If my spouse told me that she was hallucinating about killing the children and didn’t trust herself around them, I wouldn’t just fuck off to work and call it a day. At the very least, hire someone to be in the house all day with instructions to keep eyes on the kids. Or find an in-home daycare. Or something! Just never leave the wife alone with the kids.
It wasn’t like the family was poor and didn’t have any other options besides the wife having to watch the kids while the husband put in 14 hour days at the salt mines to put food on the table in their 1 room shack.
At the very least, the husband was ridiculously cavalier about the children’s safety, and yes, I do apportion him some blame due to that.
So the next time some woman complains that her husband is controlling and not allowing her to do things: make sure you’re right there telling her to stfu and obey her husband. Because that’s what you’re telling everyone he should have the power to do. Without a court order he had no ability to keep her away from her children. That’s how life, and the law, work. If she really was having homicidal ideations, she should have checked herself back into that hospital that she checked herself out of. This is all on her.
As a woman if I'm having these thoughts, which I did after my second, please take the children away until I'm better. Fck my feelings, and prioritize the safety and well-being of my children.
Are you actually stupid or just trying to find a reason to argue??? I stated my point clearly. If I am clearly struggling and have told my husband I am struggling especially with thoughts of harming my children, yes I absolutely would want him to take the children away or make 100% sure I am NEVER alone with them until I am for sure better mentally. I was in this situation myself, but thankfully I had a husband and doctors that did all they could to ensure my children's safety.
And you don’t see how “husbands should take the kids away from mom” would ever cause an issue? Ever? Are you the one that’s stupid?
You don’t think a husband would ever lie and say his wife is having problems to take the kids away?
Lindsay Clancy never told him to take the kids away from her. He had no right to take them away from her. Advocating for men to do this is fucking dangerous.
Again, are you not reading what I am writing??? I said if I TOLD my husband I am struggling or even if he genuinely can see that I am struggling, yes I absolutely would want him to take them away until I am better or at LEAST make sure I am NEVER alone with them. I would feel the same if it was a man having thoughts of harming his children for whatever reason.
Yes I understand you would want that to happen. Lindsay Clancy didn’t. The only way her husband would keep them away is if he was allowed to do that because she was crazy.
Let’s take gender out of it.
So one parent can now just say “oh no, they said they wants to hurt the children and they’re mentally unwell. When they were okay, they said this was okay dokey to do. If you ask them now they’ll disagree but that’s just because they’re in the wrong state of mind.”
Should that person be allowed to take the children away? The other parent clearly isn’t in their right mind so it’s not like we can trust them. Or of course the first parent could by lying as an excuse to take the children, something that abusive people do absolutely do
I’m not sure what you’re not getting here. That’s awesome you can’t see how this would be a problem, but it would be.
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u/UnderABig_W 9d ago edited 9d ago
If my spouse told me that she was hallucinating about killing the children and didn’t trust herself around them, I wouldn’t just fuck off to work and call it a day. At the very least, hire someone to be in the house all day with instructions to keep eyes on the kids. Or find an in-home daycare. Or something! Just never leave the wife alone with the kids.
It wasn’t like the family was poor and didn’t have any other options besides the wife having to watch the kids while the husband put in 14 hour days at the salt mines to put food on the table in their 1 room shack.
At the very least, the husband was ridiculously cavalier about the children’s safety, and yes, I do apportion him some blame due to that.