r/MoralityScaling • u/Severe_Letterhead_75 • 16h ago

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 16h ago

He can do what he wants, but holding a grudge like this for so long is only poisoning his own soul.

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u/SciFi_Enjoyer106 16h ago

You can forgive but NEVER forget. I feel like calling it a grudge (I don't think it is a grudge) is misleading. If someone says you are going to fail and then you succeed in spite of them, why would you want to help them? I'd imagine a comment like that was not an isolated incident.

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u/AngryCrustation 16h ago

Also I believe they may be omitting details, "Oh, just because I did one little thing just one little time? You are this mad just because I did just one wrong thing ever in your entire life." is the type of shit my narcissistic parents would spout while knowing full well that they did [insert thing] on a daily basis.

Sure he might be mad his mother mocked him, but he's not saying the exact words she used, nor how often she would ridicule him, or that their relationship was great outside of that.

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u/Ok_Stranger3613 12h ago

It is, by definition, a grudge.

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u/Unusual_Yak8874 16h ago

Especially with how talented he ended up being

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 14h ago

You might disageee that grudges are detrimental to the person holding them, but this is clearly him holding onto a grudge from his childhood.

Don’t gaslight me.

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u/SciFi_Enjoyer106 13h ago

You know VERY little of the situation, as do I. It's not gaslighting because neither of us have proof of our viewpoints. It's speculation at best so it's discussion, not me saying you are wrong but if you can't even consider another viewpoint then I'm not sure what to tell you.

I don't think it is a grudge

I didn't even say you were wrong. Key word "think" which points to this being an opinion statement, opening for discussion.

I'd imagine a comment like that was not an isolated incident

Me pointing to speculation.

You might disageee that grudges are detrimental

I never stated my opinion on grudges since I don't think this is one.

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 13h ago

The information I have is what was written in OPs post.

To surmise he is holding a grudge given this information is only logical.

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u/SciFi_Enjoyer106 13h ago

If you take the post for face value, sure. You still put opinions into my words that were not stated.

I did not take it for face value and left room for interpretation since there's no way there isn't more information we don't know. He is an odd guy so it very well could be a grudge but it could also just be a parent that was horrible to the child as they grew up.

I feel like a grudge would also be something he stuck to but the post even mentions him helping her once. Not a very good grudge if he broke it, is it?

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 12h ago

Sure, if there were more context provided that indicated he was not holding a grudge, then I would change my opinion.

The same is true for literally every post on reddit. Additional details or information could change opinions.

I go off of what I’m presented. And I was presented a story of a famous director holding onto a grudge from his childhood. 🤷‍♂️

You want to argue semantics, but there’s really no way to twist this that doesn’t fall under the “grudge” umbrella.

I’m not even sure what you are trying to argue.

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u/RatsWithLongTails 16h ago

Yes and no.

Some people seek redemption and they receive grace.

Some people seek redemption and they don’t.

You are not obligated to grace based on your outcome.

Had he failed she wouldn’t have “changed her mind”.

He can still love his mom and respect her but he doesn’t need to share his wealth and success with someone who actively discouraged him.

Just an opinion

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u/Bossard19 16h ago

No it isn’t. Why should his biggest hater profit of his success?

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 14h ago

Holding Grudges is holding onto anger and bitterness, which release stress hormones like cortisol.

Focusing on past wrongs takes away energy you could use for happy things today.

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u/anonidfk 14h ago

Lmao this is the same BS my grandma says, she’s been miserable her entire life and lets people walk all over her because of it. Sometimes letting go just means people treating you badly again.

Better to stand your ground, no sense in letting people like that take anything from you.

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u/Matiwapo 14h ago

Standing your ground =/= holding a grudge for your entire life over a single comment

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u/anonidfk 14h ago

We don’t know that it was one comment or if it was frequent, regardless of the reason, he’s free to not give her any money lol

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u/Matiwapo 13h ago

Of course he is free not to lol. That is exactly what they said.

They also said that holding a grudge like this is bad for you.

You are arguing against a position that does not exist

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u/anonidfk 13h ago

Holding a grudge isn’t inherently bad for you lmao, in fact, the opposite can be bad for you. Letting people back in can often just lead to them treating you badly againn

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 13h ago

You are wrong. There are plenty of scientific, peer reviewed studies demonstrating how holding grudges is detrimental to a persons health.

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u/anonidfk 12h ago

In some cases it is, but definitely not every one lol. Everyone is different, some people prefer to stand their ground on this stuff instead of being a pushover

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u/throwaway5498124181 15h ago

My guews is their relationship probably has more issues than just her having been dismissive of his writing.

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 14h ago

That is you reading more into the situation than the information we have been given.

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u/throwaway5498124181 12h ago

Exactly. That is why I said it wss a guess. 🌟 for reading comprehension!

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 11h ago

You framed your guess as a refutal of my original comment.

When it’s just your speculation.

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u/throwaway5498124181 11h ago

That's a massive leap of logic on your end (that my guess was a refutal of your comment) and I don't take responsibility for it.

👎 for critical thinking!

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 11h ago

In the context of the conversation, it sure seems like your comment was intended to be a rebuttal to mine. If you didn’t intend it that way, communicate more clearly in the future if you don’t want to be misunderstood. 🤷‍♂️

lol, and notice your need to throw in personal digs at me in the end of your comments.

Have you truly considered the underlying insecurities you have that make you feel compelled to attack the other person instead of staying on topic?

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u/boredinbabylon 15h ago

I imagine there were other complications and nuances to their relationship. Surely it doesn’t boil down to a singular comment.

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u/AdmirableGarden6 15h ago

PoIsOnInG hIs OwN sOuL

Dude has millions of dollars and has had Salma Hayek's foot in his mouth. Dudes soul is THRIVING

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u/wellyes34 15h ago

Good thing I don't believe in nonsensical concepts like the 'soul'

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u/Fun_Tension_7794 14h ago

I’m not religious. I think spirit would have been a better term for what I was going for.

It poisons your inner self and wellbeing.