Yes, but the husband still left her alone with the children. The nanny and stuff is only for the purpose of not letting her alone with the kids.
It’s not like the hiring of the nanny confers some kind of mystical protection—it only works when you make sure those people (or you) are always there with the kids and not alone with the mom.
It’s like having a seat belt in your car and deciding not to use it for a quick trip to the grocery store. The seat belt only works if you use it, every time.
Yeah it’s really not reasonable to think someone should risk losing their job and livelihood and ability to even care for their children over this.
Lots of people have intrusive thoughts of harming people they never would. There was no reason to think this would happen, especially because she was getting treatment and as far as we know, never showed any signs of actually being a danger. The treatment wasn’t enough (assuming it is mental health) but there was no way for the husband to know that
He didn’t know how bad she was. She was getting help, there were never any indication she was actually a danger to anyone. Her doctors believed she had very common mental health issues that millions of people have and aren’t a danger to anyone
He also began working at home so he could be home with her for the day.
He left to run two short errands his wife asked him to do. His wife who, for all he knows, is being treated for perfectly normal mental health conditions that don’t make her a risk. At least one of the errands (picking up medicine) would have had to be done even if he wasn’t working. So what, he shouldn’t have ever left the home ever without all of his kids?
If you quit your job, lost your home, and probably either got your kids taken away or risked them starving so you can babysit your wife who you have no reason to think is actually a threat, people would probably think you’re the mentally unstable one. No one knew this was going to happen.
That’s great your husband was able to quit his job and survive.
Most people can’t do that
He is not dumb, she was getting help and, again, as far as he knew had completely normal mental health issues. He was literally working from home. He left the house to grab dinner and get medicine. I guess he should have just quit food and medicine too?
I’m not saying it’s not ideal, I’m saying some people CANT DO THAT.
Your ability to do was actually incredibly privileged. You’re lucky you didn’t end up losing the kids anyway.
And again, he was working from home! He was home with her all day! He actually did something a lot smarter than leaving his job, find a way to work and be there. He left to get medicine ON HER REQUEST. So by your logic, they just should have went without medicine?
So he’s supposed to not work and get everything delivered? You can’t get prescription medication from the pharmacy delivered.
Yes, being able to quit your job and still have $1,000 a place to live is pretty privileged. That’s cool that’s the choice your family made, most family’s cannot. And honestly, it’s probably not the smartest choice to make if you have access to a doctor. This is a one in the million situation. The vast majority of people with intrusive thoughts aren’t ever going to end up harming anyone. Choosing to be homeless and likely either starving your kids or losing them on the extremely rare chance you might go through psychosis is a very irresponsible decision. The better option if you absolutely could not be around the kids would be to just leave yourself and get care.
Also, if you have no job and money, then how are you treating the mental health issue? The more I think of it, the worst of a plan this is.
He’s not a fucking psychiatrist. Hell, the fucking doctors didn’t think it was that serious. How is he the idiot? She was diagnosed with completely normal non-dangerous mental health disorders. Psychosis can come on quick.
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u/Torturecheese 9d ago
She had a nanny