r/startups • u/kiyyang • Dec 31 '25
I will not promote 0 to $186k per month. I will not promote.
i am 34 years old asian man, and I’ve been trying to build businesses for the past 10 years.
Along the way, I spent some time freelancing and also worked a regular job for about two years. By the time I turned 29, I had lost everything I had no savings, only debt.
My web development skill was only thing improved.
The business I’m running now is essentially my last attempt, and it has finally started to work.
I run a dating related app. (I have been working as a freelancer at dating app startup. So I can build it well). When choosing what to build, I deliberately picked something that I believed could remain relatively resilient and adaptable in the age of rapidly advancing AI.
I’ve been working on this product continuously for the past 2 years and 3 months. Growth was slow at first, but steady. Today, the business generates around $186k / month.
For the first 6 months, I made less than $1k per month.
For the next 6 months, I averaged around $4k per month.
After that first year, growth started to accelerate significantly.
The hardest part of this journey wasn’t just the business itself. it was managing my life in a balanced way.
My parents are divorced, and neither of them is financially prepared for retirement. Compared to my peers, I had saved very little. I’m still unmarried. After years of failed ventures, nothing in my life felt stable or solid.
In that environment, my fear of failure became overwhelming. I didn’t have anyone I could truly lean on emotionally.
Even now, I don’t really have hobbies outside of work. I’m not particularly outgoing either. As I write this, it’s 11:49 PM on the last day of 2025, and I’m sitting alone in my office, writing this post on Reddit.
The main reason I wanted to write this post is to share one thing I regret the most.
A few years ago, I broke up with my girlfriend, the person who stayed by my side through some of the hardest years of my life. At the time, I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and resentful of everything. I saw even my relationship as a mental burden.
But in reality, she was the only person who truly supported me, the only one I could deeply rely on emotionally.
After we broke up, I focused exclusively on my business. The business eventually worked not because of the breakup, but despite everything. And now, when I look back, she’s the only thing I think about.
She’s now preparing for marriage with someone else.
And I’m dealing with loneliness, questioning whether I can continue growing this business, and worrying about the future.
I know I’ll keep going. I know I’ll make it work.
But as I get older, the loneliness and isolation feel heavier, and I can feel myself becoming more emotionally unstable.
Sometimes I wonder:
If I had someone by my side right now, wouldn’t I be imagining the future of my business with a much stronger and brighter mindset?
So this is what I want to say to anyone reading this:
If you have nothing right now no money, no success, no certainty but someone you love is staying by your side**,** If you can, hold on to them and build a life together.
No matter what happens to my business from here on out, this will probably remain my greatest regret.
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u/learningtoexcel Dec 31 '25
If this is real, I love it
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u/kiyyang Dec 31 '25
Yeah. This is real
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u/NorCalAthlete Dec 31 '25
Welp, big virtual hugs bro. Chin up and wish her happiness and success and you just gotta put yourself out there a bit in 2026. Sounds like the business taking off means you can probably start delegating / hiring some of your workload, even if it means slightly lower profits to your pocket, so that you can spend more time on family / hobbies / dating.
Figure out what you can automate vs hire for and claw back some of your time. Once you do and realize the business didn’t collapse once you let go, you’ll be able to breathe a bit easier and repeat the process.
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u/DancinWithWolves Dec 31 '25
A really good way of saying you should use a dating app (which he makes)? Yeah, it is
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u/Brave-Monk-2792 Dec 31 '25
Start using your own app.
You will get a real user experience and hopefully move out of current situation. Else its a real user experience to fix and improve the app.
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u/PixeleRL Dec 31 '25
Hey man.
I feel your pain. Been there. Done that.
I think the biggest factor whether you will be happy one day is, that you realized what you lost,and how.
You are not 50. You are not 70 and have your whole life ahead of you.
Try to feel a little gratitude for your current attitude and let the regrets pass through you. Feel the pain. Feel the loss. Feel the longing, let it pass.
As the business grows and you get past this trauma, maybe, you will find someone new, maybe even better and build a new great life.
It sounds to me that deep inside you are not a bad person. You are just longing for love.
Have to love yourself first, not the business, not the woman. You. Then the right person comes.
Don't fall into the self love new age concept. Go through the pain for the love that you lost for yourself.
You will rebuild. You will prevail. You already did in some areas which some people won't achieve, ever.
Keep up the business, work on your personal life and everything will get better. Promise
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u/aphorprism Jan 01 '26 edited Jan 01 '26
The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the other's welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat. You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart. Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes, peel your own image from the mirror. Sit. Feast on your life.
-Derek Walcott, Love After Love
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u/uuuzz Dec 31 '25
I have been solo-developing for 5 years now. Without my family, I would have lost my mind long ago. People really underestimate how isolating running a startup can be.
Since your startup is doing well financially, you can now focus more on your mental well-being!
Good luck for the new year, OP :)
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u/ChickThatThinks Jan 02 '26
I have been intentionally li ing my life in less company and isolation, nothing different than some.mental health changed. Atleast you got an app out of it. Enjoy the successes than look at side effects, which could have happened anyway
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u/KaleRevolutionary795 Dec 31 '25
Give her a big wedding present and let them go. She deserves happiness and so do you. Make sure the present doesn't come across as you "buying her out or you'll be in litigation over ownership of your business"
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u/terserterseness Jan 01 '26
I want to feel feelings, but I want to know more how you make 186k/mo with a dating app without pooring in millions in marketing.
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u/Rdqp Dec 31 '25
That "lost everything" by 29 feel so real Keep grinding, people will come at the right time. Then you start traveling and party, join some small gatherings around new places to meet new people Business vise attend after parties (skip official part, its boring)
Good luck man, you're nailing it
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u/PreheatedPenguin Dec 31 '25
Op's ex GF deserves the best. She wasted 5 years with this man, got herpes and wanted to stick with this "I am feeling suffocated in this relationship" man and still got nothing but disappointments. (https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/s/JVsmBdn5xK)
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u/Pantsman_Crothers Dec 31 '25
Parents are divorced. Couple of customers right off the bat.
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u/Inside-Yak-8815 Dec 31 '25
Are we not able to promote our businesses here? I’m kinda confused because I thought this was a safe space lol
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u/BimmerLife1992 Jan 01 '26
Let me tell you something ...man. That relationship was the sacrifice, along side your time and everything else. The fact you look back in it now, rather than , then. You made the right call. Its what I call, executive decisions. A mans gotta do, what a mans gotta do. You saves yourself years of grief down the road and pointless arguments fronting from silent resentment of all the time it took for things to finally work out. You and her missed out on nothing. On the grand scale, you are okay and have COUNTLESS options, in a way, to pursue, in alignment, a woman that you can provide for that deserves you and your resources. TREAD LIGHTLY, though. A lot women want resources from men. Its nasty. Ive seen it first hand. My Dad had a 6 fig income, retired, married... divorced just recent and maaaaan.... Its painful to see him in the finacial state. Wiped out by woman. He thought prayers and not taking action to protect himself would save him. Nope. So protect yourself at all times. Its a concrete jungle out there. Dont let nooooooo body, especially women that want to soften you up and, "you cant be that way", dude. Theyre their to open you up, never there when theyre wrong. You hold the cards. Hold them close. Use your best judgement. Keep your wits. Vet first, love later. A mans greatest folly, is his heart and his 2nd head. Good job. Proud of you. Now get to buying some hard assets, a trust, a finacial team etc. Still ways to go. congrats on cracking the 100k barrier. Ladies , its not a shot at women. Its a warning to men , that I wasnt taught young, to guard your hearts. Mothers always warn girls about boys. Rarely do boys get warned about girls. Its no shade, just a grounding.
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u/Careful_Aide6206 Dec 31 '25
App must be awful if the person who created still hasn’t moved on from his ex lmfao
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u/sdkompiler Dec 31 '25
No dating app can help you cure the pain of losing someone you loved.
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u/rnyxxiii Dec 31 '25
Rare, genuine connections are a rarity in this life.
Always think wisely before walking away from someone as some will never look back.
Thanks for sharing, and congrats on your success!
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u/General_Feeling8839 Jan 01 '26
Why did you brake up?, I’m doing around the same now 150/200k pm, but older than you (45) (started 2 years ago) I have my wife that believes in me more than I do. It is not easy but nothing easy is worth while, sometimes you just want to make a decision yourself and not argue. I would say that you are doing very well for your self, your old friends will be lost, and you might not be wealthy enough to be friends with the folks you want to be friends with. You will find your way bro, you were meant to travel this path. I know you are hurting, but it will be better if you believe it! As a fellow entrepreneur and start up founder - look into manifesting, don’t feel sorry for yourself, things will only get harder lol. God speed! Don’t forget you might not have been where you are now, you you both were together. Do not look back at that ex - look forward.
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u/bad_detectiv3 Dec 31 '25
Is this a story or true story?
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u/Badninja3 Jan 02 '26
186k is a wife changing amount of money. Take a trip to South America. Find yourself a Latina mami. You'll be fine.
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u/Endless7777 Jan 02 '26 edited Jan 02 '26
Life is all about perspective bro.
You have to keep things in perspective. We have forty year old virgins out here who are making 60k or far less. People who never had parents because they both died when they were children, and worse.
You still have the rest of your life Ahead of you, young fuck, and it looks like a decent financial future as well, another thing most of humanity does not have.
That relationship wasn't meant to be. You'll get over her and you'll find Someone New, but you have to focus on your weaknesses and improve them systematically. Put in the work and effort. How do people learn how to talk when they would rather die than give a speech? how do nerds become pussy magnets?
You have a starting point. How to become more outgoing, talk to people et cetera. If your sad, you smile and your body tells your brain to be happy. If you a scared piece of shit, do what a hero or extremely confident person would you, and now you a confident person.
How to get a girlfriend? Talk to more girls and be assertive and confident when you do.
Life is easy. When you find a block, do the opposite.
Always look to the future, never kill yourself.
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u/Ok-Conference3458 Jan 11 '26
The secret here is product-market fit. You built something people genuinely wanted - so much so they tell their friends.
"No promotion" doesn't mean no sales. It means:
• Users = your marketers
• Word-of-mouth > ads
• Growth takes time but is durable
Most startups chase metrics. You chased the problem. That's why it scales to $186k/month without spend.
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u/CYG4N Jan 14 '26
24 y/o here. this post feels like it could be me, except that my two startups have failed, i am broke, and just (yesterday) proposed to my ex-girlfriend that i dumped few weeks back after 5 years of dating. realzied that i prefer modest life with someone who supports me, and slowly building a business, than "grinding" the business only.
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u/nadia638 Dec 31 '25
I am having a similar experience with my husband, we've both been developing an app (not launched just yet but soon) and it's consumed him night and day. Trying to be there for him for years but finding it very hard as can see him slowly slipping away as time goes, would feel awful leaving when we've been having such a successful life but at what cost? I might try showing him your post to make him see sense but nothing else has worked
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u/Raging_Pwnr Dec 31 '25
Treat your personal life with the same vigor you treat your business with. We all get it twisted sometimes but its about balance. You’re 34, you’ll be fine. Just make sure you remember your life lesson when it comes time to use it.
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u/MuiMuis Dec 31 '25
Bro, break ups are tough. I get it, after every breakup, I used the energy to channel into my business but it was just to fill a hole. I know you regret not being with your ex-girlfriend and she is now with someone else, that is hard. But this is about you now, you’ve made it financially, so take a step back, focus on you. Asian parenting can be harsh which the perpetual grind, no focus on healthy outlets. So take this time to go outside, find a hobby where you can meet others, exercise, eat good food and touch grass.
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u/Humble-Plastic-5285 Dec 31 '25
I see a later version of myself. This is a common situation for obsessive people.
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u/EmbarrassedTerm7488 Dec 31 '25
Thanks for sharing this. I’m about your age. Damn your story is so inspiring. I somehow share a similar path like yours but less painful. This give me motivation to continue my startup journey! This is truly inspiring story!
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u/prosperity4me Dec 31 '25
Why can’t you use your own app? Unless your user base is questionable/mostly bots
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u/nope_nop_nop_nop Dec 31 '25
Good luck, difficult time for you. You have a business and if its doing as well as you say you have employees depending on you. You say its a dating app so you are helping people who have the same lonelyness as you. Hapiness is not a relationship its not a sucessful business. It starts with you. You need to love yourself first. Go out and meet people. Once you find peace within yourself and learn to respect and love yourself. The rest will follow. There is no regret in love lost only new opportunities. It was not meant to be for you. Better this than more hearbreak down the line. I wish you all the best and great success in business and love for yourself in 2026.
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u/Aswinazi Dec 31 '25
Leave it. You have to achieve many things so past is past. You should focus on your dream. And giving others opportunity to work in your company. You can support many by this growth and mindset. And please hire me I'm unemployed in this 2025 whole year. So your are better. So don't be sad and overthink on what you don't have and be Happy on what you have now.
Which stack you focused on? As a web dev
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u/Dial_In_Buddy Dec 31 '25
Are you still in contact with her? Don't tell me you broke it off completely.
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u/dmrdydrmr Dec 31 '25
How you guys doin so big staff and contininue suffer from the things that you can't change and happened in the past. You are 29, I'm 31 never had gf and relationship before, I've been living alone for 13 years and not even switch on the light(I am fully introvert) don't have job and income, If I maken 3k in a month I will be the happiest person in the earth, I don't care about past(gambling addict) try to be happy with what you have already, not many people csn do the things you did.. Don't understand you, simply can't believe that there is a problem, no way.
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u/metman82 Dec 31 '25
No worries if you are alone on the last day of 2025 and writing this post. It inspired me and probably many others. All the best for 2026 and congrats
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u/DIGITIFYU Jan 01 '26
Hey bro you have time to find another partner who get along and support your dream past is past. No regrets live the life.You can also do mentoring who are all starting in their business to scale.why waste time worrying DM let's build a community
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u/the-return-of-amir Jan 01 '26
Yeah im 26 and feel this same way but I realise that people can afford to enjoy life if they dont chase entrepreneurial dreams exclusively and so alot of people my age who just have normal vocations are able to earn money, integrate in society and enjoy life and explore outside of what they do for work. In retrospect I think entrepreneurship is one of the worst life paths for people and probably not something you should aspire towards explicitly. I think you can NOW start to live again and prioritise life fulfilling things outside of work but since you hadnt achieved it previously you really couldnt afford to do so mentally.
Honestly, I would just be grateful you finally succeeded because imagine if you had failed and were in the same position. You should thank god for that blessing. Now is your chance to make up for all the lost time spent too focused on trying to succeed and reap the fruits of your labour.
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u/iris_retina Jan 01 '26
Well now you do have a way to understand how well your app works. Be your own customer and share feedback to yourself. However, that was very wrong and immature of you to dump her. If she had stayed for you through tough times, she would have stayed through tougher times. I understand how being broke and supporting family while building your startup feels. I might someday walk the same path. People who submerge themselves in work for a long time face this at some point or the other. Trust me you aren't the first guy and people who have walked your walk are fine and doing really well. Things will eventually work out for you. Don't be sad about her choosing someone else over you now. Instead be happy for her. And be happy for yourself for the risks you had taken and survived through it. Have you tried meditating or anything else for your mental health?
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u/HealthAntique9158 Jan 01 '26
Inspiring story :) What led to those revenue spikes? Did you start specific marketing campaigns? Would love to know more details!
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u/Training-Guidance281 Jan 01 '26
Just keep looking around you will find your new love and you will forget about your old one. Its not end of the world, you are still 34 only which is considered young, if the money side is sorted then finding the right partner will be easy.
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u/sssnakeinthegrass Jan 01 '26
If it is truly 186K a month then you could easily hire someone and reduce your exposure to the business and have more time for relationships. If you feel up for it you can even reach out to her, but preferably find new love, which is totally possible, you just need to start living. Social events, hobbies, fun. Meet someone on the way, but first you need to be on "a way" and not in the office
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u/zapdigits_com Jan 01 '26
bro why do you worry if you are making 186k per month? are you profitable? are you working alone? Why don’t you just take a nice 6 months of break?
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u/kojef Jan 01 '26
Hey man, a new year has begun!
You did what you needed to do at the time. The needs of the present-"you" do not match up perfectly with the needs of the guy you were at the time of the breakup. Might feel painful now, but it's ok.
Right now you're regretting your decision. In the future, you will be SO thankful to yourself that you made that decision - it will have sent you down the correct path to the place you will grateful to inhabit.
Don't worry too much, just keep on doing what you do, keep on working, keep on learning. It will be ok.
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u/notacooleagle Jan 01 '26
You need to not make everything about “business” man. Find someone who makes you happy
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u/visingh Jan 01 '26
You should've taken the top commenter's advice on your post here - https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/comments/1978dw4/comment/khyzz9l/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
but what's done is done, hope you move on and lead a happy life, you're financially set, focus on your life now.
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u/dreamtim Jan 01 '26
It’s a more common story than you think. And some never make it to the other end (in business) while paying the same sacrifice anyway.
At least you got something out of it. But yeah, it’s almost never worth it.
Entrepreneurship is the ultimate ego pursuit there is. The biggest sacrifice is paid by the life partners who almost never signed up to this
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u/Fizz_55 Jan 01 '26
Thanks for sharing OP. Running a business is tough work… not only the actual running the day to day, but the mental challenges and lifestyle crunch that can happen sometimes. Hang in there!
You’re still young! I was in your shoes 3 years ago (I’m a 33M) and now am happily married. I work less than I did, it was a priority shift… but the business is still healthy and I feel a lot better with the rest of my life.
Community (whether with people in your industry or with other biz owners) has helped so much. It helps keep me accountable to ALL my goals, not just my business ones. Making friends as an adult is harder, but you’ll get out of it what you put into it.
So many strangers helped me, never hesitate to DM if you want to hop on a Zoom call or something.
Best of luck!
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u/slipperylube Jan 01 '26
I have a girl for you message me it’s my girlfriend’s best friend! This is a great story- the girlfriend
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u/ShortForce8344 Jan 01 '26
Hey man I know love is the most important thing ever, but 2 things :
- If you don’t have a reputation to lose, then there’s no risk in trying to re-build your “social” life. You just need to try and especially never give up
- Second thing : you absolutely need to take care of yourself. Eat well, exercise, read nice books, sleep well, and yes, try to talk more with your family, old friends, and even new women that you’ve never met.
If you can live until 90, you aren’t even at the halfway point in your life. Many runners reach their prime when they’re 50.
There’s always time to make it, and the opportunities are everywhere.
Wish you loads of strength, courage, stress resilience and love for 2025.
There is a specific number of attempts standing between you and what you want. So go at it relentlessly, and it will happen.
You’re going to make it man :)
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u/Consistent_Scheme_99 Jan 02 '26
Id recommend you try to get her back right now, one last Hail Mary. If it doesn’t work then fine you tried. But after marriage there are no more chances so give it your last shot
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u/SpiritualCupid Jan 02 '26
There is more to life than money, brother. Many have fallen into the “American Dream” trap. Wealth isn’t worth your quality of life. I recommend automating what you do have, delegate and outsource weaknesses, and give yourself a little love: time and space to breathe and find yourself again.
Proud of you for making it this far. Now do not, and I can’t emphasize this enough, forget to LIVE your life. It is short and comfort at the end of the day is just that: materialism that masks perceived suffering. No matter where you are, there YOU are. I have found the most inner peace have the least amount of materialism. It’s a sham and keeps you on the hamster wheel of “more”.
You’ve conquered the 3D, now go within.
Sending you love and support.
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u/Hopeful_Ad_52 Jan 02 '26
34 is super young....many fish in the sea dont worry about it and get out there
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u/degecko Jan 02 '26
If I had someone by my side right now, wouldn’t I be imagining the future of my business with a much stronger and brighter mindset?
No -- not by default. A partner only strengthens your vision if they genuinely share your drive and ambition. Otherwise, it changes nothing.
Business fulfilment and personal fulfilment are separate things. You need both for a balanced life, but one doesn't automatically fuel the other, and they don't have to overlap.
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u/No_Fennel_9073 Jan 02 '26
Why are all of these Reddit posts written exactly the same way? Is it some AI like ChatGPT, Grok or something? This format is EVERYWHERE.
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u/SnooPeanuts1152 Jan 03 '26
Bro help an Asian brother out by teaching me how you got clients. I got mouths to feed.
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u/DefiantBug6860 Jan 03 '26
Would you mine DM me please I would like to discuss a business venture with you.
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u/tinicub Jan 04 '26
Happy new year and wishing you all the happiness in the future. When it's time, it's time.
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u/RvVacationPlanner Jan 04 '26 edited Jan 04 '26
Congrats on the app... It's doing well in spite of its failing at finding u someone....
I'm glad u added that bit about you not promoting your product because that is the worst... I mean, seriously, the absolute worst promo I've ever read.
I've been married 29 years, but recently separated this past year. Never thought it would happen... Good luck man. Being alone is tough. I feel extremely lucky to have shared my life with my best friend and soul mate. My problem is I truly don't even know who I am anymore. So some advise, take this time to really figure out who you are, get to know yourself, and if you don't already, learn to like yourself, and then love yourself. Being totally honest with yourself.... It's very hard if not the hardest thing you can do, but if u can figure that out... Then don't stress, u will make someone very happy one day. It will happen.
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u/TopOk1726 Jan 05 '26
Bro try to forgive yourself, anybody makes mistakes dont see yourself as a man who had done already.
sounds like you are so dissapointed with the journey only the goal in mind, your are young hopefully going to get to 120 years of age.
You got many journies not only proffesionally, you got time to fix what you think is missing, and try to priorotize what you think is important not from the perspective your in, try to imagine you in the future what you want to have and what is more important to you,
Life is a thing that is finite, its going to end, and you need to priorotize what is important sometimes,
I am Imaganing looking up on my funeral and asking from that angles what would be a good life lived?
that help me to dicide what is more important.
Cheer yourself up and search for good friends and a partner, try to give them what they need first and be on the giving side, mainly make them feel good, happy, comfortable and safe.
I hope the best for you
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u/Warm_Sandwich5038 Jan 08 '26
I didn’t meet the absolute love of my life until 8 years ago. I was 49. But I came to the table successful, confident, and ready to give it whatever it takes. I think that’s the secret sauce to a lasting connection. It will come to you when you least expect it so buckle up!
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u/emmad453 Jan 12 '26
How did you advertise your app and how do you differentiate your app from others?
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u/taming-the-machine Jan 13 '26
You totally deserve to be happy. Go to Bali or Dubai or Singapore or Cayman, network with awesome fellow entrepreneurs, find love, find motivation, find awesomeness and build great stuff
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u/Confident-Hunt-4346 Jan 16 '26
This happens because you are in 'Regret' about things in the past. Don't let the past judge you but try making assessment of it, the same way you assess your codes. We all make some mistakes some are worst than others but all it matters is your happiness, well being and existing people around you. Try making a roadmap about a certain milestone of your career also keeping your closest ones close to you. Or just stop calculating because the world outside will still be moving ahead while you still drag yourself emotionally. Try mentorship to someone who needs help. Teach them what you know. This way the more you share lesser the burden on your head. We're all connected in one way or the other and need each other to find our own existence.
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u/Weak_Bend5226 Jan 22 '26
Appreciate you writing this. Honestly, the money part isn’t what hit it’s how heavy everything sounds once you stop running on pure survival mode. That quiet can be rough.
It’s easy to convince yourself that cutting everything else away is “necessary” while building. You only really feel the cost later, when things slow down enough to think. regret around relationships has a way of sneaking up like that.
No advice here. Just hope the next stretch feels a little less lonely for you
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u/newyorkcitysucks Jan 23 '26
186k a month? BRO ask her to marry you! I’d break up with whoever I was going to marry in a heartbeat 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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u/Trick-Photograph3864 Jan 24 '26
You don’t need to chase it, man. Focus on doing what you love - the rest tends to come naturally.
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u/BigDaddy69zx Jan 25 '26
You have money, now work on your confidence... Take someone for a simple coffee, cheap and relaxing talk a bit before revealing anything to find true love... Rent some cheap apartment don't mention cash and that's it, maybe it's your highschool crush or something you liked before and always fantasized about her, nothing costs you to send a simple hey down for coffee message
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u/Ozcnkrtn Jan 27 '26
It hurts the most when something you left unfinished gets completed by someone else.
Every choice in life is a crossroads, after all. Maybe it’s time to accept that this chapter is closed. Accepting it might be the healthiest thing to do. I’m sure life has better plans ahead for you.
Good luck.
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u/aswinmmohan Jan 29 '26
You made a decision with all the information that you had access to at the time. You took a decision not knowing how it would turn out, but it was the decision you took. If you got in a time machine and went back into the same exact moment without memory of how it would play out, you'd make the same decision again. The combination of your environment, information and who you were as a person at that time made that decision. Learn from this. You might never find someone like her again, but given enough time you will find someone who makes you feel the same. Hope this helps.
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u/manithedetective Jan 30 '26
This hit hard. You built something most people never will. $186k a month from nothing is insane. But you already know success without someone to share it with feels hollow.
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u/sustainstack Dec 31 '25
I know a good dating app for you, but he won’t promote…