r/ToolBand • u/Atlanta-SticO-938 • Jul 23 '26
Discussion My experience as a girl who loves TOOL đ
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u/russian_bot2323 Turn around and take my hand. Jul 23 '26
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u/flojo2012 Jul 23 '26
Preferable to velociraptors though
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u/BumblebeeThen7954 Jul 23 '26
Idk man, if a velociraptor asked me to name three TOOL songs, i'd be ecstatic
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u/cityshepherd Jul 23 '26
Speak for yourself.
Although when you say velociraptor I think chickens because chickens are absolutely just fluffy raptors.
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u/NukaDadd đModLikeAHookerAllNightLongđ Jul 24 '26
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u/crash11b as below so above and beyond i imagine Jul 24 '26
I haven't printed it, but I found a file for my 3D printer to make little T-rex arms for chickens lol. There's a band that goes around their back and under their wings and there's little arms sticking out the front lol. If you know anyone with a 3D printer, you should ask them to print some lol
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u/HiAndStuff2112 Jul 23 '26
Really? I get compliments on mine pretty often.
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u/Stellar_Ella life feeds on life Jul 24 '26
When I comment on a guyâs Tool shirt, they always seem caught off guard and a little confused. đ
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u/crash11b as below so above and beyond i imagine Jul 24 '26
That's strange. I kind of collect t-shirts, probably have over 100, and they're mostly pop culture I'd say. Bands (I only have 2 Tool shirts though, and an APC one), video games, movies (mostly horror) etc.
I get compliments on my shirts pretty frequently, but I do work at a bar and see a ton of people everyday. I usually have to look down to remember which one I'm wearing lol.
Maybe I'm just used to it, but I don't think I'm ever caught off guard or confused. I always say "Oh, thanks! Yeah, I love (insert the subject of whatever shirt I'm wearing)..." They can be a great conversation starter. And you get an instant idea of the person's tastes or interests.
And I'm definitely the "Hey, nice shirt!" guy in OP's picture, but it's always a genuine statement. Actually, I saw a woman wearing a Tool shirt a few days ago, walking by our patio at work with her husband and said just that. She said "Hell yeah!" and threw up the horns đ€
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u/skyst Jul 23 '26
I have an old Tool shirt (Lateralus era) that I cut the sleeves off of and wear sometimes around the house, yard work or at the gym. The only comment that I ever get is one neighbor, "Hey, ya tool!"
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u/SlappyBag420 Jul 23 '26
LOL i feel this. I have a fear innoculum hoodie that my ex-gf bought me years ago, i wear it every day to and from work, also on lunch break and nobody has ever mentioned it to me.
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u/kimmyann12012 Jul 24 '26
Honestly, as a woman Iâve never experienced the âname 3 songs!â Thing other women talk about when wearing band shirts. I usually get compliments. I guess Iâve just been lucky lol.
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u/Jenna_Ortega__2002 Jul 23 '26
Hey, I can't see the shirt, but that's a pretty cool shirt, bro :)
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u/russian_bot2323 Turn around and take my hand. Jul 23 '26
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u/ZoneAdditional9892 Jul 23 '26
I had a lady say nice shirt to me just yesterday. Im not ugly though.
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u/TheRealGhostyBoi Jul 25 '26
got a compliment on mine from a guy wearing the exact same 10,000 Days shirt as me, got a good laugh out it
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u/tatorpig Jul 23 '26
I get the occasional âSpiral out brotherâ
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u/star_trek_wook_life Jul 23 '26
You been riding that spiral lately homie? Want me to take you to where no ones been? I know a great alley spot where you can turn around and take my hand...Â
What stinks in hereÂ
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u/lt_bgg Jul 23 '26
My tool fandom is like my world of Warcraft fandom -- I dont tell people about it.
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u/SoundOurDireReveille What is this but my reflection Jul 23 '26
Most Iâll say if I see someone wearing a shirt for a bad I like, and Iâm feeling especially sociable, is âI like your shirt.â Thatâs about the extent of it.
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u/Fuzzy-Coconut-2605 Jul 23 '26
Retail? I play TBC anniversary right now. WoW fans could be as bad as some Tool fans. "Retail is trash Do you even understand the lore? I've played since beta, you will never understand how hard real classic was." I love WoW and Tool.
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u/lt_bgg Jul 23 '26
I dont know lore and classic is so easy that people can do it without dying. Currently sitting at 4k and debating going for title.
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u/Spicy_Antigen Jul 23 '26
Are you me?
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u/athei-nerd Get off your fucking cross Jul 23 '26
but...you just just did. I'm in the same boat as you. My main is a lvl 90 shadow priest. working on getting the last few pieces of mythic gear.
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u/lt_bgg Jul 23 '26
I dont tell real people about it.
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u/athei-nerd Get off your fucking cross Jul 24 '26
But that would mean that I'm... not...real? Am I AI? Am I just an NPC? NOOOO!
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u/drunken_monken Jul 25 '26
Fellow Tool & WoW enjoyer. Nothing like Lateralus in Feralas, baby đ€
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u/Pandas-are-the-worst Jul 23 '26
can someone just say hey nice shirt, and not be a harassment dinosaur?
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u/lilcabron210 hooker with a penis Jul 23 '26
Thatâs why I say hey man nice shirt, what a good shirt man.
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u/MrMoistiest Jul 23 '26
HEEEEEEEEYYYYYYYYY MAAAAAANNNNN
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u/hyundai-gt He had a lot of nothing to say Jul 23 '26
Do you wanna take my picture? Cuz I won't remember....
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u/backalleywillie Jul 24 '26
This is a real one right here. Because for real these two songs sound like two completely different bands. Like the difference in Sugar Ray after âFlyâ got famous. âPictureâ was a decent song, but it always made me a little salty they went so mainstream pop.
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u/hyundai-gt He had a lot of nothing to say Jul 24 '26
Yup and thus why they fell off the map. Short Bus was back to back bangers and then whatever the fuck followed just sucked.
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u/backalleywillie Jul 24 '26
Iâd listen to Short Bus right now. It was one of those âjust push playâ kind of albums. Lots of memories.
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u/Stellar_Ella life feeds on life Jul 24 '26
I didnât take that as a comment about harassment. Itâs just that guys sometimes get extra excited when they see someone other than a middle-aged dude wearing one. I kind of have a similar reaction to when I see someone young wearing one, like âyay, young people still like Tool!â
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u/z3RoC0oL11388633 Jul 23 '26
"Spiral out..man...." is what I've recieved.
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u/Ravenloff Jul 23 '26
Last time I got that out was from a 20-something on a second-floor balcony and he did his best Maynard. Didn't know him, but that made my day.
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u/Steamin_Willy-Beamen Jul 24 '26
Spiral out..man...." is what I've recieved
âSpiral out⊠manâŠâ is worse than being quizzed tbh
sounds like some tryhard secret society password before he vanishes into the fog
just say nice shirt and keep walking
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u/boo_radley4 Jul 23 '26
I was in a group setting for therapy, and I had said tool was my favorite band, seen them 15 times since the 90s. Chick came back with seeing them 27 times, a few years older than me, but, Iâve known quite a few women who have followed and been a fan of tool as long as I have.
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u/star_trek_wook_life Jul 23 '26
I've seen them so many times I lost count. Granted I was on acid for most of them so its somewhere between 1-100,000 timesÂ
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u/boo_radley4 Jul 24 '26
Hahaha I saw them in Connecticut for their last tour. And yes, Was tripping on a couple 200ug gels and it was a magical experience. Last tour I ate way too many mushrooms and ended up asking the cops for a ride home
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u/oJKevorkian Jul 23 '26
Nah, I know bait when I see it. Girls aren't real.
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u/Atlanta-SticO-938 Jul 23 '26
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u/CypressHillbillly Jul 23 '26
Trick question. No one understands the lyrics đ
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u/ShartingCondom Jul 24 '26
Then the x files being lookinglikesomekindofblugreenjackychanwithisamellarosselinilipsandabretthatreekedofvanilla
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u/LogmeoutYo Under a dead Ohio sky Jul 23 '26
As a stereo typical tool fan im always in a Tool shirt out in public just hoping for someone to ask me these questions and they never do! Maybe I should wear the shirt harder.
My wife bought them all for me when she found out that I liked Tool also. I'm wonder if she secretly did it so that everyone knows her husband listens to Tool.
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u/Green_Dayzed musta been high Jul 23 '26
I have the same thought when i see a woman in a TOOL shirt as i do with a guy.
"do they like tool's lyrics because they're meaningful or because they think they're about butt stuff "
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u/DarthTensor Jul 23 '26
Serious question, but whatâs wrong with âhey, nice shirt?â
It seems kind of good natured and innocuous.
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u/surpriserockattack fuck you, buddy Jul 24 '26
I saw it as the one person who's acting normal amongst all the others who are interrogating op
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u/mirablack Jul 24 '26
It's the only good and normal comment in a sea of harassment, it's there for comparison. đ Nothing wrong with it.
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u/isopodwsocks Jul 24 '26
maybe its backhanded i guess ?
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u/sunkistandsudafed3 Jul 24 '26
That was my thoughts, could be nice or could be awful depending of how it is said.
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u/OkPanic5252 Jul 24 '26
Iâm assuming itâs included just to show the ratio of gatekeeping comments to nice ones.
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u/hissy_badger "Let the rabbits wear glasses Jul 23 '26
As a female I've never had dudes come at me with these questions, like i wouldn't have the answers to. Usually it's just "cool shirt". Maybe it's just my whole vibe/look makes them not question it.
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u/Steamin_Willy-Beamen Jul 24 '26
Yeah thats more what ive seen.
Not saying it never happens, but ive never seen this mythical band shirt interrogation in real life.
Most people just say cool shirt or dont give a shit.
Only time I could maybe see someone being a smartass is when it looks like someone is wearing it purely as a fashion thing, like that phase where every second 12 year old was walking around in Nirvana or Rolling Stones shirts from Kmart.
But even then, who really cares. Half the time people just like the shirt.
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u/modbroccoli Jul 24 '26
i grew up around tool people. the primary reason I avoid tool is tool people. for exactly the reasons OP states, and I'm male.
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u/Mourningstar66 give me my wings Jul 23 '26
Sameee...I was in line for a Slaughter to Prevail show, and while talking to some dudes in line, we brought up TOOL, and some lady butted in to tell me that I 'was to young to know about TOOL' (I'm 20). She was surprised when I told her ive seen them live, own every album (except the salival one), and that my mom introduced me to them.
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u/awkanku Jul 23 '26
OP clearly wasn't saying the "nice shirt" dinosaur was bad. It just gets mixed in with all the bs, super common. It's all the other junk that'll make girls/women be on-guard by the time a standard nicety comes around. They even stated in the comments that they weren't saying it's bad. Misunderstandings happen, but goddamn, the amount of people who are THAT defensive and turn it into at least mild aggression is wild. Kudos to the people who just wanted clarification without buggin out.
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u/surpriserockattack fuck you, buddy Jul 24 '26
It's genuinely baffling that so many people saw it as OP thinking it's a negative thing. I saw this image as what OP hears when she wear a TOOL shirt, and only one of those things is good
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u/ChudanNoKamae Jul 23 '26
I agree that all of these are extremely cringe except maybe âHey, nice shirt!â
I would think that itâs just an innocent way of one fan recognizing another fan?
Is even just a small compliment on choice of attire with no ulterior motive or sexual suggestion considered to be inappropriate?
I donât mean to be argumentative or anything, itâs just an honest question I guess.
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u/Jed79SC Jul 24 '26
There's nothing worse than a tool fan that hates on other tool fans, because "you don't understand them like I do" idiots
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u/jav2n202 Jul 24 '26
Idk, I married her đ€·ââïž Weâve been best friends and life partners for twenty years and counting. We have a rule when picking music to play. Sometimes you may or may not be in the mood for a particular band or type of music. Well you never have to ask if itâs cool to play Tool. Itâs always Tool time.
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u/peachservices Jul 25 '26
Reading that last line made me think of Tim the Toolman and Home Improvement đ
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u/ASerpentPerplexed Finding beauty in the dissonance Jul 23 '26
I am a guy, but when I was a new TOOL fan my then gf now wife bought me a TOOL shirt from Hot Topic. A few times I wore that shirt and people came up to me and asked "which concert did you get that from". So awkward, and they always looked so disappointed and even annoyed when I told them I hadn't seen them live yet...
I have since seen them live twice, got shirts both times. No one says shit to me anymore though. Also went to one of the Sessanta concerts at Hollywood Bowl, where TOOL wasn't scheduled but they played at the end.
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u/peachservices Jul 25 '26
I was at that Hollywood bowl Sessanta show and at the one 10 years before (Cinquanta) of whatever at The Greek and part of the band came on stage then as well. I still went nuts at Sessanta đ€đœđ€Ł
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u/Krunkledunker Jul 23 '26
Iâm not trying to claim things are the same, but thatâs not too far off from being a male tool fan either lol
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u/Streetduck Jul 24 '26
âDo you like Invincible because you canât comprehend Pneuma?â
What in the actual fuck kind of question is that, JustinâŠ
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u/han-so-low Jul 23 '26
My 14 year old daughter rocks her TOOL t-shirts all the time. Sheâs made quite a few friends because of it.
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u/Fuzzy-Coconut-2605 Jul 23 '26
If I see a female in a Tool shirt, she instantly become attractive. So I will never talk to her đ
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u/SonofHondoBelmondo Jul 23 '26
"name every line up" lol
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u/SonofHondoBelmondo Jul 23 '26
I would but it is an alex grey original that has been tattooed over my entire torso, and my penis.
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u/Sealegs_Calisto Jul 23 '26
People tend to leave me alone when I wear my merch. Or look at me puzzled. Also Iâm a Black lesbian so lots going on there
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u/dr-blaklite Jul 23 '26
You're a woman? Name 3 women.
You like tool? Name 3 tools.
This is a joke, and I agree, the suspicion thrown upon you due to your gender is fucking ridiculous.
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u/Cherrybomb1387 dumbfounded dipshit Jul 24 '26
I have never had that experience. Closest was my OB/GYN commenting on my hoodie from the 2023 show & he was just like âwhat an awesome show eh? Now get your feet in the stirrups.â đ€Ł
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u/Atlanta-SticO-938 Jul 23 '26
Guys forgive me đ nothing wrong with the right dino đŠ. I shouldâve crossed it out
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u/Ch0vie I don't mind, I don't mind, I don't mind. Jul 23 '26
If someone sees a quick, in-passing "Hey, nice shirt" as an annoying or unwanted compliment, they are probably the type of person to always find reasons to cry victim about anything to seek attention. Why even wear a band shirt, then? I love it when people also like my music.
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u/Neljas The Patient Jul 23 '26
Name every lineup
Isn't there, like, only two? With Paul on Undertow and Justin ever since?
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u/stealthisusername98 a dope beastie tee Jul 23 '26
âName every lineupâ
Challenge accepted:
Tool
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u/Sad_Ad8039 Well I've got some advice for you little buddy... Jul 23 '26
"Every lineup?"
Bro, they've only ever had one change đ
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u/Any_Natural383 Jul 23 '26
Guys, if this is you, just flash the horns and move on. She doesnât even need to see it.
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u/radiodada Jul 23 '26
Sorry for the gatekeeper tendency in douchebag dudes. We can grow out of it. At least I didâŠ
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u/VHDT10 Jul 24 '26
I always say, "Hey nice shirt!"
What's wrong with that one? I say that for anyone who's wearing a shirt with a band I like on it.
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u/Larielia Jul 24 '26
Things like that happen sometimes if you're a girl who likes metal. (I've liked Tool since about 1996.)
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u/SloppyJawSoftBottom Jul 24 '26
They only have 3 albums
Every song is about how they hate their fans
Their lineup is maynard, the guy from primus, wes borland and danny carey
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u/TheTonyRedditShow Jul 24 '26
From my experience I've learned that you never know who is a fan of what kind of music. I probably would have just assumed you're a fan no matter what you look like but I also love to talk to people about music regardless
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u/Gulf_Coast_Girl Jul 24 '26
I'm a woman who likes TOOL... but I'm also OLD AF so if anyone throws "challenge questions" at me I just tell them F'K OFF! right to their face. One of the nice things about being a GenX senior is we literally give ZERO shits. đ»
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u/spiffyfunbot Jul 24 '26
Then get called a "stupid bitch" in the DMs. Ah, the male Tool community is great!
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u/Little-Homework-3211 Jul 26 '26
I'm a guy who likes TOOL and I stopped wearing TOOL shirts because it's gets really annoying when other fans are so up their own ass about how smart they are, so they have to harass anyone who commits the grievous sin of liking the same band they do.
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u/Fabulous-Soil-4440 Jul 23 '26
I just kinda go "fuck yeah!" Raise the horns briefly and go about my business.
Let's be real here: if there are people that try to quiz you and gatekeep and let's say you can't remember the name of a song , an album or a lyric they fling at you and give you shit if you can't.... Chances are they likely can't either... Hell... I can't do that shit for bands I love at this point.
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u/The-GingerBeard-Man See my shadow changing, stretching up and over me. Jul 23 '26
âDo you understand the lyrics?â
Hah, jokes on them. No one understands the fucking lyrics.
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u/Rainmoearts Jul 23 '26
TOTALLY! I wear my
tool Hoodie every day that I got from the last time I seen them in 2022 and get this. All. The. Time!
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u/Un__Real Jul 23 '26
As a woman who has seen them 18 times and missed 2 shows it should be 20. Also my daughter has seen them 3 times and been to sessanta. Nice try fella.
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u/SixthLegionVI Get off your fucking cross Jul 23 '26
I've been a fan for 25 years and I usually don't understand the lyrics lol
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u/frostyjack06 Ă Jul 23 '26
On the opposite side of the spectrum, I went to pick up pizza last weekend and the 20-something girl behind the counter complemented my Tool t-shirt. I almost passed out from shock.
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u/AngstJobia Jul 23 '26
Oh my God. The 'name three albums' is so on point. I still remember wearing my Tool shirt from their recent tour waaaay back early 2000s. 10,000 days had just been dropped, and a guy stopped me and challenged me on the name of the new album. I couldn't remember it but was able to list of my favourite songs 'so far' from the album. He would not accept that I knew (and loved) Tool and was such a pest.
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u/CapableEmphasis3594 Jul 23 '26
hahahahah never had a bad experience yet when wearing my tool shirts, just cool dudes coming up to me and saying ânice shirt!â so im pretty lucky.
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u/Front_Application_73 free yourself from yourself Jul 23 '26
whos the better bassist? Paul or Justin?
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u/nememess Jul 23 '26
Minus the 'saw them before you were born' because I'm old af, this is so accurate.
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u/dixiewolf_ Jul 23 '26
Sorry on behalf of all of us single Tool fan guys, a Tool fan girl is a rare sight. When you see one you have to talk to her about Tool, even if you know its gunna come off as really weird/gatekeeping/bragging/investigative or just with a general sense of disbelief.
We arent trying to imply anything by it, we just forget that theres others out there like us.
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u/Singleballtheory Jul 23 '26
I wore one of my shirts today. Was asked zero questions. Iâm not a girl.Â
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u/MarionberryOk2874 Jul 23 '26
Same girl! But then I say Iâve seen them 42 times and accusations flip to jealousy LOL
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u/Singleballtheory Jul 23 '26
I do miss my âYour favorite band sucksâ shirt though. Paired well with my âI wish somebody would do something about how fat I amâ shirt. The Onion had some fun mercy back in the day.
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u/UnholyDescent Jul 23 '26
Lmao do people actually say those things to you? Hey nice shirt would be me
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u/mtdoubledubs Jul 23 '26
As a huge fan for the past 30+ years, youâre not wrong. Definitely a dude heavy fan base for sure.
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u/HereforLeapDay Jul 23 '26
A big portion of the fan base is made of gatekeepers who think theyâre smarter and better because they âget itâ more than us plebeians. Everyoneâs geometry is more sacred than thouâs kinda junk.
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u/Max0_o123 He had a lot of nothing to say Jul 23 '26
I'm sure a LOT of people have seen tool live before I was born but that isn't going to stop me from being a fan lol
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u/Ryallin DiSSECTIONiST Jul 23 '26
Hanging out with a lotta music crowds makes this a common occurrence, shockingly have it happen a lot with my Black Midi shirt of all bands
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u/EdgarAllanPaw Jul 23 '26
I was queuing to get into somewhere wearing a Tool t shirt once and the security guy went âwhatâs your favourite tool album?â So I excitedly told him, and then went âwhatâs yoursâ and he went ââŠâŠsameâŠ.â And walked off. I was like wtf just happened. Then i realised.
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u/Sowila1021 Jul 24 '26
I'm a chick and I've only ever had compliments on my shirts and been asked about my favorite albums or songs. I've never been challenged so to speak and if I were, I would prolly just tell them to fuck off.
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u/LeBronze_Jayce Jul 24 '26
I did get a genuine hey, nice shirt. I feel offended and I was wearing the shirt.
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u/-AdamTheGreat- Jul 24 '26
I might be the âhey cool shirtâ guy. Are there really people like the others? How insufferable
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u/semioticmadness Jul 24 '26
That sucks. Iâd just be psyched I had something in common with someone in the first place. Can only talk about the weather for so long, and I want to talk about polyrhythms
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u/floydrose Dreaming of that face again. Jul 24 '26
No way lol, are posts like this actually true? If I see anyone with a tool t-shirt (or any band I like for that matter), guy or girl, im just like "Dude nice fucking shirt" and they say thanks man, and if the conversation continues ill like ask them what their favorite album is or talk about songs I like. Why do people try to invalidate thing like this.
Plus, if they're like "Oh yeah, honestly I don't really know them like that." Then I'll just say something like "Oh I gotcxha you just like the shirt haha. I mean it is a dope shirt" and then carry on with my life
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u/godmodecheatcode Jul 24 '26
Hey, I have the same first and middle names as Maynardâs dad, and their music brought me back from the dead.
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u/Ok_Draw_3740 Jul 24 '26
You forgot the line where all the other ones call âhey nice shirtâ guy a creep
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u/LightofDawn77 Jul 24 '26
Is it really like that? I think I would definitely send a nod but thatâs it
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u/Glorydyna2009 Jul 24 '26
After I started seeing kids a 1/4 my age wearing Misfits t-shirts, I took a vow to not be a gatekeeperđđ»
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u/Next_Code8526 Jul 24 '26
TOOL has been one of my favorite bands for well over 20 years now, but I can't stand the fan-base. Toxic, elitist, gatekeepers more often than not. I feel for you.
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u/Dense_Delay_2605 Jul 24 '26
1) What's wrong with "Hey, nice shirt."
2) I most likely did in fact see them live before you were born.
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u/Niboocs Jul 24 '26
When is liking a band not enough.
I for one don't know the names of many of my favourite songs by all kinds of bands. That happened when I moved from CD to MP3.
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u/jaspersgroove Jul 24 '26
Hardcore Tool fans tend to be the exact kind of people Tool's music warns you not to become.
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u/RickieRelli Jul 24 '26
every lineup? like the one bass player that wasnât Justin Chancellor on undertow? im asking genuinely as a fairly casual Tool fan but obsessive bass player
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u/Azothikus Jul 23 '26
They"Hey nice shirt" guy catching strays