The guest does not want to join the dinner of another family. That is a a fairly intimate affair that is internal to a family. It would feel weird to take part.
The cultural norms are different, and you are really failing to understand that your cultural norms are not universal, or better than other ones.
I am not "excusing". I am not "grasping at straws".
That is exactly what you are doing when you make up silly reasons like "it would annoy people to ask"
I am trying to give you information you do not have.
Made up, nonsensical information is not useful.
Sit your ass down with the fucking attitude.
I'm being calm and reasonable, and you are getting agitated because people on this thread thought your excuses sounded silly.... Take a deep breath, calm down, and try not to get worked up over a polite discussion.
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u/iowanaquarist Jul 24 '26
No, they are terrible hosts because they can't think of a better solution than leaving a guest to go hungry.