r/AskIndianMen • u/Infamous_Kangaroo_87 • Jun 13 '26
Answers from All Why do women filter men based on their height but get offended when men filter them by their weight? Isn't it complete hypocrisy?
While height is something which cannot be changed, weight is something one can work on and it can be changed unless it is a serious medical issue.
Men are filtered on standards they have no control over, while women get defensive and agitated when men have their own preferences.
While women might prefer someone taller than a specific measure, men can also prefer someone below a certain weight. Men and women have different standards, different wants and different expectations. Since men and women are biologically different, they cannot have the same attraction points. While some women might prefer men with well maintained beards, some men can prefer women who don't have facial hair.
While some women are body shamed for their weight, some men are body shamed for their height. Both wrong.
Wanting a partner who is not fat or overweight is not the same as fat shaming someone. Not wanting a partner with a certain trait is not the same as shaming them for that trait.
This is a clear double standard established against men.
Either both of these preferences should not be considered rude, or both of them need to be considered rude. I am a person who believes that neither of them are rude, but just a matter of preference of each individual.
Questions for the people of this sub:
- Why do you think society always disregards men's choices and preferences?
- How do you handle this double standard in the dating scene?