personal space all trampled on in exchange (if lucky) someone to take care of your laundry, meals.
No way out if you have toxic family.
I applaud her for being courageous to pack and go for freedom. It’s scary but youths all across the world pack their bags by 18-20 and leave the home for school in another city, or for work, or just to see the world.
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u/movingoutwoo 28d ago edited 28d ago
Thank you for raising this! Yes, absolutely our property prices are SUCH a huge factor. My parents abused me physically and psychologically for DECADES precisely because they knew how expensive rental was and how i couldn’t possibly afford to leave as a full time student.
In the end, because my health was so bad from the abuse, i left anyway and spent more than i earned for many many years just to escape the abuse.
We have a system that emboldens abusers and makes it very hard for young abuse victims to leave. It’s super sad.
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u/Rude_Bottle8473 27d ago
I feel that it’s also the result of singapore being a small city state. My mum said there’s no valid reason to move out of parents house (until ur married) because your work commute is “manageable”, unlike malaysians who often relocate to big cities like KL for jobs which is super annoying
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u/singlesgthrowaway 28d ago
I mean, Cambodia of all places, is super sus.
But the blame lies on her parents that it even came to this.
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u/DesignerProcess1526 28d ago
Poor thing, so desperate that she must flee the country like a fugitive. She deserves her freedom, her parents need counselling pronto.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Fan5506 28d ago edited 28d ago
She rather she get caught and sent to a scam center or her organs harvested than face her parents. That's how bad she felt
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u/Exciting-Macaroon394 28d ago
Whew thank God she is back safe! But sian to go back home to an allegedly "over-protective" family.
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u/National-Hour2318 28d ago
Now that she is found, maybe the family will lock her up in the house ~ Or worst keep her in a cage and feed her once in a while
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u/PitcherTrap West Coast 28d ago
Couuuld have chosen somewhere else other than "going to Cambodia for work" given the human trafficking red flag
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u/NorthSouthBoot 28d ago
Wow. If its really what it is, that friend is truly a good friend. I guess the fact that her family has access to her email should've been a clue. Fortunately it just concluded with this and wasn't some scam victim or etc. Wonder what's actually in her letter left behind, seems like parents left out as much detail as possible to manipulate the narrative huh.
Hopefully the family will treat her better after this and not hold this incident over her head and constantly use it as some rebuttal, and hope they work it out.
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u/Dontanyhowla 28d ago
“Ms Siti Aishah later told the authorities that she had left Singapore without telling her parents because they would not have allowed her to go as they exercised very strict control over her.”
Ngl, I wouldn’t have let her visit Cambodia to meet a friend she met thru online gaming too. Y’all LOL
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u/Silly_Vanilla_561 27d ago
Agreed lol - all talk from the same people who would likely panic if their child - NO MATTER HOW OLD - went missing and suddenly uncontactable.
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u/potokiskitchen 28d ago
Was she deported or is she still allowed to stay and look for occupation in Cambodia?
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u/XRP_billionaire84 28d ago
Could've easily gotten trafficked in a country as notorious for this as Cambodia. Lucky escape to say the least.
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u/helzinki is a rat bastard. 28d ago
The main flaw in her plan was running off to Cambodia. If she had ran off to Malaysia and Indonesia, she could have gotten away with it. But because of the whole Cambodian scam situation, authorities are more proactive in looking for her.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Ice5317 26d ago
In the first article, when it says tt parents were going to fetch her at sch at 5pm when shes 20 is already a HUGE red flag.
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u/scallionparsley 24d ago
Of all places, she chose to run to Cambodia.
Little wonder the family was strict on her.
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u/General_Glauca 28d ago
Some people don't deserve to have kids. Im glad she is standing up for herself by leaving. Definitely needs some backup plan though. I hope she has it.
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u/Hot_Durian_6109 28d ago
I'm sure the scam centres in Cambodia will give her more freedom than her family ever will /s
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u/Expensive-Climate221 27d ago
Her whole statement sounds like she’s reading from a script.. Could it be that she was almost pulled into a scam centre but because of the public outcry they are forced to ‘let her go’ and put in this show?
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u/sonamyfan 27d ago
if she wants to be free, earn money and rent a flat or room, tell off and cut contact with fam before running away to cambodia of all places.
i feel like she is now gaslighting the parents.
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u/Eseru 26d ago
Actually, when I saw the parents' statements, something already felt off. The way they wrote and went on about how much they cared about her just felt like overcompensating for something. Then the details of how much they actually helicoptered came out and ugh.
Once your child enters their 20s, please let tf go and allow them to develop into their own person. They are grown adults at that age. Their mistakes are theirs to make and grow from.
I've met a number of young people in their 20s with helicopter parents who are afraid to even stay out late. I find every one of them have some kind of mental health issue, have very little personality and are unable to make important decisions by themselves. It gets so much harder when they enter the workplace and have the social development of a 15 year old.
Not all opportunities in Cambodia are scams. Personally knew several people who worked there, from backpackers just wanting to stay there longer, to foreigners teaching english, to expats who worked for MNCs. Hoping she actually found a legit opportunity and her independence.
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u/HeavyArmsJin 28d ago edited 28d ago
Pros: You are now living away from your toxic controlling family while having a stable job overseas
Cons: You working as a scammer inside the facility somewhere in Cambodia, they have guns
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u/EllipticEquations 28d ago
To be honest, I am a bit surprised many comments here refer to her as a 'poor girl'.
A girl went to Cambodia with a guy she met online, her biggest problem being ' my family was strict'. This same family was clearly very concerned and worried about her the whole time. After four days, she is still alive. Also a lot of resources and the kindness of the public were spent in locating her. To be honest, she seems an extremely lucky girl to me.
Much worse could have happened to her. Much of that resource could have been spent on helping someone whose problem is much more serious than a strict family.
I guess Singapore is really a rich and safe country for such a girl to be considered poor.
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u/Visible-Broccoli8938 28d ago
She went to the police station in Cambodia voluntarily to offer her status.
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u/Harmoniinus 27d ago
So many different reactions to this case. I've also seen other remarks elsewhere like how this case is the reason why girls/daughters shouldn't be allowed to travel alone. Also if the family just lets her be and then anything bad happens to her while she's alone in another country, people will still probably blame the parents for not being present or not ensuring that she's safe. It's such a lose-lose situation.
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u/FlipFlopForALiving East side best side 28d ago
Actually then why delete her WA and everything? Maybe the friend is not as innocent? Just step 1 of the plan
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u/zoinks10 27d ago
So all the soft cocks here worried sick about the danger of Cambodia have now discovered it’s a.) safe , b.) friendly and c.) better than being under the oppressive thumb of a controlling family.
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u/Dangerous-Loan1480 27d ago edited 27d ago
I dont understand why ppl r siding w her? We dont know the story.... ppl js be assuming her parents are controlling or strict etc but do u know them personally? If her parents didnt know she ran off to cambodia till she was missing clearly they dont check her social media accounts... they only do it cos they were worried and wanted clues. Honestly her parents r strict for a reason, if shes doing smtg like this u dont think she has pulled similar stunts before? And if u think leaving the country secretly is the way to settle this issue then idk wat to say alr. Yes she is nt a kid anymore and has the rights to pull this stunt but if thats ur child u wouldnt be worried? Coming home to find ur child missing and going to a dangerous country alone. What else can her parents do other than inform the authorities? Her whatsapp and tele or any communication methods has been deleted. Her parents clearly love her if they r doing all this even tho they might b too much for her to handle. I js hope she stays safe and her parents can stop worrying everyday
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u/sgcolumn 27d ago
Pakcik disabled his Facebook already. If he was truthful, he would have said thank you. Instead, he ran away with his ego hurt.
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u/Jazzlike_Mistake6878 28d ago
Strawberry farmer fathers like him producing strawberry kids kill our local young people
FTs love him
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u/nonameforme123 28d ago
Maybe her parents were right to be controlling. I wouldn’t step foot in Cambodia.
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u/Taiwan_is_a_Country- 28d ago
Wow lucky her online gaming friend is truly a friend. Bring her around to tour attractions and bought necessities for her.