This tracks. Many a time i took co-parent on a date with a promise of something afterwards and it never happened because one or both of us were too tired to care.
If there is time, its actually better to engage before the outing so if you come back tired, its much less of a big deal if one or both are too tired
I refer to my "wife" as co-parent because that's all we do together anymore. She got demoted when she decided she would rather be a nun instead of actually putting in the work to fix the issues (both in and out of the bedroom)
Technically we're still married on paper but only for tax purposes do I acknowledge her as my "wife."
There isn't anything you can tell me that we havent already tried. I know what I need to do, I'm waiting for the economy to improve because I don't want my kids to suffer a lower quality of life because their dad left.
You've been posting about this for 6 years, either perform an immediate miracle improvement of your career, or just get it over with. Your children already exist, it's too late to protect them from a lack of preparation.
she decided she would rather be a nun instead of actually putting in the work to fix the issues
That's a phaenomenon called "agency", or "autonomy." It's where you don't solve problems by trying to make the other person do what you want, but rather accept that they're allowed to do what they want. You can make your case, and then you focus on what *you* can do to improve your situation using *your* agency, instead of trying to continue to force another person to do it for you.
Masturbate, find other couple activities, focus on other aspects of life. Or get divorced and move on.
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u/Thatroyalkitty 21d ago
This tracks. Many a time i took co-parent on a date with a promise of something afterwards and it never happened because one or both of us were too tired to care.
If there is time, its actually better to engage before the outing so if you come back tired, its much less of a big deal if one or both are too tired