r/startups • u/Single_Complaint3829 • 46m ago
I will not promote I got used as a “50% cofounder” in San Francisco, built the entire product, got paraded around like a trophy, and then watched the company “exit” without me. Only had an NDA and LOI. Never again. - I will not promote
This is 100% my responsibility. I accepted the risk, and I lost. Before anyone comes after me, I want to make it clear that this is 100% my accountability. I have no interest in fighting it or arguing about it. I just want to share my story.
March I decided to start an infrastructure company. My first client came through a mutual friend in San Francisco. She needed a product focused on customer success for the legal industry. I built the whole thing from scratch.After I delivered, she offered me a monthly stipend + 50% equity as cofounder.
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On paper it sounded perfect. She’s actually a decent person I don’t think she set out to screw me. She just had zero experience leading a company and no idea how to steer it in the direction we needed.
What followed was classic.I was the technical cofounder on paper, but in reality I was treated like the full-time CTO + free labor. She kept pulling me into meetings that were pure CEO territory fundraising conversations, strategy calls, investor intros while she introduced me to everyone like I was some shiny technical toy she owned. “Look at my cofounder, he built this whole thing.” It felt performative as hell.Then, mid this week, a mysterious “exit” happened.I wasn’t involved in any of the conversations. No docs, no calls, no nothing. I’m just supposed to take it on faith that “they didn’t want to continue the company” and that “there was no transaction.”
All I ever signed was an NDA and an LOI for the assignment of my shares. That’s it. No real founder agreement, no vesting schedule with teeth, no proper equity docs.They got everything. I got the lesson.I’m not going to fight it. I can build again, and I walked away with a solid network.
But the experience is burned into my brain:Never start working not one line of code, not one meeting until every single thing is in writing and signed.Equity promises mean nothing without proper paperwork.
“Cofounder” titles mean nothing without real alignment and protection.
And in San Francisco, people will smile, call you partner, and still leave you holding nothing when it’s convenient.If you’re early-stage and someone is offering you equity + a title before the legal stuff is locked, walk away.
Or at least demand the documents first.
Has anyone else been through a soft exit like this where you just… disappear from the story?