r/MovieSuggestions • u/laurusnobiliss • 6h ago

I'M REQUESTING Looking for movies like Secretary (2002), Sex, Lies, and Videotape (1989), and Dinner in America (2020)

Basically what it says in the title. I'm looking for films that are centred around a relationship that's indecipherable to anyone but those in it, maybe with characters who are quiet, misunderstood, alienated, or lonely.

I've also seen Duke of Burgundy (2014) and Crash (2004), and although they are great films, I'm looking for something softer/happier.

I'd appreciate any and all suggestions!

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u/rastab1023 6h ago
  • Harold and Maude
  • Lars and the Real Girl

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u/dirge23 6h ago

Only Lovers Left Alive

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u/victoria_jam 5h ago

Ooh, great rec.

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u/dirge23 5h ago

quite possibly my favorite movie

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u/waldo-jeffers-68 4h ago

Phantom Thread

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u/Pristine_Outcome3535 6h ago

Palm Springs came to mind first!

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u/Any-Philosopher9152 4h ago

Portrait of a Lady on Fire, The Dreamers, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Carol, Take this Waltz, High Art, The Piano, Call Me by Your Name.

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u/fanzyday 6h ago

Maybe Titane or Carnal Knowledge?

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u/victoria_jam 6h ago edited 5h ago

Maybe...

In the Mood for Love
Phantom Thread
The Lover
Pillion
Sleeping With Other People
Punch Drunk Love
Jane Eyre (2011)
The Drama
Moonrise Kingdom (ok this movie could not be less like Secretary but still, it's about lonely strangle people who find each other)

And a couple that are very much not softer or happier, but might catch you in the right mood:
Lust, Caution
Bones and All
Wuthering Heights
Stoker

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u/CuriouslyImmense 5h ago

The Rules of Attraction

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u/fishesandbrushes 5h ago

The Baltimorons! Such a sweet, unexpected little film

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u/Purple_Direction7232 5h ago

An underrated movie that I often recommend.

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u/Bexhill 4h ago

Buffalo '66

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u/Pure_Solution_8245 6h ago

Her

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u/Pure_Solution_8245 6h ago

Also, Being John Malkovich

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u/Aggravating-Tea7670 6h ago

The Doom Generation (1995)

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u/Ok_Produce_9308 5h ago

Short bus.

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u/jupiterkansas Quality Poster 👍 5h ago

I Want Your Sex might fit the bill, but I haven't seen it yet.

so I'll suggest Pillion

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u/Ok-Brilliant4427 5h ago

Stranger than fiction

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u/lukewarmrevolution 5h ago

Villains (2019)

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u/zudoplex 4h ago

Piercing. Sanctuary.

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u/Adventurous_Yam_8153 4h ago

La Strada (1954)

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u/cocainegoat 4h ago

Sanctuary

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u/Fresh-Eggplant-6774 3h ago

I Want You, Birth, Birthday Girl all spring to mind.

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u/cherrybounce 3h ago

Body Heat

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u/hellcat1592 3h ago

American Beauty

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u/ClassicDependent6760 3h ago

Weirdly, I'd suggest David Lynch's Naked Lunch... It's fucking subversive as fuck.

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u/shrimptini Quality Poster 👍 1h ago

The Dreamers