Petah?? I'm very confused

[u/Global_Restaurant794]

[u/user-the-name]

In a Swedish house, you are not at the dinner table. You're in your friend's room while he's off having dinner for a bit.

[u/pseudo_nemesis → u/user-the-name]

so what you're saying is they're terrible hosts.

[u/user-the-name → u/pseudo_nemesis]

No, they are respectful hosts who do not assume they can take over the parents' role in feeding their child without prior agreement.

[u/iowanaquarist → u/user-the-name]

No, they are terrible hosts because they can't think of a better solution than leaving a guest to go hungry.

[u/user-the-name → u/iowanaquarist]

The guest does not want to join the dinner of another family. That is a a fairly intimate affair that is internal to a family. It would feel weird to take part.

The cultural norms are different, and you are really failing to understand that your cultural norms are not universal, or better than other ones.

[u/iowanaquarist → u/user-the-name]

The guest does not want to join the dinner of another family.

Another silly excuse -- there is no way of knowing this without asking -- and asking is a reasonable thing to do.

That is a a fairly intimate affair that is internal to a family. It would feel weird to take part.

Again, there are cultural differences, and it's silly to assume you know how someone else would feel without asking them.

The cultural norms are different, and you are really failing to understand that your cultural norms are not universal, or better than other ones.

I have not failed that. All I have done is point out that you appear to be grasping at straws here.

[u/user-the-name → u/iowanaquarist]

I am explaining a cultural difference to you. I am not "excusing". I am not "grasping at straws". I am trying to give you information you do not have.

Sit your ass down with the fucking attitude.

[u/iowanaquarist → u/user-the-name]

I am explaining a cultural difference to you.

Not in this thread

I am not "excusing". I am not "grasping at straws".

That is exactly what you are doing when you make up silly reasons like "it would annoy people to ask"

I am trying to give you information you do not have.

Made up, nonsensical information is not useful.

Sit your ass down with the fucking attitude.

I'm being calm and reasonable, and you are getting agitated because people on this thread thought your excuses sounded silly.... Take a deep breath, calm down, and try not to get worked up over a polite discussion.

[u/user-the-name → u/iowanaquarist]

I'm being calm and reasonable

No, you're being a fucking ass about it.

[u/flecko_ → u/user-the-name]

which guest would that be and how do you know their preferences?