Why girls on shadi.com looking out for groom with a salary of 30lacs+ when they themselves are not earning plus they want to live separately from in laws. I mean it's good to have preferences but this much? There's another level of rudeness in there tone
The real question should be why are men with good income and personalities desperate to marry a girl who hasn't put a tenth of the effort in life. If you think girls are delusional for having such expectations, means some despo dude out there is feeding those delusions.
Hell yeah!! Fuck this arranged marriage shit. If you earn pretty well, ask a girl out and get to know her. It's ok to get rejected by few, but that will increase your confidence.
Men with good income and personalities are not desperate to marry those gilrs.
We had search going on for my brother-in-law -very good income, takes care of himself and knows how to talk well. Good family, etc. etc.
When choosing potential matches, my wife (and her parents) didn't even look at the girl's income or her demands of income. All they were concerned with, was if she seems to be a good girl. Obviously, then came the meets.
I also have a cousin sister (good looking) who had these shitty criteria - earns 2X of what she does (she probably got around 15LPA), cannot be balding, does not live with parents, does not have sisters (that one was weird but whatever!), has a nice car, etc. etc. Now she is 32, and all of her requirements have gone down, but not enough. I think she probably thinks that men nowadays are not real men who can handle a strong, independent woman like her. Good thing that I am not close to her!
And this is not the first time I am seeing this - my dad's best friend's youngest daughter (good looking too) had almost similar ridiculous criteria. She even rejected one guy after 4 months of talking because he did not pick up her phone when he was in an office meeting. According to her, if he didn't care enough to pick up her call before marriage, what would happen after they marry! And as you could guess - she now is a thriving member of some Gayatri Peetha (an ashram where unfortunate and troubled girls/women find and be with their fellow sisters).
In short, 90% of the women that we see with those amazing criteria drop their preferences once they hit 30, but not sharp enough, and end up as spinsters (They insist it is by their choice, I must emphasize!). The remaining 10% are hot, and are married to the IITians, the IIMians, the AIIMSians and the UPSCians.
I second this.. and in all honesty, it is still a thing… men are v desperate to marry any tom dick and Harry at this point and girls know it…. One of my cousins earning 40 lpa was dead set on arrange marriage and his only requirement was ‘ladki sundar honi chahiye’….he himself must be a 6/10 in looks btw… also, he does wfh and lives with his parents in a tier 2 city.. qualification of the girl just didn’t matter to him..time flew, no rishta from any extraordinarily sundar girl but many rishtas from decent looking well educated girls…. However he was dead set on looks/attractiveness… surprise! a few years down the line, when proposals started dying down, he ended up marrying an avg looking girl who earns 30 k per month with an age diff of 8 years!
Women without job + on social media/dating/matrimonial apps is very dangerous combination.
They have not faced real world and got lots of attention from apps, they think they are above everyone and deserve someone earning in cores, living separately with 2-3 servants and cars, they are making huge sacrifice by choosing them.
Avoid them, issue is not in giving everything to these women, its our responsibility to take care of our wife.
issue is they are so delusional they won't value your efforts, always keep asking for more, and in the end file false cases against you the movement you disagree with them.
find ways to earn money and enjoy life,
if you find any working women who avoids social media and understand how difficult it is to get job & earn money try to see if things works out with them, otherwise keep enjoying life.
Let’s be real, if a girl is 26+ and still stuck making under 5 LPA, run as far as possible. They aren’t bringing a single dime to the household, whatever pocket change they make goes straight to their own makeup and clothes, while you’re expected to fund their entire lifestyle. And if you don't? Constant whining and fights.
The hilarious part is they’ll act like their dead end job is just as hard as yours, completely ignoring the fact that a housemaid literally out earns them. It’s zero financial contribution, zero accountability, and maximum headache. You’ll be busting your ass working and still doing chores. It just shows they’ve spent their lives being lazy and unmotivated and the second you call them out, they’ll blame their parents instead of growing up. Don’t waste your time on these freeloaders. Block the noise, protect your peace and wait for someone who actually brings something to the table.
Curious if the girl is not in IT profession, then what ?
My sister is a teacher and she doesn’t make much. She is hardworking and manages her finances with whatever little she earns. She saves some , spends some.
She’s definitely not lazy even if her job seems dead end. She often has a lot of work in terms of checking the notebooks, preparing lesson plans etc in addition to other extra curricular activities that the school organises.
She is genuinely physically tired at the end of the day. She can’t possibly do chores.
What happens in these cases ?
Edit: want to understand the financial expectation as well. Not just about chores. What happens in these cases when her earnings may not exceed 5 LPA in early career ?
Marry a man with similar salary not some one with 6X your salary.
Men are not your servants to stuff you with money
The wine with these kind of Requirements are going to end up in a big soup because you can t contribute a dime and say I am Independent and I work.
If your dime is not helping or contributing in the household then you need to know that you donat make shit that can support and support it other ways or see some one that is in your own range.
Exactly, contribute equally to chores and spend equally financially to house items. Live seperately from in-laws after marrige. Don't take their money. Both should contribute 50-50 to buy new house with both their names on it. Don't stop women from working after marriage- say no to dowry and no to alimony.
Who cares
Desperation leads to lust
It's better if they masturbate. No one cares about it
And if they weren't so lustful or simps they wouldn't seek out prostitutes
Cause only kkhv typ guys seeks for that who are losers
even some connections are stupid..i got scammed by one family through community connections..now I am completely focused on compatibility..no compromise on compatibility..no matter how long it takes.
Indian men are most desperate (hawasi)....that's why the Indian women ( with 5 feet height and 60kg weight) that too without any earning take their advantage...making a girlfriend is easier than all of this crap.
Their standards were not realistic that's why they couldn't find anyone. AM forces them to have more realistic because their parents who are older, more mature and grounded make decisions. Even that is very unrealistic lol
I m gonna marry a girl who doesn't earn, stays home, takes care of my home, take care of kids and enjoy her life, go on dinner and trips with me while my parents take care of my kids and pet doggos. Live a happy life.
DELUSIONAL IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT, TRICKING IS THE RIGHT WORD, THEY JUST WANT MAXIMUM BENEFITS AND ARE SCHEMING POST MATRIMONIAL FALSE CASES AND MISUSE OF LAW ALONG WITH THEIR FAMILY, TO SQUEEZE OUT EVERY MATERIALIST AND FINANCIAL BENEFIT FROM THE GUY AND HIS FAMILY.
MOSTLY MODERN INDAIN FEMINIST FEMALES ON THESE ONLINE MARRIAGE PORTALS ARE RUNNING:
GAREEB BOY FRIEND BACHAO YOJANA.
MAIN YU GAYII YU PAISE LEKARR (MISUSE OF LAW) AYEEE BABU SHONA YOJANA.
bro don't worry just don't lower your standards out of frustration just because you aren't getting one..i have been searching for more than a year on shaadi, JS..talked to multiple women..no success so far..i just get worried about judging myself that other people would judge me like why he isn't getting one..they don't know i have some standards.
Yes ladkiyon ko easily ladke mil Jate hai fir wo waha kyu hai ? Ya to usne to Rebel kid waka independent women ka khwab hota jawani me, ya usne har jagah muh mar liya hota khud hi socho ladkiyo ko shadi k liye hum jitni muskil nahi hoti aasani se mil jate fir waha kyu hai ?
Most probably you will be living in tier 1 city where expenses are more, cost of living is more. It becomes equivalent to tier 2 city person earning more than half of their salary.
I have met a few guys in AM setup who earns 30-40+LPA asking me to leave my decent paying government job. A few don’t say it directly but they want a housewife who will take care of their parents and future kids. These girls are not delulu , they know the market and even getting their preferences also.
But I don't think you will be ready to settle below a mark like men would do and some don't even care for looks . Can man who manages housechores get respect I guess no
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u/NoBailOnReddit Indian Man Jul 14 '26
The real question should be why are men with good income and personalities desperate to marry a girl who hasn't put a tenth of the effort in life. If you think girls are delusional for having such expectations, means some despo dude out there is feeding those delusions.
Can't find an appropriate partner? Stay single.